My husband is director of consulting services at a major computer firm in the Bay Area. His work pays well, but the cost of living in the Bay Area is very high so we output a lot of money each month as well. He works very long hours and is not home till after 9:00 each night (he leaves about 7:30 each morning) and he does a lot of work after he gets home on his laptop. Sometimes he goes in on Sundays to catch up as well. He does love his job, though--so that part is a positive. Sometimes it leaves me holding too much responsibility at home, as I do virtually all the housework and childcare from morning till night. I even do typical "husband" jobs like taking out the garbage and yard care. We have one child with special needs and she requires a lot of patience and care with her homework after school, and sometimes I wish I had more support. We don't have any family in the area, so I really don't get a break, either.
When I read about husbands that get home at 6:00 or 7:00 I think how lucky that is for the family, but can't really imagine it because we have never had that. On the weekends my husband will help out if I ask him specifically, but he doesn't typically ever help with anything on his own.
I am now considering going back to work part time while the kids are in school subbing with the school district, but I am not sure I can handle one more thing on my plate. We could use the extra money to save for college, as my son just started high school. My husband can't and won't change anything with his schedule, so it would be up to me to figure out how I am going to take care of everthing I do now and work as well.