False intuition regarding gender

[PrairieBohemian]

Has anyone had a very, very strong sense of their unborn baby being one gender and then having them turn out to be another? Did you go through a period of mourning? How did you reconcile with yourself being that your intuition "failed" you?

During my whole pregnancy, I am *sure* I am pregnant with a girl, but I had a dream that this was a boy. In my dream, i couldn't even touch the baby for 5 days because I was in so much shock. I am really scared (if this is a boy), that I am going to have a really hard time with things. To top it all off, my friend's psychic son who has never been wrong on a gender prediction, said today this is a boy.

I feel I live my life with a strong sense of guidance, my North Star. If my guidance fails me, what do I have???

I am just looking to here of your experiences with gender predictions.

Thank you in advance!

[sophiesgrandma]

25 years ago I was pregnant with my 3rd child. In those days if you were young and healthy you did'nt get an amnio or any other test to see the gender. From the way I was feeling and carrying and everytime the md heard the heartbeat he was sure it was a girl. Everyone said girl. I wanted a girl but not really, as deep inside I though no one could know what it was. When I was in labor, everyone said girl. They were sure. Well, of course, out popped a beautiful baby boy. What a surprise. I was soooo happy. So I had a girl and 2 boys and lots of years of joy.

[DreamsInDigital]

With this baby, I felt very strongly I was having a girl but the ultrasound was very clear that I'm having a boy. It took me several days to get over it and accept my (4th) son but I am coming to terms with it.

[TzippityDoulah]

I honestly think soetimes we have a "strong feeling" that is wrong. stems from hopeful feelings or maybe everyone's opinions or other such things. and this too makes me wonder how can we trust ourselves? and then I realized, it isn't meant to be that we KNOW the gender of the baby. it doesn't harm us or make it better for us to know.. it really doesn't do anything for us to know ahead of time. so I think when it MATTERS and is important out gut feelings are more likely to be right.

with my first I thought it was a girl until 7th month when I got an u/s and found it was a boy. I was in total shock. but I finally got used to the idea. funny b/c I always wanted a boy first to begin with!

[Tellera]

I was certain I was having a girl with my first. When the ultrasound clearly showed boy, I was shocked. It took me quite some time to work it out. I wasn't in any way upset about him being a boy, I was just so shocked that I was wrong.

[Hesperia]

First off, I don't have any experience in gender intuition dreams, since I've never been pregnant, but I do often have intense dreams and follow my intuition on a daily basis!

If you dreamed your child was a boy, and you were upset, that is you dealing with those feelings NOW. You are working through the ideas of some disappointment with your intuition being wrong. I find if I dream something like that (or, a fear of something happening), it will never happen, because I've already dealt with those issues during my sleeping hours. Guarding myself, so to say.

Spend some time in the evenings thinking about a baby boy, where you'd kiss him on the nose, his hands, his little smile. Let those thoughts enter your sleep with you.

I would pick up a copy of birthing from within by Pam England. She has some really awesome exercises to help work through birth related fears/worries. If you haven't already read it, she talks a lot about the mothers emotional state during labour, and how it can impact labours progress. She focuses on dealing with things now. Just like you have started!!

Wishing you an easy birth and a happy healthy baby. :

[zjande]

I knew my 3rd baby was a girl in my belly. Like, KNEW. We even came up with our baby's name because when I was 5 weeks pregnant I had a dream in which a girl very clearly told me that that was her name. All my dreams were of girls. I would try to picture a boy baby in there & chuckle at the thought- there were no boy parts in there! The thought was silly! I was given pink gifts even. In my heart of hearts, I felt I was carrying a girl.

And what popped out of me in November 2005? A boy. I was shocked out of my head. But you know what? I just laughed. Laughed out loud & said "it's a boy?????" over & over. And the laughter was genuine. I was surprised but I was also beyond overjoyed that I'd just birthed my baby. Y'know? You get that crazy rush of love after birth. That pretty much cured any mourning that I may have done. I was just so excited to gaze at that new yummy baby.

Two years later I carried another baby that I didn't let myself listen to my intuition *at all* on. I lost all trust in my intuition on that matter!! I birthed another boy (my 4th baby, 3rd boy in a row). That time, honestly, I think I did spend a minute or 2 feeling a sincere mourning. But only a minute or 2. I really, really hope & dream that I'll have another girl someday. I have a whole collection of sweet little pink clothes even. We'll see.............

