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post #41 of 213
I've let my daughter have a drop of beer or wine off of my finger. My DD comes from a long line of homebrewers. I want her to learn to respect the process and to develop her palette.

Because of her allergies we are always telling her no about something or other. A drop of alcohol is much less trouble for her than a drop of peanut butter or milk.
post #42 of 213
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Originally Posted by BaBaBa View Post
Totally fine.

Alcoholism isn't caused by early exposure to alcohol. If that were true all of Europe would be alcoholics.


If I was drinking to excess on a regular basis I probably would not give her sips (and I would be setting a bad example anyway) but it is occasional and with meals and I certainly do not want her to think it is a big deal. I totally let her have sips.
post #43 of 213
No. I have alcoholics in my family and my husband has some in his. There is no way I would give my kids alcohol. My husband has the occasional glass of wine, but I don't drink at all. I don't think alcohol is good for growing bodies. When they're legal adults, they can choose for themselves. For now I choose no.
post #44 of 213
- No -

DH and I don't drink so we don't even have the stuff in the house.
post #45 of 213
My girls are almost 9, 6 and 2. They have all had sips at some point. The oldest thinks it's "sour" and has no desire to try it anymore. My middle and youngest like beer. They occasionally get a sip. It's not really a big deal for us.
I grew up getting a sip here or there, but not really liking it. I was also allowed glasses of wine as I got toward older teens for special occasions like holidays, etc. I come from a family that drinks socially, but thankfully doesn't have any alcoholic tendencies.
post #46 of 213
I didn't let the big kids when they were little now at 15 & 13 they do. The 13 yo not so much It is allowed here.

i give my lo bach remedies for teething and it has alcohol in it. I am kinda paranoid about that. Mw says it is ok I am just afraid because dh has a drinking problem!

I am here in Europe and I know tons of people with alcohol problems btw!
post #47 of 213
I don't have a problem with a sip here and there. I would not give them their own glass or own bottle of beer, but a sip from mine once or twice a year? Sure! I don't like making things forbidden.
post #48 of 213
No way in hell.
Not in a million years.
post #49 of 213
I grew up in a household where I was allowed to have a tiny (are they called brandy glasses?) filled with wine. The special glass was as much of a draw as the alcohol was. However, I have always liked the taste of wine and I will agree that *with me* the exposure to this forbidden fruit worked. (Although my parents will be the first to tell you that they just did it to shut me up ). It was never more than once a week and it was never more than what would amount to a few baby sips. Now that I have a family of my own, this doesn't come up. I don't really drink wine anymore since I've been nursing for about 5 years (I know a glass here and there is not a big deal), but my husband also has health issues and does not drink, and I'm way to cheap to buy the good stuff.
post #50 of 213
no way!!

peace
jen
post #51 of 213
No.

As a child, my parents drank frequently and I was permitted sips from their drinks. In fact, I was encouraged sips from their drinks and when I tasted it and thought it was disgusting and looked sick - I was laughed at... by them and whoever was at our house at the time.

We don't have alcohol in our house on a regular basis, but even if we did I would not permit a child to sip from it.

Take care,
El
post #52 of 213
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Originally Posted by BaBaBa View Post
Totally fine.

Alcoholism isn't caused by early exposure to alcohol. If that were true all of Europe would be alcoholics.

I'd give DD a sip of wine before I ever gave her a sip of a soft drink or fruit drink. YKWIM?
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post #53 of 213
I'm shocked by the amount of people that see this as acceptable. It's illegal, it is a substance that damages our bodies and can cause terrible addiction. There is no way I want to expose my children and help them generate a taste for it over the years. I do come from a home where alcohol was NEVER consumed by my parents, nor smoking or drugs...so maybe it is just the setting I was raised in.


