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post #201 of 1083
Those are beautiful!
post #202 of 1083
Since I am not entirely sure of the requirements for your clothes, I can't really give any advice (sorry!)

But congrats none the less!
post #203 of 1083
Okay I too don't know what your attire requirements are so I'm not sure if these suggestions will fit... I second the idea of a skirt/blouse combo if you don't like dresses. Maybe a nice full skirt with a silk blouse? A cream or other soft color would be pretty. My cousin-in-law wore a gold gown for her wedding and it was actually rather beautiful too... it was a soft gold color. That maybe a thought too if you want something a little more dressy. I like the idea of the mantilla or other lace veils but if you can't have lace what about a silk veil?

Here are some silk veils for a decent price. They are white but are dyeable and they have other silk products like scarves, etc. also.
http://www.dharmatrading.com/html/en...rves_silk.html

The site also has clothing items that can be dyed too. Be forewarned it is not a modest clothing site and a lot of the clothing isn't modest. There are a few very nice basic pieces though. They are good prices too. I'm hoping to order some things from there soon. I hope this helps you. If you can give us a few details on your clothing requirements we can help some more. I just don't want to offend you by offering something that is against your beliefs.
post #204 of 1083
Hey all! I don't cover but I have been greatly considering it. As I said on the Modest Mommas tribe I have been considering it not for religious reasons (I am LDS/Mormon) but for personal reasons. I have always been very sensitive about my hair and don't allow others to touch it- only DH. DH's brushing and braiding it nightly is something very personal and intimate between us and more and more we both have been wanting me to sort of make my hair more private. I have stopped wearing it down as much.

I can totally see this...

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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
But I know bodily privacy matters to him a lot, and the fact that he may see more of me than other men bolsters that feeling of connection.
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
Jews cover at marriage, and for us it's because there are parts of your body that are private and only to be shared with a husband.
...as that is how both DH and I have been feeling.

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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
Sooo ... anyone want to help me figure out what to wear to my own wedding in, um, roughly two weeks?
Woah! CONGRATS!!!! : I have been lurking on your blog for some time. Your children are so gorgeous! I am quite a fan of yours and am so glad to see such joy coming your way!! :

Anyway- hello everyone, I have loved this thread, and I hope no one minds my lurking.
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post #206 of 1083
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Lurk away, mags and kidz!
post #207 of 1083
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Originally Posted by Faliciagayle View Post
What's your idea of opulent?

You can't do lace unless you have an under scarf, right? My first thought is a mantilla type veil, possibly beaded but I don't know how well that would translate into a hijab.

Mazal tov on the wedding! ::

what is the traditional congratulatory greeting/wish for Muslims?
Opulent ... I suppose "elaborate" or "ornate" would be a better word maybe. I have some nice potentially-more-formal silk scarves, chiffons, fabric trims and beads, etc .... but I'm always tying scarves in pretty much just one really basic wrap-around way, so I could definitely use some creative inspiration. I thought about mantillas, but triangular scarves are a little awkward for me. So I thought about just lace ... which led to the realization that pre-made lace scarves that aren't just netting labeled as lace are a hard find. Which led me to thinking about table runners and curtain panels, which was a line of thinking that wasn't going anywhere good so I just dropped it.

Traditional greetings ... um, "mabrook"? Though technically that's just arabic for "congratulations," so the english is all the same anyway. And thanks.

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I like the idea of a skirt suit, maybe in a soft color (can you do off-white or pastels?) with a lacey, complementary soft-colored scarf. Got anything like that? Need someone to wrangle the little ones while you shop/try on?
Know anywhere that sells full-length-skirted skirt suits that also don't look too "mother of the bride" and that would fit the body of a woman who's still feeling very post-partum fluffy? It occurs to me that's probably not so easy a find.

I have a pretty, deep mauve skirt that I'm thinking would be nice, a pashmina of the same color, georgette scarves of the same color and cream colors, a few yards of a wide cream crocheted lace trim, a yard or so of this embroidered trim, some strings of freshwater pearls ........... it's just a matter of figuring out what to put with what to be pretty without looking like I'm shooting for the hijabi equivalent of Marie Antoinette at a ball.

Oh. And I have these shoes, which for my non-heel wearing self (um, not a religious thing, just a klutz thing) are just perfect.

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I was just looking at wedding gowns, and holy crap is this one gorgeous! I love that they're not white.
Malaysian women rock for style. If you ever read muslim fashion blogs, so much of the style advice is pulled straight from Malaysian magazines.

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Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove View Post
Since I am not entirely sure of the requirements for your clothes, I can't really give any advice (sorry!)

