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post #81 of 213
My son's too young for this to come up yet, but I grew up taking sips of my parents' alcohol. It was usually beer though so I thought it was pretty disgusting (still do, haha). I don't think it's a big deal.
post #82 of 213
Nope, not at all!
post #83 of 213
DS has had a sip of my wine. He has never asked for it again lol.
I do not drink much though and certainl not now I am pregnant! hehe
post #84 of 213
If we have wine in the house for some reason, I often buy sparkling grape juice for dd, which she likes.

I would let her try a taste of whatever we were drinking though if she wanted. I don't see what that's a big deal. Kids are curious. A taste isn't going to get anyone drunk or turn anyone into an alcoholic.
post #85 of 213
I'll add that my two have been having sips of wine (at Communion) since they were 3mos old. That's not illegal, either.
post #86 of 213
Pixiekisses, where do you live that you don't have coffee and parents can't give their children a taste of wine?

My DD has never had wine nor beer, and if she had, I probably wouldn't post stories about it online. I totally agree with the PP who said that CPS seems to go after the competent parents disproportionately. Anyway.

As DD gets older, I would have no problem sharing a small bit of watered wine or beer with her over a nice dinner-- no problem at all. This has gone on for centuries. I've been reading some Victorian novels lately (Dickens and Trollope and Gaskell), and it's astounding how many children drink wines and ales.

If I thought moderate consumption were dangerous, I would not drink it myself. Same with coffee, as I posted on the s/o thread

ETA-- I would let my daughter have her own glass of wine before I gave her 100 sodas.... or let her watch the 4 hour-a-day TV viewing avg. of most children.
post #87 of 213
on special occasions (holidays etc.) we would get our own "glass" of wine. It was shot glass sized. But we felt special. DP is from Europe and I have lived there and we have a pretty open attitude about alcohol. I would not serve my 5 yo alcohol but if she wanted to taste it sure. I would definitely limit it until she got older however. If it became a problem where she was asking each time we had it then I would have to consider consumig it less often myself or waiting until after she went to bed.
post #88 of 213
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Pixiekisses, where do you live that you don't have coffee and parents can't give their children a taste of wine?
We don't have coffee? Think you missread something there. Of course we have coffee in the country, but it's not normal for parents to give it to kids (grownups drink it), you wont see that here. And alcohol laws here are 18 yo. for beer/wine and 20 for liquer, so nobody can give anyone under that age alcohol, including parents. It's not something we would do here either, different cultures I guess, and I'm very happy it's like that here.

(We're scandinavian.)
post #89 of 213
We do not allow it at this point in his life (3 years old) but when he gets older we likely will allow it at special occasions like holiday meals and the like.

Some branches in my family let the kids have wine at special meals starting the early teens and I can honestly say I believe everyone of those young adults are responsible drinkers.

The boys tell me that in high school, they didn't feel drinking was any big deal, meaning they didn't join in with the typical high school binge drinking that I remember seeing. Because they could (sort of) do it whenever they wanted, the fun aspect of sneaking it didn't exist.

Right now, I don't know at what age I will feel comfortable with sips. Problems with addiction run on both paternal sides and I think that is what makes me gun shy.
post #90 of 213
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We don't have coffee? Think you missread something there. Of course we have coffee in the country, but it's not normal for parents to give it to kids (grownups drink it), you wont see that here.
Oops, sorry, I did misread that in your post over on the s/o.

Still, I would not be happy to be living in a country in which I was not allowed to give sips of alcohol to my own child. People give their children far more dangerous stuff all the time, imo, and often under medical advice.
post #91 of 213
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Still, I would not be happy to be living in a country in which I was not allowed to give sips of alcohol to my own child. People give their children far more dangerous stuff all the time, imo, and often under medical advice.
As I said, I'm very happy it is this way here.