My son who I was convinced was a girl though, I have to explain over&over where I got his name because it is so unique (Xeowyn= "ZAY-oh-win"). People always ask "where did you get that name?" and I will forever have to explain "well, I had this dream where a girl told me that she was my daughter & that was her name..."

[Labbemama]

My intuition record is 0-3. That's right I was wrong every single time. I had dreams they were the opposite gender. Esp. with my first. I clung to all Manda's girl stuff picturing two little sisters together figured we wouldn't get a boy because dh wanted a boy so bad. HE wanted 1 of each and then to quit. LOL. and then had ds. Then when I had my third I was just sure it was another boy. So sure I only picked out a boy's name until very late when we found out she was a girl.

No, I wasn't disappointed. I was suprised. Suprised my intuition was so OFF.

I don't like being wrong though. Because dh always bet against me.

[whalemilk]

With this one I was sure I was having a boy. I kept having dreams about the birth where it was a girl, though. But I thought it was a boy, the first midwife I saw thought it was a boy because of the heart rate and intuition, and I assumed we were probably right, but I just couldn't check in with the baby intuitively like I was able to with my firstborn. Then an ultrasound at 32 weeks yielded a very unambiguous crotch shot--definitely a girl. I was in total shock for a few days (though happy shock, I had always wanted two girls so they could be sisters to each other), and went through a little bit of grief letting go of the image I had in my head of a boy, his name, etc.

In retrospect I think I had just kind of assumed that I'd have a boy this time because I had a girl the first time. Silly, I know, but I also assumed this one would have dark hair and eyes (like my husband) because the first one is fair and blue eyed like me. That also turned out to not be true, if it weren't for the 2 year age difference, these kids look like twins.

[Collinsky]

I was certain my second was a boy - when she was coming out I was telling my Dh "Don't pull on him!" I was surprised when she was a she, but not in a bad way. In fact it seemed so RIGHT and I remember being glad she was who she was, even though I had so expected a son.

[claddaghmom]

This is a very interesting topic!

From the beginning, I have been sure I am having a boy. All my dreams are boy dreams, with a few twin dreams.

My one and only U/S showed a girl.


So we will see.

[CarolynnMarilynn]

I was certain my last baby was a girl. She had a name, I had dreams where I met her, and a girl just seemed right. I was certain. I was wrong! I am now smitten with my little boy. I am a bit ashamed to remember that my first words to him were, "You're not a Samara!" (that was our chosen name). I didn't mean it in a disappointed way, I was just gobsmacked. Now he is so here and it is terrific. Now a girl feels all wrong! :

[bri276]

I was very sure it was a boy until a couple of weeks before she was born. that's when a little doubt began creeping in. and sure enough, she was a girl, and I really was surprised. but, that's why I didn't find out- I *wanted* to be surprised. (plus I've known people whose u/s predictions were wrong.)

from my own spiritual perspective, which in no way am I trying to convince others of, when we reincarnate we are not always the same gender. so I think it's possible that a soul that had just come from one gender in their past life, or who was one gender on the other side, could be sending off a lot of vibes from that gender, even if in this life they are going to be born as the opposite. so that is one explantion that makes sense to me why a mother would get the "wrong" feeling- it might sound silly to everyone else, though!

[morning glory]

With my first two I figured they were boys and they were...this one I feel like its a girl...we'll see I guess.

I'm not one of those people who just "knows" though...and even when I have an idea about it I try not to get attached to it because I don't want to have the baby and think "Who ARE you???" because I had my heart and mind set on someone else showing up!

[Juniperberry]

With my first I just knew from day one that it was a boy and I wasn't surprised at all with the u/s confirmed it. I had wanted a boy first (so maybe it was hopeful thinking?).

With this baby I was convinced it was a girl (but on reflextion that was probably more hopeful thinking than anything else). I really wanted a girl this time... and I'm not ashamed to say I was very upset when I found out it was a boy.. It's normal to feel dissapointment... but it does go away. I now can't wait to meet my second little boy.. we have his name picked out and I can't wait for DS 1 to have a little brother. I'm getting sooo excited abut him joining our family. I still hope I have a girl some day - I'd love to have that mother-daughter bond... but I'm more than happy with my boy (s).

