*sigh*
Within a few days of each other, DH's friend & his wife had their son, my friend from high school had her son.
My friends baby turned up with group b strep & is spending a week in the hospital on IV antibiotics. She's upset that they wouldn't go ahead & circ him after the first couple days of birth like they would if she was taking him home then, because she doesn't want to have to deal with a circ wound when they circ him the day he's going home. She figured since he had to stay there anyway, they could just go ahead & do it, then it would have time to heal as he's stuck in the hospital on IV's.
I've talked to her & gave her info since she found out she was pregnant, it's obviously fallen on deaf ears. Actually, she was just always amazed that my DH "allowed" me to leave our son intact.
DH's friend actually didn't like the idea of having his son circ'ed, but didn't want to argue with his wife about anything so he "went with the flow of things." He was circ'ed today. She feels that she went through a c-section (not sure why yet), so it's no big deal to have him circ'ed. The quote was, "at least he doesn't have to go through surgery like I did, it's just a procedure!" From what I understand a nurse actually corrected her, that it was surgical & that she was signing a surgical release, but she argued with the nurse, compared it to having her ears piereced or a hang nail, & saying that surgery is what she went through, something that doesn't just take 5 minutes doesn't count as surgery anymore than a hangnail being cut off as surgery & that it's just like getting your ears pierced because she got her ears numbed like she's sure they will do her sons penis, so that means it's about equal pain wise...why that makes sense, I don't know.
I'll admit I didn't talk to her, she wasn't into hearing it at all, avoided me because I'm that crazy woman who left her son intact once she found out that DH & I talked about it with her husband over dinner one day (it was in the context of the convo, he mentioned it), & even went as far as to call us when she knew I wasn't home to thank DH for the baby gift that I went out & bought, wrapped, & shipped. Not sure why I'm suprised, guess I'm just suprised at the reaction & how she appears to thing a circ is like piercing ears.
So. Wow. I'm just speechless when I really think about it all. Sad, & speechless. And I had to share somewhere, because I just can't keep this all to myself without screaming. It's not so much the circ, even though it bothers me, it's the comments & thought processes of people that get to me. And it's times like these when I hope the baby I'm pregnant with is also a boy, so I can be that crazy woman with 2 intact boys.
Within a few days of each other, DH's friend & his wife had their son, my friend from high school had her son.
My friends baby turned up with group b strep & is spending a week in the hospital on IV antibiotics. She's upset that they wouldn't go ahead & circ him after the first couple days of birth like they would if she was taking him home then, because she doesn't want to have to deal with a circ wound when they circ him the day he's going home. She figured since he had to stay there anyway, they could just go ahead & do it, then it would have time to heal as he's stuck in the hospital on IV's.
I've talked to her & gave her info since she found out she was pregnant, it's obviously fallen on deaf ears. Actually, she was just always amazed that my DH "allowed" me to leave our son intact.
DH's friend actually didn't like the idea of having his son circ'ed, but didn't want to argue with his wife about anything so he "went with the flow of things." He was circ'ed today. She feels that she went through a c-section (not sure why yet), so it's no big deal to have him circ'ed. The quote was, "at least he doesn't have to go through surgery like I did, it's just a procedure!" From what I understand a nurse actually corrected her, that it was surgical & that she was signing a surgical release, but she argued with the nurse, compared it to having her ears piereced or a hang nail, & saying that surgery is what she went through, something that doesn't just take 5 minutes doesn't count as surgery anymore than a hangnail being cut off as surgery & that it's just like getting your ears pierced because she got her ears numbed like she's sure they will do her sons penis, so that means it's about equal pain wise...why that makes sense, I don't know.
I'll admit I didn't talk to her, she wasn't into hearing it at all, avoided me because I'm that crazy woman who left her son intact once she found out that DH & I talked about it with her husband over dinner one day (it was in the context of the convo, he mentioned it), & even went as far as to call us when she knew I wasn't home to thank DH for the baby gift that I went out & bought, wrapped, & shipped. Not sure why I'm suprised, guess I'm just suprised at the reaction & how she appears to thing a circ is like piercing ears.
So. Wow. I'm just speechless when I really think about it all. Sad, & speechless. And I had to share somewhere, because I just can't keep this all to myself without screaming. It's not so much the circ, even though it bothers me, it's the comments & thought processes of people that get to me. And it's times like these when I hope the baby I'm pregnant with is also a boy, so I can be that crazy woman with 2 intact boys.
I actually have wondered before if this is a common thought process for mothers who want to circ-- I've endured so much pain, inconvenience, whatever; it's no big deal for the baby to have some pain, too. (maybe even "men never have to go through this pain"?) That seems SO far-fetched, and yet, for someone with good information to *still* circumcise.... it defies typical explanation, for me, so I guess I'm searching for obscure reasons. 
