Bella I think you have the right to be upset; I would be upset in that situation. Birth is a very intimate event. My mw has a family event she cannot miss 3 days after my due date; I've never met her backup and she just told me about this last appt. (to be fair, it just came up) - but to me the thought of having her backup there is terrifying! I told the babe any day but that day!
So in your shoes I would be upset and unsure of what to do. But I think I'd say no, that I didn't feel comfortable with the ACMW overseeing the labor/birth b/c you just don't feel as strong a bond with her.
With DS1 I had an apprentice oversee the birth while my mw was mostly in the background - but I had seen the apprentice at almost every appt. with DS1 *and* DD before him (and she'd been at DD's birth). If I hadn't felt that I really knew her, her style, personality, and had a bond with her, I'd have said I didn't want her to be the one "in charge" at the birth so to speak. I'd also not want a whole bunch of people at the birth. I think it's completely your call and that you're not overreacting at all!
Me I've been having regular contractions all afternoon, about 10-12 min apart like clockwork, and lasting about a minute each. I've been sitting, standing, cooking, cleaning, etc. and still been having them. No show or anything else. Was enough for me to ask DH to go ahead and move the den furniture though, so the birth tub has space. Kids and I are supposed to have an art class out of town (about an hour drive) tomorrow and right now I don't feel confident enough anything is happening to cancel. I'll wait and see what's happening overnight and in the morning. Not sure I feel ready for the babe right now though, so my emotions are kind of back and forth. I keep telling myself it's probably just some intense warmup.
So in your shoes I would be upset and unsure of what to do. But I think I'd say no, that I didn't feel comfortable with the ACMW overseeing the labor/birth b/c you just don't feel as strong a bond with her.
With DS1 I had an apprentice oversee the birth while my mw was mostly in the background - but I had seen the apprentice at almost every appt. with DS1 *and* DD before him (and she'd been at DD's birth). If I hadn't felt that I really knew her, her style, personality, and had a bond with her, I'd have said I didn't want her to be the one "in charge" at the birth so to speak. I'd also not want a whole bunch of people at the birth. I think it's completely your call and that you're not overreacting at all!
Me I've been having regular contractions all afternoon, about 10-12 min apart like clockwork, and lasting about a minute each. I've been sitting, standing, cooking, cleaning, etc. and still been having them. No show or anything else. Was enough for me to ask DH to go ahead and move the den furniture though, so the birth tub has space. Kids and I are supposed to have an art class out of town (about an hour drive) tomorrow and right now I don't feel confident enough anything is happening to cancel. I'll wait and see what's happening overnight and in the morning. Not sure I feel ready for the babe right now though, so my emotions are kind of back and forth. I keep telling myself it's probably just some intense warmup.
: What great news! I hope everything continues to look good with your blood work and NST!
. Cuddles to lil Alexandra from me.