[BetsyS]

I just knew my second baby was a girl. Just *knew* it. I bought a little pink bow on the way to the hospital. LOL. He is a boy.

For me, I think it's because my second pregnancy was sooooo different than my first. Like 180 degrees different. In everything. Turns out, this baby's personality is 180 degrees different than my first. In everything. LOL. It just had nothing to do with gender.

[boscopup]

My story is similar to Juniperberry's.

With my first, I just KNEW it was a boy. All along, I was thinking boy. We didn't find out the gender ahead of time, and when he came out and they said "It's a boy!", I was like "Yeah, I knew that!" He just always felt like a boy, and I just KNEW he was.

Second one comes along, and I had this same feeling that it was a girl. Very strong feeling. We decided to find out the gender that time, so at the 20 week u/s, we took a peak, and the OB's exact words were "It's a boy! He's a BIG boy!" Yes, it was that obvious. The disappointment I had at that moment was not the fact that I was having a boy (I had actually kind of WANTED another boy, and I'm very happy I did!), but that my intuition was broken!

This time, I am hoping for a girl (this will be our last, and I really want to sew girly clothes!!! Plus we've always wanted at least one of each, so we can experience both genders), but I'm not even trying to think of what I *think* the baby is. I'm just waiting until the 20 week u/s and will find out then. Boys are a lot of fun, and I really enjoy my boys. I'm so glad #2 was a boy.

But that moment of disappointment at the u/s... the biggest reason I decided I wanted to find out at 20 weeks instead of birth is because I didn't want that moment of disappointment to be at the birth... not just for me, but for other family members (some are wanting us to have a girl pretty badly). I just didn't want any disappointment around the birth, ya know? I felt like it was better for us to get any disappointment out of our systems at 20 weeks, and then we'd all be : when our wonderful new baby came into the world. And that is exactly what happened. So it worked well for us, and I plan to do the same again. That and if it's a girl, I would have a LOT of clothes to get, cute girly diapers to make, etc.... And I don't like yellow and green.

[phatchristy]

I'm 3 for 3...which honestly means I've never really had a surprise. I've always known.

So, my intuition was (at the beginning of pregnancy) was that this one is a girl. SO...I'm hoping I'm wrong, because darn it I WANT a surprise for a change LOL.



(though honestly don't care about gender either way, it would just be nice to be surprised!)

[kerikadi]

I was POSITIVE that baby #5 was a boy. I bought boy clothes and boyish diapers

When SHE was born I was annoyed that I was wrong but fell in love with her immediately.

This is exactly why I don't find out what my babies are before they are born.
If I knew ahead of time #5 was a girl I would have been disappointed and maybe even sad for who knows how long.
Finding out after she came out of my body, after labor, after pushing it's VERY different (I know I found out via U/S with my first 2). When you find out upon birth you are elated.

So you may be surprised and a tiny bit diappointed but there will be so much love

I do miss having a boy. I even looked at DD the other day and wondered what she would look like if she were a boy but that just wasn't in the cards and I strongly believe there is a reason.

[Haselnuss]

I was sure my first was a boy - I really felt a boyish "vibe", and really only imagined having a boy. Even with an u/s at 20 weeks where the technician claimed to be "70% sure" it was a girl, I kept thinking of the baby as a boy until she was born.
I wasn't disappointed in not having a boy, but I was a little unnerved by the idea that my intuition had been wrong. Interestingly, strangers kept making comments on my big or handsome "boy" for the next year or so, even when she was dressed in pink - something that never happened with her two younger sisters. As much as I hate the term, she could be described as a classic "tomboy" now. I wonder whether I picked up on her personality after all, and immediately stereotyped it as male. It makes me question, now, how quick I am to assume something is masculine or feminine. With my other babies, I haven't even attempted to guess the sex, but only to get some sense of their personalities, and I really felt like I knew them by the time they were born. Interestingly, this one (due in Dec.) has a "vibe" more similar to my oldest than to the two younger girls - this time I know better than to interpret that as "male", though!