"Cover"-ed Girls! - Page 44

[PatienceAndLove]

DD and I made an impromtu stop at Church yesterday for me to go to Confession.
Well, I didn't have a scarf or anything in the car, had only my hoodie to cover my head. So I started with that. The hoodie felt... weird. Too heavy... too... too much, really.
So I went without. It felt really strange.
We ended up staying for Mass. As we left, Father commented that it was strange to see me without my covering, and that I was such a wonderful witness to the Eucharist and the beautiful feminism of Christianity.

[pineappletea]

A new Covered Girl

Hi everyone!

I found this forum while googling and as I registered I noticed it's a mothering website... but... I'm not a mother yet
However, I was reading some of your stories here and... I really miss reading and talking to people who might understand me and I guess you girls would.

I don't have a religion, I believe in God, but don't belong to any religion. I do consider myself religious since I do pray my own way but don't affliate with any group.

It has been a while since I felt the will to cover up. I don't know why. Maybe modesty does speak to me a lot. So, it's being a week since I've worn a headscarf. I'm doing it kinda in a tichel bum style, since it's practical and nice. What I thought was funny is that... nobody noticed! People were like "oh, nice scarf". nothing else. Of course, it's been only a week, but still... it feels nice to cover up. I like it. But I worry a little about what others might think... I know that's silly, but still...

It will be nice to keep on reading your experiences and get inspired.

[Liquesce]

Don't worry, there are a lot of other non-parents around here. Welcome to the board.

[AutumnSunshine]

Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove

We ended up staying for Mass. As we left, Father commented that it was strange to see me without my covering, and that I was such a wonderful witness to the Eucharist and the beautiful feminism of Christianity.

That must have made you feel soooo good!

[PatienceAndLove]

Originally Posted by UmmZaynab

That must have made you feel soooo good!

It did! I was all glow-y inside

[pineappletea]

Hi, all!

So, today I was sitting at a coffee shop studying when a woman - she was probably my age - approached me. She wanted to know how did I tie my scarf, because she loved it. : I thought it was pretty interesting and I showed her it was actually very easy. I also gave her the address of a website where I learned it from. do you girls know it? http://www.coveryourhair.com
I love this site. And they have so many pretty headcoverings! When I have a credit card I want to buy some ^_^

[xekomaya]

pineappletea - that's awesome! What were you covering with?


I have a question for thoughts on covering with a baseball cap. I know I've heard others mention it a few times, and I wear my baseball cap a fair amount, but I'm wondering what you do or how you feel when you're "supposed" to take off a cap. For example, at a baseball game when the national anthem plays?

We go to a lot of games and the whole situation really bugs me so just wondering if anyone has thought of it...

[jul511riv]

Originally Posted by xekomaya

pineappletea - that's awesome! What were you covering with?


I have a question for thoughts on covering with a baseball cap. I know I've heard others mention it a few times, and I wear my baseball cap a fair amount, but I'm wondering what you do or how you feel when you're "supposed" to take off a cap. For example, at a baseball game when the national anthem plays?

We go to a lot of games and the whole situation really bugs me so just wondering if anyone has thought of it...

See, this is the problem with wearing a hat, imho. It's so much easier to just tie up all your hair in a scarf. I also wear knitted caps and stuff all my hair up into it cause, espically in cold weather, no one expects you to take off a knitted hat that you are wearing for warmth, even for a national anthem or whatever.

[Magelet]

I'd wear a bandana under it. I do this sometimes with knitted hats for warmth that I don't want to wear all day, only when outside. (there is an issue of it sometimes pulls the bandana off, so make sure its pinned), but it works. Not sure how great it would look though.

(Its interesting, there are some jewish men who do this doubleing up of covering as well. I know some who will wear a kippah under their baseball cap, so that if they have to take the baseball cap off, their head is still covered.)

[PatienceAndLove]

Originally Posted by Magelet

I'd wear a bandana under it. I do this sometimes with knitted hats for warmth that I don't want to wear all day, only when outside. (there is an issue of it sometimes pulls the bandana off, so make sure its pinned), but it works. Not sure how great it would look though.

