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post #41 of 51
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Originally Posted by ms.shell View Post
maybe ya'll can help me calm down before i show my butt when dp gets home.
I have been crying and am really upset and am in danger of really showing my behind when dp gets home.
I'm glad it worked out and that you had a nice evening. I just had to post because I have never in my life heard this expression quoted above! I have no clue what it means, but it sure does sound funny!
post #42 of 51
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
Hmm in every wedding I've been to, the rehearsal has just been for those who are actually in the wedding.

Strange. Every wedding I have been a part of, the spouse of the bridesmaid/groomsman, and parents of the flower girl/ring bearer, are invited to the rehearsal dinner.

Guess it is a regional thing, or a family thing.
post #43 of 51
oops ... i should have kept reading b4 posting :
post #44 of 51
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Originally Posted by Einley View Post
I just had to post because I have never in my life heard this expression quoted above! I have no clue what it means, but it sure does sound funny!
It means the same thing as this smilie. Of course, I've always heard it as "showing your a&$," but maybe the op was trying to be more polite.
post #45 of 51
Thread Starter 
LOL.
My mama always said it as another way of saying "pitch a fit"....you know, act ugly.
post #46 of 51
It is possible that you are not invited. This past May we went to a wedding and the groom's family did not invite spouses or parents (of the flower girl) to the rehearsal dinner. They didn't want to pay for extra dinners. I don't think that is considered "proper" however.

They could have also messed up the invitations though.
post #47 of 51
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Originally Posted by ms.shell View Post
LOL.
My mama always said it as another way of saying "pitch a fit"....you know, act ugly.
Okay, pitch a fit I understand! But I do like this new (to me) saying of showing your behind!
post #48 of 51
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Originally Posted by ms.shell View Post
it was fine. yes, i was supposed to be there and was. it was at an italian restaraunt, in the courtyard outdoors. we didnt stay very long and were home by 9...which was just great with both of us, as we had an overnight babysitter and enjoyed some alone time together last night

now i have a new problem, in that the beautiful long black dress i bought last week to wear to the wedding tonight now barely fits! I thought I had room to grow, but apparently i grew A LOT this last week! I got it zipped up, and I have to wear it, but it sure is tight! dont think im gonna be able to eat ( or take deep breaths) at the reception, lol.
So, did the dress fit?
post #49 of 51
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Originally Posted by Verity View Post
I wasn't invited to my husband's sister's rehearsal dinner, but he was left out, too. All we heard was something about the rehearsal dinner being "for the wedding party and out-of-town guests." WTH? It was ok to exclude the bride's brother and his wife just because we happened to live in the same city where the wedding was taking place? : It didn't bother him, but it sure as heck bothered me. My husband was not in the wedding party, but it just seems rude not to invite the bride's siblings and their partners.

In your case, I think it's even more rude because your dp IS in the wedding party. There's an even bigger "WTH?" here!!!
But you were not in the wedding party so thus the reason not included. I dont necesirlally agree with that, but if they were working on a budget or thought maybe you didnt need to come to yet another wedding event, I could see why. I guess I love when I am not included in things because that is one less thing I have to do!


OTH,
FWIW, my ILs throw a great rehearsal dinner. I guess with 6 boys, they know how to do it! But since they have 9 children total plus spouses, children etc, they invite everyone to the dinner but its at their house. So along w their family, out of town guests from both sides, they also have the wedding party. With all those people, whats 12 or so more? Not a big deal because its at their house but if it was at a restuarant, it could be really pricey.
My brother's rehearsal dinner that my folks paid for 15 plus years ago for 40 people was about 6K. My parents were not on a budget or on a fixed income so it was not an issue. I do know the Mother of the bride was miffed that their best friends were not invited. My parents best friends were invited but he was a reader in the wedding. My parents said to invite them, but my brother and SIL said no. Whatever. My parents left it at that. Remember, they went off the list that my brother and SIL gave them.
post #50 of 51
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Originally Posted by Amys1st View Post
But you were not in the wedding party so thus the reason not included. I dont necesirlally agree with that, but if they were working on a budget or thought maybe you didnt need to come to yet another wedding event, I could see why.
These people had plenty of money, so that wasn't the issue. The other problem was that my husband also was excluded. No, he wasn't in the wedding party, but the bride was his sister. I've never heard of not inviting the bride's immediate family to a rehearsal dinner.

The other thing that rubbed me the wrong way was that my husband's brother and his girlfriend were invited to the rehearsal dinner because they were "out of town guests." WTH? We didn't rate an invitation just because we happened to live in the city where the wedding was taking place?

I guess I could chalk it up to my SIL's husband's family being socially inept, but I swear, I still think about it every time I see my SIL.
post #51 of 51
I guess in that situation when everyone else is invited like your other BILs etc I would also wonder why you and DH were not invited.
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