Hi ladies! I admit, I've been a lurker reading this thread for several months
and I'm finally posting. Please bear with me, 'cause I'm not good at summarizing & this will probably be long! I've been wanting to discuss this for a long time.
About a year ago I read the passage in 1 Cor. 11 regarding head covering, and I've been thinking/praying/researching it off & on ever since. I really think I should be wearing one, at least while at church, but I have to admit I'm not thrilled with the idea.
I've never seen a Christian woman wearing a head covering in public around here, and I don't know anyone who wears one at church either. Of course there could be some, but I've never seen or met them! I go to a large, conservative church in the suburbs of a med/large city & no one wears a head covering. When I spoke to one of our pastors he (nicely but firmly) told me why the head covering was a cultural issue that is no longer relevant. I admit I'm afraid of being judged by the people in my church - either they'll think I have a "holier than thou" attitude, which I don't, or they'll think I'm just crazy or confused. Worst case, they might get annoyed with me... I'm also afraid of someone confronting me about it or getting into a big discussion of why it isn't necessary. I don't do so well with confrontations & heated discussions!
My parents & my husband's father have started going to the big mega-churches, which have a strong "come as you are, don't be too legalistic" approach to worship. So I know they would disagree with head covering too. And that's hard when they're the ones who raised us as Christians in the first place.
ALL that to say... I know that my fears of other people's opinions are not a good excuse to ignore something the Lord wants me to do. But I'm still scared to just jump right in with a style of head covering that really stands out. My husband supports whatever I want to do, but he would prefer that I wear something relatively stylish & not too attention-grabbing.
I thought I'd start with a very wide headband. I'm not sure if that's exactly
what the Lord wants me to do, but at least I would be attempting to follow His word & the true top/crown of my head would be covered.
I've bought several wide headband & wrap-style things in the past couple of months & they won't stay on! I think the back of my head is just shaped wrong to hold them in place???? They slide up, itch, etc. I wore one to church for the first time yesterday & tried pinning it in place, but it was really uncomfortable. I can't find a wide tie-on headband or other tie-on covering in our local stores (I've been looking for months!). Money is *really* tight for us right now, and I feel like I've already "wasted" it by buying the things I have. So I don't want to randomly start buying things online when I can't see them or try them on in person....
I'm hoping you ladies have some ideas or suggestions for me... either a cheap option I can try, styles or ideas that might work, or some sewing directions? I considered sewing something, but I'm really not sure how to design it, what shape/size/material it should be, etc. Thanks for "listening" & for any feedback!!