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post #761 of 1083
The way I dress outside and inside is becoming more similar these days. In the beginning, they were much more different. Outside, modest with a scarf... inside...whatever. But as the kids accumulated, and the clothing budget decreased, these days I'm unlikely to buy something unless it works in both worlds.

I don't wear a scarf inside... but I will keep the head-band-type thing of the two-piece Al Amirah hijabs on sometimes... simply because it keeps my way too frizzy, thick hair out of my face. It's not a modesty thing... just a practical thing.

I know many women who buy lots of revealing clothes to wear at home (revealing meaning sleeveless, cute tank dresses, shorts, etc.)... and then do a simple cover-up with an abaya when they go out. For me, that's too much effort. I will dress up in lingerie and fun stuff for DH... but in general, around the house you'll find me in jeans or yoga pants. A short-sleeve t-shirt that is years old or that I got from some event is as about risque as I get during the day.
post #762 of 1083
We just got these curtains from IKEA. They are fantastic - they let through all the sunlight and since they're an unbleached natural cotton color, the light that comes through looks golden and very warm. I feel no need to open the drapes during the day.
post #763 of 1083
Faliciagayle - yes a shabbos robe, on shabbos, and a fleecy equivalent from Sears for everyday. For shabbos, the beauty is that it is washable, and sooo comfortable. I'd live in it if I could, although I only wear it in the house. Mine is pretty simple, and people who did not know about shabbos robes have thought it was just a nice velour dress with matching snood. For every day, it's helpful for when the kids wake me up, and I haven't had time to get dressed before I need to come downstairs to look after them. Also, if I'm doing something messy in the morning and don't want to get my clothes dirty. Or, at night if I want to take an early shower, and not get dressed properly afterwards.
post #764 of 1083
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Originally Posted by Faliciagayle View Post
We just got these curtains from IKEA. They are fantastic - they let through all the sunlight and since they're an unbleached natural cotton color, the light that comes through looks golden and very warm. I feel no need to open the drapes during the day.
Those would be perfect for our kitchen, where the patio doors are, right by the table, right opposite the neighbour's deck where they stand and look out across our yard and into our kitchen! Thanks for posting this link!
post #765 of 1083
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Originally Posted by umsami View Post
I know many women who buy lots of revealing clothes to wear at home (revealing meaning sleeveless, cute tank dresses, shorts, etc.)... and then do a simple cover-up with an abaya when they go out. For me, that's too much effort. I will dress up in lingerie and fun stuff for DH... but in general, around the house you'll find me in jeans or yoga pants. A short-sleeve t-shirt that is years old or that I got from some event is as about risque as I get during the day.
I aspire to be that woman with a cute, pulled-together home wardrobe ... and yet here I sit in an oversized Eeyore t-shirt and pajama pants. Gotta work on that.
post #766 of 1083

Garlands of Grace?

So my first ever Etsy purchase is going... nowhere? I ordered a really beautiful convertible headband from Garlands of Grace's Etsy store but I haven't heard a thing from them in almost a week. No shipping confirmation, no response to my email, nothing. I know a lot of ppl here have ordered from there... are they normally this slow? I was really looking forward to this headband and if it was good I was going to ask them to make me 3 more in different colors.
post #767 of 1083
I'm so sorry. I have no experience with them, so I don't know. I'm still waiting on a covering I ordered several weeks ago from coverings by devorah, but I expected it to take this long, because she said it would when I ordered it.
I hope they get back to you soon
post #768 of 1083
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Faliciagayle - yes a shabbos robe, on shabbos, and a fleecy equivalent from Sears for everyday. For shabbos, the beauty is that it is washable, and sooo comfortable. I'd live in it if I could, although I only wear it in the house. Mine is pretty simple, and people who did not know about shabbos robes have thought it was just a nice velour dress with matching snood. For every day, it's helpful for when the kids wake me up, and I haven't had time to get dressed before I need to come downstairs to look after them. Also, if I'm doing something messy in the morning and don't want to get my clothes dirty. Or, at night if I want to take an early shower, and not get dressed properly afterwards.
Off topic: I found a shabbos robe at goodwill a few week's back that needed major work since it was falling apart. Robes go for $4. Dresses for $6. But boutique items are at the tagger's whim. They wanted $30 for it since they thought it was a fancy dress. I tried explaining to them that it has a zipper in the front and would never be worn as a dress, but they couldn't understand it at all!
post #769 of 1083
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Originally Posted by UmmZaynab View Post
So my first ever Etsy purchase is going... nowhere? I ordered a really beautiful convertible headband from Garlands of Grace's Etsy store but I haven't heard a thing from them in almost a week. No shipping confirmation, no response to my email, nothing. I know a lot of ppl here have ordered from there... are they normally this slow? I was really looking forward to this headband and if it was good I was going to ask them to make me 3 more in different colors.
Yep, that is typical in my experience. I have never had and item ship from Garlands of Grace before the 10th business day, which is why after three orders I gave up on them. I just don't have patience for such slow production and shipping.
post #770 of 1083
the privacy question, and idea of covering differently in different situations, has me thinking about last week and my first mosque visit. after prayers, we had dinner, women in one room and men in another. i was looking around and thinking, "where did all these ladies come from?" suddenly i realized that many people (not all) had removed their hijab, and that many others had been wearing abayas over outfits that had, for example, shorter sleeves.