And re. to meds. etc. that's a completely different subject imho. And absolutely no "excuse" to give a kid alcohol.
post #92 of 213
Oh, and one more thing--

My dh and his brother grew up in a totally alcohol-free home. My Dh had never tasted it before we married (he was in his 20s). The first we ever bought together was to cook with. We drink wine occasionally, but it's not a huge part of our lives. I like it for the culinary aspect. So, basically, I shaped his drinking tastes.

his brother, I guess because his parents never really talked with him about it, ended up being influenced by the redneck father of a friend of his. He mixed this guy jack and cokes from a cooler in the back of the van while the father was driving them around dirt roads and shooting hogs. VERY scary. So brother starts drinking, too, but he's drinking cheap beer that he purchased illegally at back country gas stations. My Dh is working on him. At least he's of age now, and he never DUI's himself, thank goodness.

I would MUCH rather be the one influencing my children than leaving it to unknown influences. My Dh is just lucky
post #93 of 213
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As I said, I'm very happy it is this way here.

And re. to meds. etc. that's a completely different subject imho. And absolutely no "excuse" to give a kid alcohol.
I'm not at all saying you should give you kids beer or wine; I'm just saying it would bother me from a parental-rights standpoint. If you're comfortable with it, then that's great.
post #94 of 213
No way would I let my son sip alcohol. I am 18 and I am personally not going to touch it until I am 21, even though it IS legal in Australia to drink at the age of 18 (). I would be very concerned about the affects on the developing brain of a young person. I would also be worried about them liking the taste.
post #95 of 213
I think this is really just a personal/cultural decision. In Europe it is common to give children a little bit of waterd down wine with supper. I also think that making it taboo just makes the problem worse, we always want what we can't have. But if it's acceptable, then it's not so tempting.

someone mentioned that she would rather teach her kids about alchohol than letting them learn the hard way... yeah, when I was a teenager, my mom would buy us alchohol, icecream & movies & tell me to have my girlfriends over to our place. Her thoughts were that she knew we were going to go out drinking anyways, & would rather us do it at home where she knew we were safe. I am greatful to her for this & think that it was actually a rather wise tactic.

back to the cultural thing, & a little off topic here, but when I got PG, I told my MW that I was concerned I might have had some beer after conception & before realization. Her responce was, "I had the same concern when I first got PG, I was in Ireland at the time, & when I asked the OB about it, he said "A pint of guinnes a day is a good source of iron."" Culture...
post #96 of 213
For those of you who are stating legality as a reason to not allow alcohol consumption by minors: http://www.alcoholpolicy.niaaa.nih.gov/stateprofiles/

It's only illegal in 16 states.

And, yeah I have no problem with tiny sips. I just tell them no more than a taste, because it's not good for growing bodies.
post #97 of 213
We don't, but only because we don't drink often and don't keep alcohol in the house. If we did and they asked, we would let them have a sip or two. I don't feel right telling my children they can't indulge in something that I'm having, and I'm not convinced that alcohol is any worse for a child than it is for an adult when consumed in the same quantity/body weight ratio.
post #98 of 213
I think it's interesting that pregnant moms who wouldn't dream of drinking alcohol while they are pregnant wouldn't hesitate to give their kids alcohol if they ask.

Weird conundrum.
post #99 of 213
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I think it's interesting that pregnant moms who wouldn't dream of drinking alcohol while they are pregnant wouldn't hesitate to give their kids alcohol if they ask.

Weird conundrum.
Assume much? I had the occasional glass of wine while pregnant. As my mother always said, "Millions of Frenchwomen can't be wrong."
post #100 of 213
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I think it's interesting that pregnant moms who wouldn't dream of drinking alcohol while they are pregnant wouldn't hesitate to give their kids alcohol if they ask.

Weird conundrum.
A sip or two. And I don't think it's a problem for a pregnant woman to have a sip or two, to taste something or toast a wedding couple or whatever, either. There isn't enough alcohol in that small amount to hurt any child or any pregnancy.
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