totally burnt out....

[goldfawn]

I am going a little bit crazy in eczema world. so sick of being an allergy sleuth. there seem to be several similar posts going on at the moment, what is ti, the change of seasons?? Libs eczema seemed to be getting under control and now it is so flared up and insane.
Tensions are high between my partner and I, Things are so hard with a very high need baby and he isn't being the most supportive. The eczema is taking it's toll on all of us, i wake up in the morning and sit on the edge of the bed and cry most days. i am trying to be strong but it is so hard. She is almost completely covered in eczema with icky green poos all the time... If one more rude stranger asks me "what's wrong with her" I may seriously loose it!!
I am trying trying trying to hold it together but today is just one of those days....

[changingseasons]

I'm seriously considering making DD an outfit that says, "What is wrong with YOUR face?" Because I get asked that ALL.THE.TIME- "aaawwww- what's wrong with her face?" I was talking to my friend about this the other day, how people act toward babies and pregnant women- like they are somehow justified in being incredibly intrusive and nosy, like they have the right to know what's going on with your baby. It's weird. Like no one would ever dream of saying to an adult with a rash or bad acne, "aaawww- what's wrong with your face?" Give me a break people. Some people just have a lot of nerve. And no manners.

I'm sorry about your partner too. I know all of this stress can really take a toll on a relationship.

[goldfawn]

thanks. People are just so crude and nosy!I've had it. I just have to get out my "bubble" though, but usually I get upset at someones thoughtless comments.
oh, I wanted to ask you about your ped... I'll pm you...

[mommydancer]

Potential Answer: "I can tell how concerned you are, but I prefer not to discuss it".

If they meant well, that honors their sentiment, but gets you off the hook. If they didn't mean well, (and you can flavor that first part with sarcasm), it will sting a bit. I think when someone asks a question you'd rather not answer, having a canned response helps camoflage your reaction. It is amazing how people feel they can ask all types of prying questions...doesn't mean you have to answer though.

[lil_miss_understood]

[Wugmama]

I'm so sorry Goldfawn. I know how very hard it is. It all falls on the shoulders of the mamas, too, doesn't it? My baby's was the worst at about 4 months. She is a year now and so improved. It can and will get better, but it takes A LOT of time.

My mom used to say, especially when we were around other people, "She's beautiful under all that eczema". Obviously she was trying to be supportive, but I thought it was a terrible thing to say, and it really hurt. Alethea had it so bad, for so long, that I really started to believe that it was always going to be there, and that I needed to accept that it was part of her. That is part of the reason that I picked out photos and had my husband put together that picture video. There were a lot of reasons, but I picked out some of the very worst photos to include, and I sent it to everyone I know, and we played it at her party and I posted the link to it in this forum. I wanted everyone to SEE what she looked like and acknowledge it in some form, or at least know that I was acknowledging it and not hiding it. It is part of her story, part of too many of our stories here on this forum.

I hope you find the strength to keep going, to find things to help you both heal, and to find some joy in life every day despite the suffering. How is your baby doing aside from the eczema? Tell us a little bit about your lo, the person, not the symptom. What is she like?



Tracy

[*mama moose*]

mama, I had a similar burn out thread recently, and everyone on here really cheered me up
People can be so insensitive! I can't believe anyone would say something about a beautiful baby, eczema or not


and I am inspired by wugmama to start a new thread....

[crunchy_mama]

so sorry you are having a bad day (week or month maybe as well)! People are jerks.