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post #21 of 136
When my son was 2 and still not talking:

"Just don't give him anything to eat until he asks for it. That will make him talk."
post #22 of 136
Don't let him nurse longer than 5 minutes on each side because then your milk will be out and the baby will just suck in air, which will then give him gas.

Like my boobs had air in them?!? I got this gem of information from our family doctor (we switched doctors pretty quickly).
post #23 of 136
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Originally Posted by mamadebug View Post
Don't let him nurse longer than 5 minutes on each side because then your milk will be out and the baby will just suck in air, which will then give him gas.

Like my boobs had air in them?!? I got this gem of information from our family doctor (we switched doctors pretty quickly).
This one is cracking me up.

The worst I have received was from my husband's childless young (former) boss. With regard to our 2 month old crying inconsolably at night and how much it stressed and worried us because she had a heart problem and would have spells of cyanosis and tachypnea..."oh just let her cry it out, you can't treat her special her whole life just because she was born with a health problem." WTF.
post #24 of 136
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Originally Posted by PabloHoneySF View Post
I was breastfeeding my son at the gym's daycare center before going to work out and the woman working there said "are you sure he's latched on right?".

:

umm, yeah
At least this person was a BF supporter!

I have had so many... from my own family usually, not so much from strangers... they have sense enough to avoid me!

My dad at dinner with us and the whole family, (12 people) when dd was 6 weeks old: I had her under a light-weight black shawl, very discreetly nursing her. Dad barks "Where's the baby??............ (GASP) OH!! She's under there isn't she?? You're not doing that at hte table are you?? Ugh! Yuck! That really is not something you shoud do at the table..."
(everyone in the entire restaurant staring)
Me: "YOU eat at the table, why shouldn't she?"




My mom, just the other day:
Dd happily bounces up and starts telling my mom how she got a booboo, but nursed and felt better... "Oh, Prenna. That's awful. (sounding disgusted) That's just for babies... you're almost 4, and still nursing in the middle of the day? Ugh! Are you a baby, then? I thought you were a big girl!"

Dd looked at her, and said, "I'm still mama's baby!.......and I love the num!" I was so pleased with her reply I said nothing. Ha ha, Mom!
post #25 of 136
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Originally Posted by GuildJenn View Post
"Don't turn him gay." "You'll turn him gay doing that!"

I wish I could say it were in jest.
Wow, so... what is it your doing that will turn him gay so I can blame my dad for making me find happiness with another guy.
post #26 of 136
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Wow, so... what is it your doing that will turn him gay so I can blame my dad for making me find happiness with another guy.
laughup
post #27 of 136
--Said to me about my 2 month old first child "He is much to skinny. You need to start giving him cereal. When I had my kids, we had this special pump thing that you could force it down their throats with, I bet you could find one if you looked".

--There used to be a woman in our church who would seek us out and harrass us for lack of hats, socks, or blankets on the baby *in summer*.

--frequent comment I see in discussions: If you don't let your baby CIO and teach it to self-soothe at night, you will *never* get it out of your bed and you'll still be struggling to get a 5 yo to sleep through the night.
In spite of the fact that we semi-co-slept and I nursed on demant 24/7 through 18 months with them, my oldest two went into their own beds at 2 yo and I could count on one hand the times they've gotten out of thier beds to come to mine. They like thier bunk bed very much and have no interest in trying to squish into our very small double bed with two large grownups and a wiggly baby.
post #28 of 136
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Originally Posted by grniys View Post
Oh! That reminds me of another one.

My aunt told me that I needed to give ds water as an infant because breast milk alone wasn't enough. Apparently, he would become dehydrated without bottles of water because my breast milk wasn't hydrating enough.
Ok, I've never told anyone they should give babies water.....but I thought you should!! Are you talking about tiny babies or ones older than say 6 months (random age chosen there!)
post #29 of 136
'When are you going to switch to formula?' (my dad...ds was 7 months)

Sorry dad - he EBF (no solids) until a week before his 1st bday and still nurses all the time! (15months now)

My mom did tell him to shut it though
post #30 of 136
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Originally Posted by PrennaMama View Post
Dd looked at her, and said, "I'm still mama's baby!.......and I love the num!" I was so pleased with her reply I said nothing. Ha ha, Mom!

I love the num, that's priceless!! ::

Here's some of mine. I've been told with all three my children, right after birth, that I'm spoiling them for letting them sleep on my chest.

I live in South Africa and I've gotten this comment TWICE in the last 3 months or so. The first time I was buying colddrink at a cafe outside a shopping center. They ladies at the cafe asked me if I had two boys and one girl. I said no, one boy two girls. They said "I'm so sorry. Maybe next time you'll be lucky and have a boy again." The second time was the teller in the one store. While I was waiting for my dh to pay, she asked what the genders were. I said two girls, one boy. She said: "You cheated your husband. You must have one more so he can have another son." I told her that men determine the sex of the baby, not women. If my dh feels cheated, which he does not, he has only himself to blame. It's not my fault if he can't make boys.
post #31 of 136
Oh! Before I forget. My oldest walks on his toes. He's done it ever since he started walking, but not all the time. He'll walk normally at times and on his toes at times. My one friend insists that there's something wrong and I'm just not concerned enough, bless her heart. About two weeks ago she said: "So he's still doing that? Hmm. I read that it could be a sign of neurological problems." Ahh, bless her. She's really so concerned about it and I'm just... not.
post #32 of 136
Oh my goodness! These posts are making all the memories come flooding back.

