Okay me too....sorry

[springmum]

I don't mean to start another venting thread - I'll add some positives too!
I had to though, b/c I was in tears this week saying sorry to my 5.5 month old when I saw new eczema spots show up...

Okay here's what I need to get out (since everyone I know looks at me like I have two heads when I try to explain it to them)

NEGATIVES

- When does the freaking mucous end?!! I hate that I get anxious when he has a poopy diaper wondering how much mucous there will be

- I hate examining every inch of his body morning and night hoping I won't find new eczema spots

- trying to figure out if any of the supplements I'm taking are lying to me when they say they are allergen free

- having to cook everything.single.thing from scratch because when the ingredients list "spices" that probably means "reaction"

- analyzing all his moods and every spit up, wondering if it's related to something I ate

- rotating the ever so limited amounts of foods I actually do eat

- missing restaurant foods, and the easy grab and go snacks

- bringing my own food to thanksgiving dinner and having to explain to family members why they can't use spoons from one dish and put it into another one with an allergen (Canadian - we had ours)

- the GUILT I feel everyday knowing that I caused this (c-sec, abx for mastitis)

- trying to get rid of the yeast without suppl's b/c my little guy seems to react to the enzymes I was taking

POSITIVES

- We had 1 normal poo this week!!!!!!!!!! Still haven't figured out why, but I looked at that thing for like 5 min's and just smiled!! (too bad the next one had a little mucous again)

- seeing him smile in his sleep again instead of cry out in pain

- overall his personality is so much happier since cutting out the things he reacts too

- there are times I've actually been able to put him to the boob and he hasn't pulled back and cried

- My diet is full of fresh foods, organics and is relatively healthier than anyone I know (except you ladies of course)

- I am focused on healing and know we will get there one day.

- I am thankful I am aware of all this stuff - it makes me wonder what other parents do when they see eczema or mucousy poops with their babes (since most moms have no idea what I'm talking about when I talk about all this)


Thanks for reading!!
We can heal - I know it!!

[kjbrown92]

I swear so many people are oblivious to their child's poo, skin, sleep problems. I mean look at all the kids with "colic" or the mothers who give their kids Mylecon with every meal. Or all the ones on endless abx for ear infections. They don't see that their kid is telling them something. So know that you're an EXCELLENT mom that you go through so much so that your baby is healthy and happy.

And DON'T blame yourself (abx and csection). It does NO good whatsoever now. You pick yourself up, say "it happened" and make it better.

And VENT AWAY to people who understand!

[Liea]

Originally Posted by springmum

- I am thankful I am aware of all this stuff - it makes me wonder what other parents do when they see eczema or mucousy poops with their babes (since most moms have no idea what I'm talking about when I talk about all this)

I've heard:

"He'll just always have that spot of eczema. It's genetic."

"It's a "new mom" thing being so worried, when the next baby comes along you won't care at all."

[Wugmama]

I swear so many people are oblivious to their child's poo, skin, sleep problems. I mean look at all the kids with "colic" or the mothers who give their kids Mylecon with every meal. Or all the ones on endless abx for ear infections. They don't see that their kid is telling them something. So know that you're an EXCELLENT mom that you go through so much so that your baby is healthy and happy.

And DON'T blame yourself (abx and csection). It does NO good whatsoever now. You pick yourself up, say "it happened" and make it better.

And VENT AWAY to people who understand!

:

s to you mama, I know it is so hard. I've been in tears many days. I can bear witness to the fact that after several months of doing what I could to heal the gut and avoid the foods that seemed to bother her that progress was made. It is very slow and hard to see, and takes a long time but it came for us and I believe it will come for you too.

IT IS ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NOT YOUR FAULT. And in addition to it not being your fault, you are going to be the one that is going to end up healing your baby. You.



Tracy

[changingseasons]

Originally Posted by kjbrown92

I swear so many people are oblivious to their child's poo, skin, sleep problems. I mean look at all the kids with "colic" or the mothers who give their kids Mylecon with every meal. Or all the ones on endless abx for ear infections. They don't see that their kid is telling them something. So know that you're an EXCELLENT mom that you go through so much so that your baby is healthy and happy.

And DON'T blame yourself (abx and csection). It does NO good whatsoever now. You pick yourself up, say "it happened" and make it better.

And VENT AWAY to people who understand!

YES- you are an excellent mom!! Look at how in tune you are with your baby- you're listening and responding to his cues, and doing everything you can to make him better.

[Chinese Pistache]

Originally Posted by kjbrown92

I swear so many people are oblivious to their child's poo, skin, sleep problems. I mean look at all the kids with "colic" or the mothers who give their kids Mylecon with every meal. Or all the ones on endless abx for ear infections. They don't see that their kid is telling them something. So know that you're an EXCELLENT mom that you go through so much so that your baby is healthy and happy.

And DON'T blame yourself (abx and csection). It does NO good whatsoever now. You pick yourself up, say "it happened" and make it better.

And VENT AWAY to people who understand!

DITTO!!!!

Just an FYI, when my ds's poop was still clearing out, we would get a normal poop, then a mucusy one, then normal, then not, etc. Finally, after 2 mths, we are getting consistently perfect ones (except for a huge flub-up with me eating some restaurant chicken the other night). Just remember, it takes a while for the inflammation in the gut to subside even after the allergens are removed.

You're doing amazing!

[springmum]

Thanks ladies - it's great to chat with others who REALLY do understand.

We all have our own journey through this, and our children are absolutely better off b/c of us being so in tune (than you for reminding me of this!)

Hugs to all - and forward we go!