Losing feelings towards my husband

[Veronique]

I just had my daughter 3 weeks ago and for the first week I felt fine towards my husband. However, week 2 I suddenly started hating him. I just can't stand seeing him or talking to him. Even the way he smells gets on my nerves. I get mad at him all the time. For every little thing I bitch and nag at him to no end.
I don't know if I am just feeling 'jealous' coz he is not tied down to the house like I am. Or if these feelings go much deeper than that. We've had our problems in the past, but I have never felt like I do now.
I reject his kisses and can't stand when he touches me. The other night his foot brushed against mine while laying in bed and I just freaked out, "Don't touch me!!"
He always slips away to the other room to sleep coz he says the baby cries too much and he needs to be well-rested for work. This suits me just fine, coz i can't stand to be in the same bed as him. Now he doesn't even bother to come to our bed, he just sleeps on his own. I"ve completely lost interest in him and I don't know if this is some sort of depression or what is going on? I feel fine towards my 2 kids, it's just the DH I have issues with.
Anyone experiencing something similiar? thanks for any advice.

[momm-i-o]

Wow- I didn't know anyone else felt the same way I do. I want dh to touch me but I've pushed and nagged and been just so awful toward him that he doesn't and then I'm really mad. I never considered this might be some sort of depression. Do you think it is? What do you think is going on with you? It's like I'm fine all week (he's been out of town for the whole week going on 5 weeks now) and then when Fri comes and he comes home I can't handle it. I don't even like to talk to him on the phone. Did you have any birth trauma or anything? I did and I wonder if that is a part of it. What do you think happened to you?

[Veronique]

I had a great birth even though it was c-section. DH was there for me for everything. I don't know why I just can't stand him all of the sudden. I don't know if I'm depressed about his working all the time or if i've got some sort of hormonal imbalance. But just the idea of conversing w/him bums me out.

[lisasaurus]

hey everyone,

i think these feelings you are having towards your partners can be totally normal. i don't know if just being really irritated w/ your husband means you have PPD. i do know that it CAN be a symptom of depression, but it could probably just be a temporary hormonal thing that will pass. Do you feel comfortable talking to your partners about it? sometimes just acknowledging that you know you're acting a certain way, and being open about it, can make you feel better and make your partner feel a heck of a lot better.

I did have major postpartum depression/anxiety, and i was definitely really short with and annoyed by my husband. but it wasn't at all that he had changed, it was that i was suffering. I tried to just keep the lines of communication open while i got help and worked through these feelings.

I wish I could give you more answers, but its a tough thing. At the very least, i hope you feel comforted by knowing that you are so not alone in the way you are feeling...obviously. it will get better. don't be afraid to reach out if you feel like you may be experiencing symptoms of PPD. its so common, and its nothing to be ashamed of at all. and most importantly, its very very treatable.

[momm-i-o]

I don't feel like I have a depression, though for the first few weeks I spent a lot of time in pjs, wishing for sleep (this baby #6 was cs after a rupture so I think it was legitimate sleep). I do feel that I have changed a lot because of my experience. Dh has been out of town and we haven't had any time to talk things over. I feel pretty abandoned by him since he has spent the past 5 out of 7 weeks of baby's life coming in town on weekends only. It is definately a rough spot in our marriage, I was surprised to know others felt the same way. Is it related to cs?

Is your baby's name really Sunny? We just named our baby Sunshine and we call her Sunny.