S/O of "Does your husband stand up for you?"--Would your husband *NOT* stand up for you? - Page 2

[Mrsboyko]

The last time I NIP with DH around he threw almost a hissy fit and decided dinner was over before it even arrived. DD was about 5-6 months old. He thought i was going to flash the table of teen boys across from me in the process of BF'ing DD and said it was going to get him in a fight. I grudgingly went to the bathroom, but i was SO furious that i couldn't get a letdown, so we left. I laid into him after that. This is a subject I am definitely going to have to bring up as we are having #2 in March and I will NOT deal with that kind of thing again. He will either keep his mouth shut or he can go to the bathroom and eat. Period.

Oh, and to make matters worse, DD would not take a bottle from wither of us, so I really don't know what he expected me to do. There were no options. Ack, still pissed about that incident over 18 months later.

[~Boudicca~]

Originally Posted by Mrsboyko

The last time I NIP with DH around he threw almost a hissy fit and decided dinner was over before it even arrived. DD was about 5-6 months old. He thought i was going to flash the table of teen boys across from me in the process of BF'ing DD and said it was going to get him in a fight. I grudgingly went to the bathroom, but i was SO furious that i couldn't get a letdown, so we left. I laid into him after that. This is a subject I am definitely going to have to bring up as we are having #2 in March and I will NOT deal with that kind of thing again. He will either keep his mouth shut or he can go to the bathroom and eat. Period.

Oh, and to make matters worse, DD would not take a bottle from wither of us, so I really don't know what he expected me to do. There were no options. Ack, still pissed about that incident over 18 months later.

OMG. Grrr...your husband needs a smack. That is terrible. Stand your ground, mama.

[2lilsweetfoxes]

The first time we went out to eat--at Olive Garden--as a family, my daughter decided she was hungry as we were waiting for our food. I mean, we hadn't even gotten our breadsticks and salad yet. I adjusted myself to get ready to feed her (undid the bra, wrapped the blanket properly, etc) and my husband tells me that I need to go to the bathroom to do that. I get up and go to the bathroom. My daughter takes so long that by the time we get back, my husband has already finished his meal and paid the check. And my food is cold and the pasta congealing on the plate. I swore, never again. On a brighter note, we went to a baseball game a few months later and I nursed in the stands. He realized how convenient nursing was and telling me to use a bottle while out was worthless because I'd just have to pump that missed feeding. (And I bet he'll soon really learn what a hassle bottles are--he's going to be the SAHD to the new baby while I WOH--and he will be having to take the baby out and about by himself. My other thing is that baby does not get bottle if my boobies are available.) With my oldest 2, no one ever confronted me about nursing in public. Well, a lady about my mom and MIL's age came up to me at Walmart in a small town in Oklahoma where we lived (prior to the law protecting NIP was passed)--I thought she was going to complain but she was praising me and telling me it was a pity so many women don't do it. FWIW, I don't use a hooter-hider, nor am I especially endowed, and I pretty much stick to two-piece outfits. We've been places when a woman starts nursing--DH wasn't sure how to act and I just told him that I preferred that people around keep going about their business. If we weren't interacting before, don't start interacting just to prove you are not uncomfortable. If we were having a conversation, keep talking. Basically, how would you have reacted if the person had pulled out a bottle? But, really, if it came down to it and I was confronted about NIP, I don't know how he'd react.