Originally Posted by justme&my3+1
I know, weird title. But seriously, this is my second son, the first I curcumsised and felt guilty later. Sometime last year I was here on MDC and lurking the posts, like I do daily and came across a post here in this group with a video on youtube of a doctor doing a circumsision and the baby screamed and screamed and I cried. I felt horrible and kept thinking about my son who at that time was 4 years old.
Fast forward to this February when I found out I was pregnant. One of the first things I thought about was if it's a boy I will not circ.
He is a little over a month old and I have had 3 different doctors, my pedi, and family members ask me why I didn't circ him. All I can think of to say is "because I didn't want him to go through the pain". Boy can people come up with some crazy reasons as to why that "little bit of pain" is nothing.
I wish I had a more informed answer to say to everyone. I feel dumb when I answer, and have even doubted my descision because of it.
So please, tell me why you didn't circ your son so I know I did something better for him than "just save him a little bit of pain"
Well I can tell you why I wished I had not been circumcised. The answer is simple, and this is what you can tell the doctors. Its my body (or when you tell other you can say, its his body) and no one but the owner of that body has the right to make that kind of decision.
Do you need an excuse for why you kept your sons ears? His fingers? Or any other of his body parts? No! Because the answer is obvious, its his body, and doing such things is morally wrong.
I dont want to get into this subject, but I think its the best way for a mother to understand what I mean. You know all the women out there who are pro-choice, but say personally they would never have an abortion? Thats because being able to have that control, being able to make those decisions for yourself makes all the difference in how you feel about yourself, and the situation you decide to choose as a women.
That same feeling is what I feel about circumcision. Its not that I hate my penis, its that I feel really disappointed and slightly violated that such a person decision relating to my manhood was taken away from me. (and when I say manhood, I do not mean penis, I mean the essence of being male)
Do not let anyone, not doctors, not family, or anyone let you feel uncertain about what you did, or better yet, what you didn't do.
You have not closed off the option of circ to him if he wants it, if have taken nothing away. You have gave him the ability to control his own body, and let him make such a decision for himself, if its something he ever thinks about at all that is.