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post #61 of 136
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Originally Posted by Vancouver Mommy View Post
I used to joke that dp could walk through a blizzard carrying a naked baby by the leg and all people would say is "aww, isn't that nice that the dad is spending some time with the baby".
No KIDDING! : It's just so true

This isn't very entertaining, but my mom tells me that I need to eat dairy (DD is dairy allergic and EBF) or she'll never be able to drink milk and it will be hard for her to grow. I said I wasn't, so she started to try to feed her ice cream. !!!!! She's only 2 months old.
post #62 of 136
From MIL, when ds was 4 mos, he woke from a nap and I went to him before he cried. "Let him cry before you go to him, it's good for him to cry"

From my father's wife at the same time, on the same visit, in similar circumstances "he's training you, you know, He'll never sleep on his own if you go to him for every wimper"

From my neice, who's son is 2 years older than mine, "whatever you do, DON"T let him sleep with you! You'll never get him out of your bed.

After way too many times of being asked if ds sleeps through the night and way too much crazy sleep advice when I replied no, I started lying and saying that he did sleep through. (he quit night nursing at 3, that's when the sleeping through started) The sleep questions started when he was 1 month. I don't understand why people need to know that, and why every one is a sleep expert.
post #63 of 136
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Originally Posted by MaxMommy View Post

From my neice, who's son is 2 years older than mine, "whatever you do, DON"T let him sleep with you! You'll never get him out of your bed.
What makes me laugh about people who say that is I wonder exactly how many of them actually slept with their child and never got them out....hmmmm I can't imagine my son someday grown and married telling his wife "Goodnight hunny I'm going to sleep in my mom's bed" lol
post #64 of 136
Hard to pin it down to just one! Here are some...my reaction to these is usually just smile and say something about how wonderful my kids are....

"You are STILL breastfeeding him/her?" (Yes, recently got this again with my 10mo dd!)
"If you rock her in your arms to sleep you are going to spoil her"
"It is SOOOOO COLD, really it is SOOOO COLD! Does she have enough clothes on?"
"At this age she needs Vit D & iron supplementation, bfing is not enough!" (bite me!)
post #65 of 136
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Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post
What makes me laugh about people who say that is I wonder exactly how many of them actually slept with their child and never got them out....hmmmm I can't imagine my son someday grown and married telling his wife "Goodnight hunny I'm going to sleep in my mom's bed" lol
I've found the people who tell you the "horror" stories about children never leaving the family bed never let their kids actually sleep with them. But there's always some relative of a friend of a friend who has a kid who is still sleeping with when he's 30 or whatever.
post #66 of 136
My mom is the one that is so paranoid about germs. In particular, the cold weather making the kids sick. I live in Houston where it is mild in the winter. I rarely put heavy coats on the kids to take them to the heated car. It is entirely too warm to wear a coat in the car. So, I always toss a blanket around them as I take them out. No big deal. She swears I am killing them, though. She also goes on and on about how I have to disinfect the entire house with Lysol at something as minor as a sneeze.

My dad also freaked out when DD1 started walking two weeks after she started crawling. He was concerned she would have developmental issues and would never learn to read. My dad was a spec. ed. teacher years and years ago when that was the thinking.

Some random ones...
-Don't let DD stand too early or she will be bow legged. Yes, that is precisely what happened to me.

-It is selfish to only BF babies because I am refusing to let DH bond with our children.

-There is no way a baby will ever sleep through the night without formula.
post #67 of 136
This one has only come up recently since I'm noticeably pregnant:

"You shouldn't be carrying him!" or "You're not still carrying him in that THING are you" (referring to my sling)

And what, exactly, am I suppose to do? Never hold him again? Oy!

Oh! and this takes the cake: "You shouldn't be carrying him b/c it's not good for your womanly parts"
From my mother when I was a few weeks pregnant and carrying ds in a sling.

I swear, these people must think I'm just going to break into pieces if I keep carrying my 30lb son.
post #68 of 136
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Originally Posted by Veronika01 View Post
Oh! Before I forget. My oldest walks on his toes. He's done it ever since he started walking, but not all the time. He'll walk normally at times and on his toes at times. My one friend insists that there's something wrong and I'm just not concerned enough, bless her heart. About two weeks ago she said: "So he's still doing that? Hmm. I read that it could be a sign of neurological problems." Ahh, bless her. She's really so concerned about it and I'm just... not.
See from a friend it would make me think and look for other signs.........but then again I have seen some pretty bad situations were if they only listen to the "friend" the child would be better off. I have been in situations were parents were in denial and the child, well entire family, suffered.
post #69 of 136
While changing my daughter- diaper open, floral dress with crinoline on, pink bow (albeit almost bald) - stranger inquires "How old is your son?"
post #70 of 136
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Originally Posted by merrybee View Post
While changing my daughter- diaper open, floral dress with crinoline on, pink bow (albeit almost bald) - stranger inquires "How old is your son?"
laughup
post #71 of 136
Johannes throws a plethora of tantrums. He cries often because he is sick a lot. He is a control freak. He is explosive and very strong willed. And, he is violent when his way is not given to him. Not to mention, he swears often. (He hears it from people on the bus and at bus stops. I don't do it.) I've been told that he is a spoiled brat and needs a good old-fashioned beating. He needs his will broken and needs to be made straighten up. Sorry, I'm NOT doing that! Over my dead body. Oh, and about the sleeping thing, i get it, too. People criticize me saying to me that it is totally inappropriate. And because he is not biologically mine, they say it is worse, as it could be viewed as sexual abuse. PFFFFFFFFF!
post #72 of 136
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Originally Posted by whalemilk View Post
This one is cracking me up.

