So I started covering regularly in the late spring. I started dressing modestly last winter, but not winter clothes with the covering. Today was... interesting and highly amusing.
Apparently, there is little I can do to stand out MORE than to dress in a long sleeve black shirt, black and white long skirt and black tights (despite the cold rainy weather, the fact that I work next to a door that is constantly opening and closing, and our dress code that skirts must be black and long), with a dutch coronet covering, like this
: I think I would have attracted less notice here in berkeley if I worn I don't know, well, if I were stark naked I think I would have attracted less attention.
I got all sorts of comments and looks: CUTE (like you might say to a puppy or a parade of 3 year olds in the most adorable halloween costumes).
Is that a ...traditional costume? (me explaining that it is me reverting to modesty because I'm feeling more sensitive and insecure) it looks like you stepped out of the amish country. (this had me laughing internally for maybe 45 minutes. I may look more traditional in a... orthodox jewish or some other way but looking amish? It just made me think about the few friends I've made in my time who were amish, and my own personal preconceived notions of the amish, and what I did like, and likeing looking a little different and etc.)
I also got a compliment on my dress from one of the guys at work and a lot of odd looks from customers.
Oh, and one woman at work said "Are you religious" (which of course I am, but I knew that what she meant was (are you orthodox/chassidic/chabad/other type of judaism that is considered more strict/observant/religious by most people). I replied that I cover my hair for spiritual reasons being not quiet married, and that the cold weather made me look more don't remember the word than I was. "Oh. I used to be religious". Which got me started on a whole though train. "Of course I'm religious. I'm shomer shabbat and I keep kosher. Well, I guess a lot of people wouldn't consider me shomer shabbat, nor respect how I keep kosher since I'm not as shomer shabbat and don't keep as kosher as they do. But why should that be. gosh dang it, I'm keeping a heck of a lot more kosher and shabbat than I grew up with, while they might be keeping a lot less. I'm increasing my observance, why should that lead me to be judged less observant. Doesn't shomer shabbat means observant of the sabbeth? that I am, even if I'm ok turning on light switches. I don't work, I don't go on the computer, I go to shul, I light candles".
Anyways, I found it highly amuzing, but it definitely could have been very hurtful if I wasn't in the mood to take it all as amuzing. I wonder what comments I will get if I return to last winter's wardrobe of a long skirt, and a button down long sleeved shirt, with a covering.... lol