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post #101 of 136
When I wear my toddler:
"hey, pretty soon he's going to be carrying you" (or "isn't he supposed to be carrying you by now?!")
post #102 of 136
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post #103 of 136
When DS was almost 2 months old the ped told me to give him water. That's one reason why he's not our Ped anymore.
post #104 of 136
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Originally Posted by green betty View Post
Originally Posted by Irishmommy
"I haven't read beyond, but toe walking can shorten the tendons at the back, making it harder to put the heel down. It's really not something to ignore."

Wow, she said he does it sometimes. This unsolicited comment in THIS thread... that's the heart of irony.
post #105 of 136
I had my newborn in a wrap (like the moby) with a coat on over both of us. she was sleeping and I could see her face perfectly. My Grandmother, who thinks putting a baby in a carrier is "hippy stuff" says, "Stephanie! You're gonna suffocate that baby!" Not wanting to disrespect her I had to stop myself from laughing hysterically. While she seriously offends most people, I find her judgemental, old codgery ways endearing.
But it was still annoying anyway, because the rest of my Daddy's side of the family disagrees with baby wearing too. So it just gave my sister permission to tell me that I didn't like holding my baby and that's why I used baby carriers!?!?
post #106 of 136
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Originally Posted by green betty View Post
Originally Posted by Irishmommy
"I haven't read beyond, but toe walking can shorten the tendons at the back, making it harder to put the heel down. It's really not something to ignore."

Wow, she said he does it sometimes. This unsolicited comment in THIS thread... that's the heart of irony.


haha
post #107 of 136
My grandmother told me that if I didn't let my DD cry she was going to be spoiled and a sass mouth! I still can't figure out the logic behind that one.
post #108 of 136
"My kids are a year apart, it's just like having twins!"
post #109 of 136
Quote:
Originally Posted by green betty View Post
Originally Posted by Irishmommy
"I haven't read beyond, but toe walking can shorten the tendons at the back, making it harder to put the heel down. It's really not something to ignore."

Wow, she said he does it sometimes. This unsolicited comment in THIS thread... that's the heart of irony.

How is it unsolicited, she brought the subject up. Also, I was showing that not all unsolicited advice/comments are stupid and wrong.
post #110 of 136
We used to have 2 cats. When my daughter was born(and when I was pg) my in-laws were always asking us, 'what are you going to do with your cats?' uhm, nothing. They were very serious when they explained in great horrifying detail how the cats will kill our baby. Give me a break. I think they just said it to scare me into getting rid of them because they were allergic and they couldn't come visit their grandbaby because of the cats. MIL also freaked when she found out Lilah was in the bed with us. "She can fall off the bed and break her little arm!" oh really? thanks. Come to think of it, my mom still freaks when I tell her Lilah is napping on our bed. She is 15 months old and has been getting on and off our bed for a couple months already. I think she's got it down pat. Hmm what else. One of my friends said since I have a new baby coming, I need to wean my dd now, or else I won't be able to later when the new baby is here and nursing. MIL always thinks dd needs a blanket on. I remember last winter, dd was crawling around all over the floor, and MIL kept trying to wrap a blanket around her shoulders and keep it there. While dd was crawling and playing. Just because YOU need it to be 85 degrees to be comfortable doesn't mean my dd does!
The real kicker though- when dd was about 2 weeks old we were over the inlaws house, and Lilah started fussing for maybe a whole minute. She didn't even full out cry. MIL thought for sure she was teething. She told me I should let her suck on an ice cube. I said no and started walking away with dd, but she followed me around with the ice cube, and actually started to put it in her mouth. First of all she is 2 weeks old, what are the odds of her teething? Second of all, she wasn't even crabbing anymore, or that much to begin with!! And third- the darn ice cube won't even fit in her mouth!!
post #111 of 136
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Originally Posted by Vancouver Mommy View Post
I used to get all kinds of advice and comments when I had my first (and believe me, I do not have a "please tell me what you think I'm doing wrong" kind of demeanour). I used to joke that dp could walk through a blizzard carrying a naked baby by the leg and all people would say is "aww, isn't that nice that the dad is spending some time with the baby".
This is so true. Everyone just praise men whenever they are out in public with their kids. Even if they are just grocery shopping with them, it's like aww look, a daddy!
post #112 of 136
Another I forgot- My mom freaked when I told her me and dh are not going to go all out about santa crap with Lilah. She said "ohh but what about the magic?!" like, there is no other magic to christmas besides santa. I tried to explain to her that we plan on pretending with her that santa is real and the whole reindeer thing, but I am NOT going to flat out lie to her when she comes asking me about santa. I refuse to force her to believe something that I know is not true. She said all the other kids in school will think she is weird. Well good thing I'm going to homeschool.
post #113 of 136
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Originally Posted by amnda527 View Post
Another I forgot- My mom freaked when I told her me and dh are not going to go all out about santa crap with Lilah. She said "ohh but what about the magic?!" like, there is no other magic to christmas besides santa.
OMG my mother did the same thing. She totally freaked out when we mentioned that we were not doing the santa thing. She actually said....
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"Then what's the point of even celebrating Christmas."