But congrats none the less!
Thanks.

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Originally Posted by brittneyscott View Post
Okay I too don't know what your attire requirements are so I'm not sure if these suggestions will fit... I second the idea of a skirt/blouse combo if you don't like dresses. Maybe a nice full skirt with a silk blouse? A cream or other soft color would be pretty. ...

Here are some silk veils for a decent price. They are white but are dyeable and they have other silk products like scarves, etc. also.
http://www.dharmatrading.com/html/en...rves_silk.html

... I hope this helps you. If you can give us a few details on your clothing requirements we can help some more. I just don't want to offend you by offering something that is against your beliefs.
Thanks for the input. Clothing requirements are just to the ankle / to the wrist / over the neck / and something to cover the hair completely ... but I don't really do restrictions on colors, patterns, materials, etc, and while I don't do form-fitting I also don't demand completely unfitted. I like to think I'm not TOO challenging. I'm also not that easily offended, honest.

Dyed-to-match can be very useful, but my procrastination probably also makes it impractical.

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Woah! CONGRATS!!!! : I have been lurking on your blog for some time. Your children are so gorgeous! I am quite a fan of yours and am so glad to see such joy coming your way!! :
Thanks! I have lurkers? You shouldn't tell me that, I'll feel all obligated to actually write something more than once per millennium.
post #208 of 1083
Thread Starter 
Liquesce, I love the idea of mauve and cream. If you need help with triangular scarves, that's what I usually use, so I could give you a quick tutorial. You're the queen of the big, honkin' rectangle, right?

I've actually found really beautiful not mother-of-the-bride-y stuff at Alfred Angelo and at Boscov's. Let me see if I can dig that up online.
post #209 of 1083
Thread Starter 
Ok, this from Alfred Angelo. If your hijab covers the collar or you wear a cream dickie under it or something.

.........aaaaaaaaaaaaand Boscov's sucked.
post #210 of 1083
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Ok, this from Alfred Angelo. If your hijab covers the collar or you wear a cream dickie under it or something.

.........aaaaaaaaaaaaand Boscov's sucked.
i LOVE that! :

Liquesce- if you are still looking for lace, Halo-Works.com has some really really nice longer veils/mantillas. Some of them are almost shall length.
post #211 of 1083
ooooh. I like that Alfred Angelo offering. The neckline is a little daring but overall - very pretty! I wonder if they offer that top with a long (and modest) skirt. That would be perfect!

I was a lurker for a while but am so happy I decided to jump on in!

I have no doubt that you will be a beautiful bride! I'm a big fan of golds, maroons and earthy greens (probably why I like that pant suit so much!)... but those are my peferences. Mauve is really pretty too, like you mentioned!

All the best on your wedding day!

-Deedee
post #212 of 1083
OK, I have what is probably a stupid question, but how to you keep it on? I have seen the links here and know that many if not most knot the hair, but what if you don't?

I think I would like one that is tied back but letting my hair hang long like this one from Garlands of Grace.

My hair is really thick and very course but straightish. Meaning that it has no curl or real wave to hold things in, and does not hold shape long before "falling out" back to it's original straightish condition, and I get horrid headaches if it is too tight, worn up, or pulled back in a bun or pony tail. I can wear metal clips to pull it back from my face, but small things like bobby pins, clips, or plastic comb clamps usually fall right out and combs fall out as well as give me a headache. (I am very headache prone.) I have one rubbery headband that I can wear, but it slips back (though it does stay on), and the back is like a cloth elastic pony tail holder, but it makes the back of my neck itch and hurt after a short while.

I also usually have "long" hair, though right now I cut it "short" (meaning it is about eight inches below my shoulders) because I have massive fall out after having a baby, but it quickly grows back.

I don't cover because of a religious conviction, but I like the idea of the modesty and feminity of it (I am a Christian and think women should have "girl" hair though). So I thought a light covering might be really good, and perhaps grow on me. If only I could figure it out.

Like perhaps if it was cloth and tied back into a pony tail (similar to the link above). Or something like a modified Jerusalem twist (with my hair hanging down). But how can I get it to stay on? I just don't want to be fighting with it all day long or constantly readjusting it, I know if that is the case, I would take it off and go without.

Also, is there a better cloth, length, shape, color, twist, knot that I should know? I think I would prefer something that did not stand out (darker colors that match my darker hair).

I know I sound ignorant. And I guess I am. That is why I am asking.
post #213 of 1083
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
Ok, this from Alfred Angelo. If your hijab covers the collar or you wear a cream dickie under it or something.