the woman i was with said this is why she sometimes likes gender separation at events--that she feels women can relax more, feel more like they are at home.

she also indicated that her usual mosque, meals are eaten together, so i had a glimpse of variation in customs.

don't want to get us OT here, but to give another view on the privacy & modesty question.
post #771 of 1083
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I like the gender separation, too. I'm part of a mixed-gender Torah study and a women-only Torah study, and let me tell you - the women's Torah study is so much deeper. We actually talked for a whole session about how different it was (many of us are in both groups) and how we feel like we're getting so much more out of our women's group.
post #772 of 1083
There definitely can be a huge difference in mixed gender groups vs all women. One thing I really want to find/create is a women's "spiritual" dance group. There is no reason it couldn't/shouldn't be interfaith, though I don't suppose it matters. I've had a few expeiriences when dancing in all women's groups where I found dancing to be profoundly spiritual, and was totally able to let go, and rejoice in G-d's glory and goodness and the wonder of life. I can't imagine doing so in a mixed gender group. All sorts of types of music can be like this, but there's something so freeing about being all women that lets you relax. You aren't worrying about how your dancing looks like to the other gender (is it too provacative? is it not provacative enough (I haven't done much fun dancing with both genders there since I met DP (if he's not there), and also became more religious and modest)), you can just dance. But I haven't a clue who/how to approach people about this.

sorry, I realize its kind of ot. but I would definitely love to find some all-women's spiritual groups, because its definitely different in a good way.
post #773 of 1083
Loving Old Navy, today got knee length tunics for 4.69 and nice trousers for 15.00
post #774 of 1083

Covering coaster junkies?

So, DH and I went to an amusement park today and it brought up some interesting questions. I was wearing just a long headband, like these. I am a rollercoaster JUNKIE. I LOVE them. Anyway, I kept it on for the first coaster and ended up taking it off about midway through because it felt like it was going to fall off. Second coaster it actually DID fall off and I was sooo lucky that my SIL's boyfriend (sitting behind me) caught it. I was so panicked about what I was going to do for the rest of the day with no covering! So after that I started taking it off when I got in the seat and sitting on it or something. While it wasn't really bad in that my head was mostly hidden by the harness on most of the coasters, I definitely felt "naked" in the time between taking it off and the coaster starting, and the end of the coaster and putting it back on.

But is there any covering that is "coaster proof"? I mean, there HAVE to be other headcovering coaster junkies out there. What do you do? I joked with my SIL that I really wanted to see a Muslim woman get on one so I could see how well her hajib stayed! We're probably getting a season pass for next year so while I have a bit of time to figure it out, I do want to have an option other than taking it off each time. It makes it somewhat worse that I don't DARE tell my sister it's religious (she's a very strong atheist - the kind that thinks religious people must be mentally handicapped) and every time I'd take it off she'd talk about how my pretty my hair was and how I should just leave it off and let my hair down.
post #775 of 1083
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Originally Posted by Moonprysm View Post
But is there any covering that is "coaster proof"? I mean, there HAVE to be other headcovering coaster junkies out there. What do you do? I joked with my SIL that I really wanted to see a Muslim woman get on one so I could see how well her hajib stayed!
Hijabi coaster lover here. It's not an issue ... a snug pinned wrap holds a lot better than a headband. I do tuck the ends into my shirt/jacket/whatever, but that's more to keep it from flapping behind me like a flag than anything.
post #776 of 1083
When I want my covering to stay put come hell or high water, I put my hair in braid crowns, and tie a scarf in a dutch crown. You need slightly longish hair. Make two braids, and wrap them around your head. Pin them well. (As long as the ends of the braids almost meet at the top of your head, it should work.) Then follow these directions for the dutch crown tie. The braids act as a backstop, and the tie doesn't want to go forward. I've never had it dislodge in any activity. (Without the braid backstop, my long thick hair (heavy)in a bun in back pulls it down and off. but with the braid backstop, it stays)
post #777 of 1083
I think the reason our hijabs stay on a little better is because most of us wear hijabs that go under the chin... so since I have always worn scarves pinned at my neck, I have never had a problem on a rollercoaster. I went on MANY, with hijab on, when I was in high school.
post #778 of 1083
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Originally Posted by UmmZaynab View Post
I think the reason our hijabs stay on a little better is because most of us wear hijabs that go under the chin... so since I have always worn scarves pinned at my neck, I have never had a problem on a rollercoaster. I went on MANY, with hijab on, when I was in high school.
I pin at the nape of my neck a lot rather than under the chin, but still, when there's an underscarf for traction, a pin at the nape to keep it snug, and about three more pins scattered all over my head to keep it all together ... well, that scarf just isn't going anywhere.
post #779 of 1083
Thanks ladies! That was kind of what I was thinking - something tied or pinned in the front instead of in the back would probably work best. I don't have much hair, which doesn't help (like with the headband, there isn't any hair to weigh it down and keep the elastic part from sliding up my head). I recently cut off my dreads and am now anxiously awaiting my hair to grow so that I can redo them. (They were done incorrectly the first time).
post #780 of 1083
I have a question for you ladies... I am looking for tunic tops/dresses I can put over pants. I am rather new in my journey to be more modest/covering and I figure this is a good middle step since I have a lot of trouser pants that I can put a tunic or dress over. I want at least short sleeves, though longer (like mid bicep or longer) would be preferred... any thoughts on where to buy online? Needs to be pretty cheap too...
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