I read your post in the daily thread and I'm sorry last night was so rough for you. I hope your hips feel better throughout the day today. I know how it is just wanting your DH close... I feel the same way.
I'm still waiting too - my due date is Saturday. I keep going back and forth over if I think I'll see a baby this weekend or not. Though the receptionist at DH's work is swearing up and down the baby is coming tomorrow. The kids have a Japanese lesson tomorrow though that I'd like to take them too so if I'm in labor I hope it's mild in the morning
I don't expect to see the baby then. I just *don't* want him to come on the 28th because my mw *must* be out of town and I've never met her backup. The thought of a mw I've never met attending me is terrifying...
I wanted to offer you a
as well. I thought I would share that my DS1 was born when my older kids' dad was gone - in fact I had just taken him to his base on Thursday night to ship out and Friday morning I had a show...Friday night my water broke, and Saturday morning DS1 was born. It was Sunday before the Red Cross even got his dad to tell him.
At that time DD was 19 months old and it was just me to take care of DD and DS1. I had my midwives checking in often the first few days and then it was just us. The first couple of weeks were rough. Then we kind of got into a routine. We just had the same order and routine every single day. We had all our meals and snacks at the same time, nap and bedtime at the same time every day. We had a time for stories, a time to take a short walk, etc. We went to storytime at the library once a week too, once DS1 was a few weeks old.
It sounds incredibly boring really, and it sounds tough to someone on the outside - I was alone with a newborn and a 1 year old. But the 5 months I was alone with them were the happiest time for me until I married my DH and he worked to build a family with me and my kids. There were times that were so very hard but the complete simplicity of life at that point, just revolving around daily life with me and the kids, turned out to be a very nice and peaceful time for me (even though I spent a lot of time dancing with DS1 swaddled and in the sling b/c it was the only way he'd calm down! - DD loved to dance while I did)
So I just wanted to share my experience, even though I know my situation and yours are different and you have different things going on for you - that it can be a good time, and in some ways it's very nice to be able to just grow your relationship with your newborn and your older LO...and not have to worry so much about the needs of another adult.
and remember we are here to support you, at least in words, while you work through this time in your life!