.........aaaaaaaaaaaaand Boscov's sucked.
oh love that!
post #214 of 1083
KIDZ-

I get terrible headaches from high ponytails or buns or any other form of knot that puts pressure on my head. actually it gets bad - usuall turns into a migraine. so I wear mine in low buns or braids etc... whatever i can manage to put the least pull on my head. I wear scarves and snood mostly. I go for very leightweight stuff and hold it on with clippies and bobby pins.

maybe a small triangle scarf or kerchief would work for you? I have a few things from garlands of grace but they change their stock so often you rarely see the same thing twice... so I don't know much about what they have right now. my advise is go with the lanky thin materials that drape. not with the basic "cotton" as it is usually stiff and needs more pinning to keep it on straight.

things like this:
http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.c...5_2029_7340157

or this:
http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.c..._2028_12353496

or this:
http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.c..._2030_10057332

in my experience have the best "stay put power" and the least "hurt my head and give me a migraine" issues.
post #215 of 1083
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Originally Posted by darling_deedee View Post
ooooh. I like that Alfred Angelo offering. The neckline is a little daring but overall - very pretty! I wonder if they offer that top with a long (and modest) skirt.

-Deedee
I would assume the hijab would cover the neckline making it modest on top.
post #216 of 1083
Liquesce - congratulations and enjoy your special day.

I have a question for all of you who purchase online - has anyone used "Modest World"? They have the most beatiful tichel scarves I have seen online but I am hesitant to order from them because they do not offer a real address. I emailed them asking their whereabouts and I received a polite reply saying they were based in Israel but no street address.

Any reviews? Thank you.
post #217 of 1083
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Originally Posted by Kidzaplenty View Post
OK, I have what is probably a stupid question, but how to you keep it on? I have seen the links here and know that many if not most knot the hair, but what if you don't?

I think I would like one that is tied back but letting my hair hang long like this one from Garlands of Grace.

My hair is really thick and very course but straightish. Meaning that it has no curl or real wave to hold things in, and does not hold shape long before "falling out" back to it's original straightish condition, and I get horrid headaches if it is too tight, worn up, or pulled back in a bun or pony tail. I can wear metal clips to pull it back from my face, but small things like bobby pins, clips, or plastic comb clamps usually fall right out and combs fall out as well as give me a headache. (I am very headache prone.) I have one rubbery headband that I can wear, but it slips back (though it does stay on), and the back is like a cloth elastic pony tail holder, but it makes the back of my neck itch and hurt after a short while.

I also usually have "long" hair, though right now I cut it "short" (meaning it is about eight inches below my shoulders) because I have massive fall out after having a baby, but it quickly grows back.

I don't cover because of a religious conviction, but I like the idea of the modesty and feminity of it (I am a Christian and think women should have "girl" hair though). So I thought a light covering might be really good, and perhaps grow on me. If only I could figure it out.

Like perhaps if it was cloth and tied back into a pony tail (similar to the link above). Or something like a modified Jerusalem twist (with my hair hanging down). But how can I get it to stay on? I just don't want to be fighting with it all day long or constantly readjusting it, I know if that is the case, I would take it off and go without.

Also, is there a better cloth, length, shape, color, twist, knot that I should know? I think I would prefer something that did not stand out (darker colors that match my darker hair).

I know I sound ignorant. And I guess I am. That is why I am asking.
I noticed you said the plastic combs give you headaches. Are you talking about the big plastic comb clips (you know, the big hinged ones?), or the wee plastic combs?
I actually sewed the clear plastic combs into the front of each of my coverings to help keep it on. Between the comb and the ties (I wear tiechels), the covering doesn't move.
post #218 of 1083
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Originally Posted by Tuesday View Post
Liquesce - congratulations and enjoy your special day.

I have a question for all of you who purchase online - has anyone used "Modest World"? They have the most beatiful tichel scarves I have seen online but I am hesitant to order from them because they do not offer a real address. I emailed them asking their whereabouts and I received a polite reply saying they were based in Israel but no street address.

Any reviews? Thank you.


I bought from them a long time ago, when I was still in NYC. The scarves I got from them were beautiful. Still have them.

The snood I got from them (went through a brief snood phase ... ahem ... it got better) was cheap, though. Started shredding within a month.
post #219 of 1083
Patience and Love!

What a great idea - the tiny plastic combs on your tichels. I'm going to do likewise. Sure would save me from the number of bobby pins I go through!

Thanks!
post #220 of 1083
Thanks for the idea. I have not tried the little combs like that. My hair is such that things usually have to be tight to keep them in. But it would seem that they would not necessarily be tight inorder for them to work this way. So perhaps they would not give me a headache.

I have appreciated the info in this thread.

Thanks!
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