My children have never had pacifiers, not one of them. One day my daughter was crying and everyone was frantically searching for her paci (at a Kindermusik class for my son). In the end they yelled Where's her paci?? I said she didn't have one. My one friend (an aupair for the one little boy) said: "That's so wrong! Babies NEED something to suck on! She needs a paci." Well, duh. Why do you think I'm hanging around. The same friend freaked out when I changed my daughter's diaper in front of her and I didn't have a vest on my daughter. I told her she doesn't need a vest, she was dripping with sweat in her long sleeved, footed onesie as it is. She said that babies need vests to keep their chests warm when you opened up the onesie.

Another friend told me that her ped told her that b'feeding for the first 3 months is all a baby needs, after 3 months it's done for the mother's benefit not the baby's. So I had no business b'feeding my 18 month old anymore. Haha, luckily some of us have the common sense not to believe everything our docs say, but to open a book or a site on the internet and learn for ourselves.
post #33 of 136
My fil told me that i don't do enough during the day with my dd because she was still wide awake at six o clock. We go to the playground & walks at the beach & in the forest for at least 3 hours a day, it's just NORMAL for a child to be awake at that time!

I also get the "you are ruining their life, they will have no friends!" comment about home/unschooling them. a lot.

post #34 of 136
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Originally Posted by Lollybrat View Post
When my son was 2 and still not talking:

"Just don't give him anything to eat until he asks for it. That will make him talk."
Oh my, I'm torn between laughing my ass of and almost crying.

I've never really had any comments re. what I'm doing/not doing with the kids. It's probably because family/friends know that I wouldn't give a damn because I decide with my kids. And no strangers ever did either.
Well, one exception, absolutely everybody seems to have an input on my SN-childs eating issues. I've heard alot of priceless things on that subject, nobody really has a clue.
post #35 of 136
oh and my grandmother asked me if there is something wrong with dd because she never cried. (she was maybe 3 weeks old?).
Apparently the midwife in her days told her that children need to cry AT LEAST 5 hours a day to "develope their lungs".
She was glad to hear that this is not the case! (she's a lovely woman, she just worries a lot.)

Also, my husbands grandmother does "not approve" of me carrying the baby in
"a bag around my neck".
I don't mind that,though, she's 90, things were different back then
post #36 of 136
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Originally Posted by medicmama View Post
I hear "when they are old enough to ask for it (nursing), then its time to stop!. I have herd that twice in the past 3 days.:
What makes me laugh about that is people are still leaving that open for a lengthy time. My 2 yo didn't start talking until almost 2 years old. And funnier still is they've been asking since birth. What do they think crying is for?

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Originally Posted by frontierpsych View Post
Guy at the corner store: "You need to put a hat on him, babies catch all kinds of diseases through their heads"

Me: "Thanks doc"


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Originally Posted by mamadebug View Post
Don't let him nurse longer than 5 minutes on each side because then your milk will be out and the baby will just suck in air, which will then give him gas.

Like my boobs had air in them?!? I got this gem of information from our family doctor (we switched doctors pretty quickly).
Someone around here (I think) had someone tell them not to let the baby burp at the breast because it would push air in and then she'd have to go to the doctor to get them deflated.....it surprises me how little people know about the body they're in!

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Originally Posted by cappuccinosmom View Post
--Said to me about my 2 month old first child "He is much to skinny. You need to start giving him cereal. When I had my kids, we had this special pump thing that you could force it down their throats with, I bet you could find one if you looked".

That is completely terrifying to think about
post #37 of 136
Oh, the hat comments! And all the comments about him being too hot/too cold! And the pacifier obsession some family members had! Let's not even get into circumcision advice, haha.
The day my son and I got home from the hospital, my MIL called to tell us she would be OK (uh huh) if I decided to give up breastfeeding since I was having such a tough time and surely my frustration would be getting to my son. This was mostly irritating on the so you think you're in charge or have any say in this decision? level.
Also, SO MANY people gave advice about being careful with our cats and our son. I don't even know what they thought we were going to do! Let the cats babysit him while we ran to the store? And yes, one person did mention the cats sucking the breath out of him, oh my goodness.
post #38 of 136
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Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post
Someone around here (I think) had someone tell them not to let the baby burp at the breast because it would push air in and then she'd have to go to the doctor to get them deflated.....it surprises me how little people know about the body they're in!


If only it were that easy to get them to grow!
post #39 of 136
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Originally Posted by willthiswork View Post
Ok, I've never told anyone they should give babies water.....but I thought you should!! Are you talking about tiny babies or ones older than say 6 months (random age chosen there!)
We're talking just out of the hospital tiny baby. Like, days old! Once he was older (maybe more than 6 months? 8 months? Something like that) I started giving sippy's of water occasionally so he'd get used to it. But no, I was told I should from day one.
post #40 of 136
remembering when my oldest was a newborn - we went to visit my grandmother and her sister and they kept saying we held him too much and he was gonna get sore from it.

i had an oversupply and would do block feedings on each side for several hours to try to help him get hindmilk. soooo many people (friends, family, random strangers) would scold me for not switching breasts during a feeding or from one feeding to the next. so bizzarre. even people that know very little about breastfeeding at all KNOW you HAVE to switch sides after 15 minutes (or at each feeding, or 10 minutes or whatever their opinion was).
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