The worst I have received was from my husband's childless young (former) boss. With regard to our 2 month old crying inconsolably at night and how much it stressed and worried us because she had a heart problem and would have spells of cyanosis and tachypnea..."oh just let her cry it out, you can't treat her special her whole life just because she was born with a health problem." WTF.


OMG! That is so crazy. i'm so glad you did not listen to her. Taking that advice would have killed your baby.

Johannes has severe asthma, if he gets too worked up from crying badly, he goes into asthma attacks. I try not to let him get too upset because I'm terrified of respiratory arrest.
post #73 of 136
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Originally Posted by ChetMC View Post
We haven't gotten a lot random criticism or unsolicited advice. Once a guy yelled out of a car window, "why don't you put a coat on that kid." Our oldest was about 18 months old, didn't want to wear a coat and was more than capable of asking for her coat if she changed her mind.

I generally don't believe in "come backs" though. I don't want to model confrontation behaviour like that. I'm all for modeling conflict resolution, but if somebody is opinionated enough to shout out of a car window, or to pull a baby's hand out of their mouth they aren't going to be convinced by anything I say during our brief encounter.

I could come back with something clever and smart-asssed, but then I'm not just a "bad parent" I'm a "bad parent" with an attitude. I figure that my best chance to forward my cause is to not sink to their level... to actually try to educate people in a friendly way if I can, to be civil if that's the best I can manage, or to ignore them that's all I've can do.

I can learn a thing or two from you. Always had a smart mouth though I'm not proud of that.
post #74 of 136
Oh, I totally forgot this one.

When people see me nursing my children while pregnant, I get the endless comments of "Oh, that is going to cause you to miscarry." or "Your baby isn't going to get enough nutrients unless you wean." or "You better wean her now or you will be in real trouble when the baby comes."

I love how everyone with no clue what they are talking about feel the need to tell me what to do.
post #75 of 136
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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom View Post
See from a friend it would make me think and look for other signs.........but then again I have seen some pretty bad situations were if they only listen to the "friend" the child would be better off. I have been in situations were parents were in denial and the child, well entire family, suffered.
If my son showed any other signs of neurological disorders or something like sensory integration disorder I would be worried. Just because it bothers someone else doesn't give me reason to worry. I'm not in denial about anything.
post #76 of 136
My dad's comment, regarding my homebirth, "Now your going to die, or the baby will die, and I will have to bury you too."

Nice, eh? Hence my tagline.

Regarding just plain, stupid advice, luckily people here do not generally make any remarks about other people's parenting, and in fact are overwhelmingly positive, with a live and let live attitude. I only had one bad experience, with a young girl working in H&M. She told me I was not allowed to breast feed my 10mo DD (in the baby and maternity departments no less), because "some of the customers might find it offensive." I refused to move, but I was so shocked that afterwards I wrote a letter to the store. They apologized.
post #77 of 136
From a doc earlier this week: "She needs to learn it's not all about her."

Well, she's two months old, so yeah it pretty much is all about her. And my baby sleeping peacefully in the sling doesn't affect my appointment with him at all, since it was just a quick consult in his office.
post #78 of 136
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Originally Posted by merrybee View Post
While changing my daughter- diaper open, floral dress with crinoline on, pink bow (albeit almost bald) - stranger inquires "How old is your son?"
I had dd in the yard lying in her stroller buck naked and a lady asked "boy or girl?"
post #79 of 136
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Originally Posted by Veronika01 View Post
Oh! Before I forget. My oldest walks on his toes. He's done it ever since he started walking, but not all the time. He'll walk normally at times and on his toes at times. My one friend insists that there's something wrong and I'm just not concerned enough, bless her heart. About two weeks ago she said: "So he's still doing that? Hmm. I read that it could be a sign of neurological problems." Ahh, bless her. She's really so concerned about it and I'm just... not.
I haven't read beyond, but toe walking can shorten the tendons at the back, making it harder to put the heel down. It's really not something to ignore.
post #80 of 136
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Originally Posted by lindberg99 View Post
I've found the people who tell you the "horror" stories about children never leaving the family bed never let their kids actually sleep with them. But there's always some relative of a friend of a friend who has a kid who is still sleeping with when he's 30 or whatever.

I get this from someone I know. Her kids actually did still sleep with them at 13 and 10. I think it's because they kept trying to force them out instead of letting it just happen though.
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