We are finally working with a therapist who seems to have a handle on J's problems. So things are looking up 
But today we met with her for the sort of monthly just parents meeting. She told us about an activity that she did with J. The therapist asked J to choose an animal from a box to represent each member of her family. Then she asked to to arrange them in a sandbox. She saved the sandbox to show us. Four animals were clustered in the middle and a sheep was far off in the corner of the box. The therapist told us that J said the animals in the middle were J, her brother and sister and her biological sister. The sheep in the corner was her dad. She also placed a cow on the bookshelf very far from the sandbox. That was me : (
At first I found it comical that she expressed her issues with me that way. But the more I think about it, the sadder I am. But I am working to get back into the sandbox!
But today we met with her for the sort of monthly just parents meeting. She told us about an activity that she did with J. The therapist asked J to choose an animal from a box to represent each member of her family. Then she asked to to arrange them in a sandbox. She saved the sandbox to show us. Four animals were clustered in the middle and a sheep was far off in the corner of the box. The therapist told us that J said the animals in the middle were J, her brother and sister and her biological sister. The sheep in the corner was her dad. She also placed a cow on the bookshelf very far from the sandbox. That was me : (
At first I found it comical that she expressed her issues with me that way. But the more I think about it, the sadder I am. But I am working to get back into the sandbox!
That would be a tough to swallow but on the bright side, you are in the family. Knowing where you all stand is better than having a false sense of what's going on. I'd be curious to find out if there was any explanation regarding why she placed people where she did.