Yep. This is coming from the same woman who made sure we went to Sunday school every week when we were growing up.
post #114 of 136
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Wow, so... what is it your doing that will turn him gay so I can blame my dad for making me find happiness with another guy.
Apparently, using a pink flannel receiving blanket at 5 months old will do it. Not that my son is gay (we don't know yet, he's only 10 months now, but he appears to be asexual, so we'll be sending him to therapy soon...) but that's what we were told. By one of our friends. I wonder how he knows so much about that?

We were also told by a neighbor that we HAD to force him to crawl to make sure he crawled before he learns to walk. It causes all kinds of psychological problems if they learn to walk before they crawl, you know, AND you then have to teach them to crawl and they won't want to if they can walk already, so then it's REALLY damaging to their psyche..... All b/c several people watched him during tummy time and said he may just never crawl and go right to walking.
post #115 of 136
When I was pg with ds 2, I told my MIL I was pg and she said, "You should have waited."

I stopped BFing ds 1 when he was 15 mo and I was 5 mo pg. Most of my family said, "It's about time"

I got mastitis with ds2 he was just over a yr. My mom said, "Doesn't that tell you something? Are you finally going to quit?" My tearful response was that I was giving my child a gift and the day I stop will be a very sad day for me.

How about: "Your sons will hate you for not getting them cut. If I was in bed with a guy and he was not circ'd I would be like, 'ewww gross' and leave"? SHALLOW Don't even get me started about all the stupid comment about my sons' forskin.

Another MILism: "Wow you are finally starting to look pg and not just chubby"

"Water birth? Wont they drown?"

"You don't get a medal for giving birth with out pain meds"

If I come up with more I'll come back.
post #116 of 136
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Originally Posted by momongeon View Post
When I was pg with ds 2, I told my MIL I was pg and she said, "You should have waited."

I stopped BFing ds 1 when he was 15 mo and I was 5 mo pg. Most of my family said, "It's about time"

I got mastitis with ds2 he was just over a yr. My mom said, "Doesn't that tell you something? Are you finally going to quit?" My tearful response was that I was giving my child a gift and the day I stop will be a very sad day for me.

How about: "Your sons will hate you for not getting them cut. If I was in bed with a guy and he was not circ'd I would be like, 'ewww gross' and leave"? SHALLOW Don't even get me started about all the stupid comment about my sons' forskin.

Another MILism: "Wow you are finally starting to look pg and not just chubby"

"Water birth? Wont they drown?"

"You don't get a medal for giving birth with out pain meds"

If I come up with more I'll come back.
Okay, so I WAS going to post that I think unsolicited advice isn't THAT bad and that I actually sort of *like* hearing all the funny, stupid, unfounded, old fashioned, uneducated.... and yes, even sometimes enlightening commentary I've heard as a mother....

I like the idea of "it takes a village" and comments from old people sort of make me feel like I'm a part of that "village."

But after reading some of the comments you've heard from your family, I can see why some might not share my "lighthearted" opinion of unsolicited advice/commentary.

I have *never* had a family member say something this rude about my parenting or ME. I guess I live in a sheltered world and tend to think that people are just over sensitive, but I guess I'd probably hate unsolicited advice, too, if it was accompanied by such personal attacks on me as a mother.

My family didn't understand when I breastfed my DD til she was 33 months old... and I knew they found it "out of the ordinary", but in my family, we have enough respect for one another AND a healthy sense of humor, that if we have something to say, it's more of a joke than anything.

Sheesh, I'm sorry you had to hear your MIL make the chubby/pregnant comment. I simply could NOT imagine. (((hug)))
post #117 of 136
No kidding. I love them just the same though, opinions and all. Thanks for the hug
post #118 of 136
Just today I was visiting with my SIL in her front yard. The neighbor came over and DD was getting crabby since it was nap time. I put her in the sling and walked around the porch to get her to sleep.

She fell asleep easily but when I came back the neighbor felt the need to explain that you're "not supposed to stand up to put the baby to sleep". Because they might get used to being rocked. I guess liking to be rocked is a bad thing when you're just turning 5 months old?

A lot of people have been telling me this lately and I'm thinking ... hmm ... my nephew needed a pacifier to sleep until he was 3 but nobody cared about that! Maybe because it was artificial?
post #119 of 136
I am accosted by the hat police regularly. I'm glad to see it's not just me. Also, there seem to be a bunch of people convinced that babies should never be in direct sunlight or uncovered while outside in general.

Don't get me started on the people that couldn't/can't believe we took DD out of the house at 1,2,3 and now three months old. When are babies old enough to leave the house?!
post #120 of 136
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Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post
What makes me laugh about people who say that is I wonder exactly how many of them actually slept with their child and never got them out....hmmmm I can't imagine my son someday grown and married telling his wife "Goodnight hunny I'm going to sleep in my mom's bed" lol

When my sister was around 6 or so my mom asked her jokingly what she was going to do when she went to college and my sis replied, "You will be my roommate!"

As you might imagine she had changed her mind about this long before she actually went off to college!
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