You have every right to say "no" to meds. You have the repsonsibility to do some of the things you are already doing and you have the right to ask his school to take similar responsibility.
Another thing I've read is that some (I'm not saying all) kids on the spectrum with ADHD react more unpredictably to meds. I tend to think that is the case. It is hard to know when the ADHD behaviors are mostly sensory-based, anxiety related, etc. I have a local friend whose son has Tourette's and OCD, and school was dead set on a severe ADHD dx and beginning Adderal asap--it turns out the child doesn't even have ADHD but had a mental compulsion of repeating everything anyone in the room said 4 times in his head, which made him pretty inattentive in a room full of people talking. A friend on another board had a doc advise against meds saying something like this, "There are two reasons to hold off trying medication 1) they might not work and you put time and hope in and risk side effects for something that doesn't help and might even hurt or 2) they might work, in which case you will find it very difficult to decide to stop using them.
I would also be annoyed in your situation that they are so set on meds that they can't seem to switch gears and advise instead on the best ways to deal with an extremely impulsive child at home and in the classroom. I am not anti-med even though we've chosen not to use them with our son, but I am against the assumption that comes with it that every person who meets certain criteria should be medicated and that schools/families/communities shouldn't be expected to creatively engage in dealing with differences that could be treated with medication.
Sherri
Another thing I've read is that some (I'm not saying all) kids on the spectrum with ADHD react more unpredictably to meds. I tend to think that is the case. It is hard to know when the ADHD behaviors are mostly sensory-based, anxiety related, etc. I have a local friend whose son has Tourette's and OCD, and school was dead set on a severe ADHD dx and beginning Adderal asap--it turns out the child doesn't even have ADHD but had a mental compulsion of repeating everything anyone in the room said 4 times in his head, which made him pretty inattentive in a room full of people talking. A friend on another board had a doc advise against meds saying something like this, "There are two reasons to hold off trying medication 1) they might not work and you put time and hope in and risk side effects for something that doesn't help and might even hurt or 2) they might work, in which case you will find it very difficult to decide to stop using them.
I would also be annoyed in your situation that they are so set on meds that they can't seem to switch gears and advise instead on the best ways to deal with an extremely impulsive child at home and in the classroom. I am not anti-med even though we've chosen not to use them with our son, but I am against the assumption that comes with it that every person who meets certain criteria should be medicated and that schools/families/communities shouldn't be expected to creatively engage in dealing with differences that could be treated with medication.
Sherri





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