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post #41 of 63
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Originally Posted by AmyC View Post
I don't find the fussy stages/developmental spurt periods to be easy with twins, because they both want to be held (and nursed) all the time
this overall has been the hardest part of having two. growth spurts kill me.
post #42 of 63
My twins slept through the night - 7pm to 7am when they were 7 months old or so. It was summer, I was blissful, I thought I was the most awesome mama in the world. I felt so bad for my friend whose twins were up multiple times overnight, and ever-so-slightly smug because clearly I had (a) gotten a little lucky and (b) figured it all out.

They stopped sleeping through a month later, and I have had maybe 5 nights where they have both slept through since then, in 2+ years.
post #43 of 63
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Originally Posted by MamaRabbit View Post
dknees, why is your baby in the hospital? That must be so tough on you and your family!

MamaRabbit, my dd (10w) has a severe congenital heart defect, among other things. She had her first surgery Friday, she will need 2 more for her heart (one in a few months, another in a year or so) and at least one for an abnormality in her spine. Every time we take her to a doctor, they find more and more things wrong with her. We do miss her very much, and I feel like none of my kids is getting the attention they need right now. And let's not even talk about how neglected my poor dh is......

SOrry to hijack!!!!!!
post #44 of 63
dknees, I'm sorry I missed the fact that your baby is going through this (and your family, too). Sending love and light your way.....
post #45 of 63
I thought my twins were easy for the first year. Then once they become mobile and after they turned one it got more difficult. My girls are almost 20 months old now and when they fight with each other they get mean! I really think it is the age they are hitting. But two times the not listening and the fighting and the screaming can be a bit much at times. I love having twins though! Some of the greatest times during my day is watching them play and interact with each other. It is a double blessing.
post #46 of 63
I thought it was very easy with my first set... Right now I can tell you that it is certainly not easy with this second set. But ask me again in a few weeks and hopefully this set will be back to being easy too.
post #47 of 63
I adored being the mother of two. But it wasn't until we had our third child (a singleton) where dh and I went, "OMFG! Twins was really really hard!" It's all about perspective I guess. I didn't know any differently as our twins were our first children, but with #3, it was soooooooooooooooooooooo EASY (and an amazingly beautiful experience to have, I must say).
post #48 of 63
Mine are nightmares but they would be if there was just one of them! Totally depends on the personality! Having two of my firstborn would have been tough but at least much easier then my little Banshees.
post #49 of 63
I think if you take either of my twins by herself, you have the easiest baby in the world. But two together is hard! Just as a practical matter: I have only two hands. And if they're both full, how to I . . . open a door, take a drink, stick something in the fridge, write a note, etc? (not that I'm not learning to - ha!)

So, I'd say twins are hard, even if the individual babies are easy. And, for me, the momo pregnancy and NICU experience made it a REALLY hard start.

But even if they're hard, they're oh-so-sweet!
post #50 of 63
I had twin girls first (3 days before I turned 20). 20 months later I had my DS1. 22 months later I had DS2. Thats 4 kids in less than 3 1/2 years!! I had a blast and still do!! But as for which is harder, I would have to say my boys. I think boys are harder just because they get into so many things. They do things that my girls never dreamed of!! Like climbing ON TOP of the fridge at 18 months old. I left the room only long enough to go to the bathroom and came back to him laughing on top of the fridge (the cookie stash was there)!!! Or there was the time my boys were 3 and 5 and they wanted to sword fight with the butcher knives... I caught that one as they were pulling the chair over to the counter to get the knives... Yeah, I would have to say that my boys (even though they are singles) are definately the hardest! LOL!!!
I think the hardest part with the twins was they got sick so easily. RSV at 11 weeks (hospitalized 2 weeks), pnumonia 15 months, cronic bronchitis. but now that they are older they are doing really good! I think the last time I had to go to the ER with one of the girls was when DD1 stuck a small rock in her ear and it got stuck, that was about 3 years ago.
post #51 of 63
I also think it depends on your babies and where you are in life (and how many older siblings are involved, and what their ages are.)

I tend to have high-needs babies who require being held ALL DAY as infants, and slings don't tend to go so well with them. So I held BOTH babies, ALL DAY for months...with a 3 and 5 year-old to care for as well.

VERY, VERY hard on me. And they both, at almost 16 months, wake up all night to nurse, still. Nap for maybe an hour, at most, each day, usually together, sometimes not.

Enjoy it if you do! I still would rather have only one, though obviously I count my blessings and love ALL my children...

Deb
post #52 of 63
I spent the first night with my babies in the hospital yesterday to demand feed my son and get used to tube feeding my daughter solo.

Aaagh! It was so much scary FUN

- apart from when my daughter woke me up with her apnoea alarm but the nurse reckons it was a kink in the alarm pipe !?!?!

I also didn't have the big four with me trying to get into bed. LOL. but it felt sooo good to snuggle and finally b'feed lying down for a change! My body is shattered from all the running around trying to fit everything in and then sitting upright in hospital chairs trying to latch teeny tiny babies in rounds. Eugh.

I've asked to bring them home with feeding tubes so we don't need to stay for another few weeks, and they've said yes, but my daughter has a few grams to put on yet, so maybe by the weekend, God willing.....