(Its interesting, there are some jewish men who do this doubleing up of covering as well. I know some who will wear a kippah under their baseball cap, so that if they have to take the baseball cap off, their head is still covered.)

A good friend of mine wears a beret over his kippah

[Ravin]

Standard etiquette for the national anthem is for civilian men only to remove hats. As historically women's head coverings have often been pinned on, etc. they're not expected to be removed, technically, though if you're wearing a traditionally-male hat such as a baseball cap, it might be expected.

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by Ravin

Standard etiquette for the national anthem is for civilian men only to remove hats. As historically women's head coverings have often been pinned on, etc. they're not expected to be removed, technically, though if you're wearing a traditionally-male hat such as a baseball cap, it might be expected.

:

I've never taken my baseball hat off (or been asked to or sneered at) at any game. Women are generally expected to keep hats on.

[xekomaya]

I do think it has to do with it being a traditionally male hat - that's for sure. I do leave my hat on, and I'm the only one in the whole stadium as far as I can tell (can't see all 45k of course lol).

It really is only an issue of the games I guess. In general life, if I know I'm going somewhere nice that I want to take it off, I have time to switch to a scarf.

Maybe I'll see if I can fit a bandanna under it in some graceful way. I also need to get a wide brimmed hat for sun protection and at least there will be no expectation of taking that off.

[TzippityDoulah]

just stopping in to say hello to my old friends

I've been away... well not really away. more like super busy with a baby who lends himself to fussiness. we've been on the elimination diet and every other thing and it takes up all my time right now. but I was sitting here just missing all my covering friends so I had to stop by.

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by HennyPenny

just stopping in to say hello to my old friends

I've been away... well not really away. more like super busy with a baby who lends himself to fussiness. we've been on the elimination diet and every other thing and it takes up all my time right now. but I was sitting here just missing all my covering friends so I had to stop by.

Good to see you back!

[TzippityDoulah]

thanks Sara sorry to have with the birthing circle too... hope to make is this week. (OT I know... heh)

[AutumnSunshine]

I thought you all might be interested in this new play called "The Hijabi Monologues". The point of the play is to give personal insight into women who cover and why they do so, rather than the usual third-party speculating.

Here's a summary:

http://www.altmuslimah.com/a/b/a/3385/

The lead-in quote is

Unlike The Vagina Monologues, which brought private subject matter into public discourse, Hijabi Monologues is actually taking the hijab from the public news and media discourse back into women’s personal lives. Even further, the play seeks to re-capture the voices and identities of Muslim American women for themselves. Regarded as an experience that will challenge both outsider and insider understandings of a distinctly American Muslim community, HM takes the viewer on an emotional roller coaster with issues rarely discussed in public space.

[mom2fussy]

Thanks for letting us know about that! I'm sure there are a lot of people who misunderstand Muslim women, hijab, etc. & could learn from / enjoy the play.

[mom2fussy]

Question for those who tie on a covering...

For those who tie on a covering at the back of your neck (like a basic veil, scarf, or kerchief):

Is there some trick to keeping your hair from getting caught up in the knot? I've tried flipping my head over, so my hair was hanging down away from where the knot would be, but then I couldn't get the cover tied on in the right position. I tried pulling my hair up in a quick ponytail & then tying on the cover, but then I have to reach up underneath it to undo the ponytail. Anyone have any tips please?

[Magelet]

Thats how I almost always wear it. hmm. I always get a few strands caught but not much. I guess what I do is tie the first half of the knot really tight where it should be, and then try to get out the hairs. I hold my hair up off the knot with my wrist, and tie the second half loose, pull out any caught hairs, and tighten. I only end up with a few in sometimes. It seems to work. (Its not that convoluted as it sounds, really, its just what I started doing automatically.)

Also, about 80% of the time, my hair is in a braid first, because I braid it for bed, and then have to wear a braid to work, so I just redo the braid in the morning, and that keeps the hairs out totally. Its also really easy for me to keep in the morning braid, tie the scarf, and then unbraid, but that only works if it doesn't need brushing. (being curly, it rarely does in the morning.)


*gives both ways a try to remember if that is accurate* yup super easy if its in a braid. if its down, I put it over my shoulder, and then pull any hairs out. a few still get caught either way.