I'm with the people who mentioned it being risky with CPS...it seems they like to attack the "responsible parents" while the ones who are abusive and neglectful right out in the open seem to be passed over. Is a forbidden fruit at 3-15 years old really worth loosing your kids over? Are you comfortable enough with your decision do it or mention it in front of athorities who had that power? You never know who your child is talking to, or who that person is talking to. I don't think we wanted alcohol to not be a "forbidden fruit" is going to stand up in court...or it was only A SIP once a week...or on occasion


As an adult we have the responsibility to choose for ourselves. Giving a small child that kind of responsibility because they WANT it is obsurd...I"m sure they'd like to play with knives and guns too especially if mama and daddy were doing it on a regular basis...but it's not safe, so you don't let them do it with the real thing, you would offer them a safe, and legal alternative. Sure the risk of those things are immediate, and alcohol sipping may not be immediate but it is a risk.

I do agree with the other poster who mentioned about pop being just as bad. and think that the processed foods, and sugar loaded food that we consume on a everyday basis is way worse for their health than giving them a sip of alcohol on occasion...but it is breaking the law and possibly steering them onto the wrong course. No one can know that they aren't setting them up for alcoholism, just because it doesn't run in the family. There aren't many studies out there on how much alcohol is okay for a 3 year old or what the effects on their little bodies it has. I guess I see as erring on the side of caution as the best choice, and teaching them the effects of alcohol has can make people really sick (for life, not just drunk) and their bodies are too small to know what is safe.

I don't mean to attack anyone, I strongly disagree and wanted to share my reasons why.
post #54 of 213
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And, it is also sending signals to your kids that breaking the law is ok, and we don't care about the law. That's very bad aswell.
post #55 of 213
Actually, in many states it is completely legal for a parent to provide alcohol to their child, either at home or in public. I know it is in mine.

That said, coming up my brother and I were allowed to "dip a finger" into my parents' cocktails. My kids have always been allowed to have a sip (I tend to stick with wine), though they rarely have. My son (16 at the time) had a half glass of bubbly New Years. He is generally pretty opposed to drinking, though. My daughter has no interest.
post #56 of 213
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Originally Posted by sweetiee View Post
I would say no. It is illigal to buy or consume under ae 21 so I feel parents should stick to that. I would not allow a child a puff of a cigarette either.
Good point! Why make smoking "forbidden fruit"? Do the parents who give their kids a sip of their drinks also let them have a puff of a cigarette?

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Originally Posted by Masel View Post
I've let my daughter have a drop of beer or wine off of my finger. My DD comes from a long line of homebrewers. I want her to learn to respect the process and to develop her palette.
She can't develop her palette starting at 21?

It just blows my mind as I don't even let my kids drink pop.... although I'd give them a hundred pops before a sip of alcohol.

I do think it is confusing - the illegal aspect. How do you explain that to kids?
post #57 of 213
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Good point! Why make smoking "forbidden fruit"? Do the parents who give their kids a sip of their drinks also let them have a puff of a cigarette?
IMO there's no such thing as responsible smoking, and smoking has no benefits. Alcohol is fine in moderation and has health benefits.
post #58 of 213
I do.
post #59 of 213
i guess this is personal preference.

i am also with letting my dd try a sip. i dont drink so it isnt even an issue with me.

but there is something else that i recall from my childhood that reading this thread brought up.

my parents were permissive and so were my gparents AND extended family. and i look into my families life and find some of those children became alcoholics and some didnt.

so i think alcohol as an 'addiction' has many layers to it. most of the alcoholics i know cant stand the taste of alcohol - esp the cheap stuff they can afford to drink. those who do like the taste of alcohol - like a good wine or a good whiskey drink it reverently rather than just down it.

so it isnt as simple does this make my child an alcoholic or not.

oh and btw - we too were allowed a puff. and to me it was the nastiest stuff. but in high school i did want to smoke because i love the way how gracefully some of the women hold the cigarette but the taste put me off. and i have never done it.

today with all the info about smoking around us (which wasnt there when i was a kid) - even if i offered my 6 year old a smoke she would be appalled because she already knows about the evils of smoking. i think she would be appalled if i or her dad was a smoker.
post #60 of 213
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Originally Posted by mtiger View Post
Actually, in many states it is completely legal for a parent to provide alcohol to their child, either at home or in public. I know it is in mine.
how can I find out which states?
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