Anyway, it is a bit intense, multiples, isn't it
post #53 of 63
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Originally Posted by shukr View Post
I spent the first night with my babies in the hospital yesterday to demand feed my son and get used to tube feeding my daughter solo.

Aaagh! It was so much scary FUN

- apart from when my daughter woke me up with her apnoea alarm but the nurse reckons it was a kink in the alarm pipe !?!?!

I also didn't have the big four with me trying to get into bed. LOL. but it felt sooo good to snuggle and finally b'feed lying down for a change! My body is shattered from all the running around trying to fit everything in and then sitting upright in hospital chairs trying to latch teeny tiny babies in rounds. Eugh.

I've asked to bring them home with feeding tubes so we don't need to stay for another few weeks, and they've said yes, but my daughter has a few grams to put on yet, so maybe by the weekend, God willing.....

Anyway, it is a bit intense, multiples, isn't it
Oh, Shukr! What wonderful news about your babies!!! : It brought tears to my eyes thinking about you getting to snuggle and nurse your little angels like that!! I pray for continued health and growth for them so that they can be home soon! Thanks for the update!!
post #54 of 63
[QUOTE=homeschoolAK;12480122] But as for which is harder, I would have to say my boys. I think boys are harder just because they get into so many things. They do things that my girls never dreamed of!! Like climbing ON TOP of the fridge at 18 months old. I left the room only long enough to go to the bathroom and came back to him laughing on top of the fridge (the cookie stash was there)!!! Or there was the time my boys were 3 and 5 and they wanted to sword fight with the butcher knives... I caught that one as they were pulling the chair over to the counter to get the knives... Yeah, I would have to say that my boys (even though they are singles) are definately the hardest! LOL!!!

Yes, and I have FIVE of them!!!:

I guess it's time to put the knives away!!!!

homeschoolAK- thanks for your post!! It made me laugh!! (With you of course!!)
post #55 of 63
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Originally Posted by mamaof5boys View Post
Oh, Shukr! What wonderful news about your babies!!! : It brought tears to my eyes thinking about you getting to snuggle and nurse your little angels like that!! I pray for continued health and growth for them so that they can be home soon! Thanks for the update!!
Me too! I'm almost bawling!!!! :::: Congrats!!!!
post #56 of 63
My brain is working really hard to compute this! I just have never met anyone who said that having twins was not hard. Having baby twins was the hardest thing I have ever done and I nearly lost my mind. We had a great homebirth at 40 weeks, they never got sick, never had nursing problems, no problems, other than having TWO babies. I think I have blocked out certain parts of that time.
post #57 of 63
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Originally Posted by gemelos View Post
My brain is working really hard to compute this! I just have never met anyone who said that having twins was not hard. Having baby twins was the hardest thing I have ever done and I nearly lost my mind. We had a great homebirth at 40 weeks, they never got sick, never had nursing problems, no problems, other than having TWO babies. I think I have blocked out certain parts of that time.
Ditto. Twins are hard. Nuff said.
post #58 of 63
I think having 2 babies is fun!! I actually miss it alot (mine are now almost 8). I mean yeah twice the diapers, twice the every thing, but that also means twice the fun. When I had my DS1 my girls were still in diapers so I just added a third of everything. 3 diapers, 3changes of clothes, 3 towels at bath time. It was so much fun. I was like a child playing dress up with three dolls instead of one!! LOL!! Granted the kids got sick often, and that was NOT fun, those times were actually very scary, I thought I lost the girls once they were so sick. But everything else was a blast. I ran after them with a camera so I still remember what it was like. I have pictures of the girls in cubards, climbing in the dryer, wearing the brownie mix boal on thier head, wearing their dad's boots (both girls with a foot in each boot at the same time). I had so much fun, I wish I could do it again (as long as they were not sick so much). But even them being sick only lasted so long. As they got older, they didn't get sick as bad or as often. Now they rarely ever get sick. I still have a lot of fun with them, I homeschool and get to spend all day with the kids! It is a true blessing to be able to watch them as they grow.
post #59 of 63
I remember commenting to a friend how lucky I was that my boys were easy and she looked at me like I was nuts and said, "Your kids are NOT easy. They're high needs!" She had a dd almost exactly the same age.

So it's all in your perspective. They were our first (and second), so we didn't know any better. Our pediatrician has always told us how good-natured our children are compared to virtually every other child she sees. So they ARE easy, but there are two of them, so when they were babies, it sometimes got crazy. I think the key for us was that we just surrendered to it. If I ever HAD to do something, I would end up frustrated because the babies wouldn't cooperate. But if I did things around their schedule and needs, everyone was happy.

Also, we have a dd now. She was a super easy baby, so now I know what it's like to have one. But she is extremely high energy and intense, and the boys (two of them) were actually easier than her!

The boys are 6.5 now and it's much easier having twins than a singleton at this age. They play together for hours-- and have for several years now. I sometimes feel sorry for my dd that she doesn't have a twin. I love having twins!
post #60 of 63
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I am sitting here and they are almost three months old!! I still don't think that they are hard. I am sure that I am going to pay for it when they are both walking though!!
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