Stillbirth

[Patrick's mummy]

Dear all
A very dear friend of mine had a stillborn baby this morning. I am at a loss as to what I can do for her. If anyone on this list has had this experience, I'd be grateful to hear what you found comforting.
With love
Sarah

[hedgehogs4]

Sarah - I am so sorry for your friend and for you who love her. A close friend of mine lost her baby and i sent her this book. She said it was very helpful - she lives across the country - if i was closer i would have cooked, cleaned, did laundry whatever.

[Patrick's mummy]

Thanks Amanda. I live close to her so when her dh is back at work and so on, I'll offer some practical help and maybe do her an evening meal a few times a week to ease the burden a bit. I just can't believe it.

[NullSet]

Here's a great thread in the loss area:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=130836

Explains a lot of nice things that will be much appreciated. I think the most important thing is to acknowledge her baby. Don't just pretend her pregnancy and birth didn't happen. She had a baby, a real person. Even if he/she isn't here they are still a person. That's what bothered me the most, when people would just pretend like nothing happened.

[iamama]

Remember to call her and be there for her around all holidays.

[Mimi]

Sit with her, let her cry, sometimes there's just no need to talk.
go for a walk with her, make sure she gets out of the house, but go to a place with few/no children.
I am so sorry.