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A special message to circumcised fathers with intact sons  

post #1 of 16
10/23/08 at 3:43pm
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This is something that has been on my heart today and I just wanted to share.

Thank you so much for courageously choosing to look at the facts and choosing what's best for your son, even though it was different from what your parents chose for you. Thank you for being man enough not to feel that your manhood was challenged by your son's intact status. Thank you for not jumping into the "everyone's doing it" boat and using social reasons to justify circumcision. Thank you for being willing to stand up to criticism from your parents if needed.

To all men like this (including my wonderful DH who's total on board with intactness, should we have a son this time), I say thank you. You are making a huge difference.
post #2 of 16
10/23/08 at 3:49pm
Such a nice message.
post #3 of 16
10/23/08 at 4:25pm
Great post

I am so proud of my DH, and all others that choose to break the cycle.
post #4 of 16
10/23/08 at 5:07pm
I totally agree. I didn't know it was such a big deal for some men, till I got on this board. We looked into the issues, DH decided "hey let the boys decide for themselves, when they get old enough", and it was OK with him .
post #5 of 16
10/23/08 at 5:13pm
thanks for the post. My husband has always been vehementally against circumsision even though he is, but he says its tough sometimes knowing that Hank has something he doesn't. He is happy at the same time but it makes him remember what he lost. Please always remember that there are men that do feel the loss of what was taken, and although he is a big fan of his junk, he is angry at what his parents chose.

I have heard the argument so many times that men simply don't care, and that has never been the case for him, even long before we decided to have children.
post #6 of 16
10/23/08 at 5:41pm
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Originally Posted by vintagetroll View Post
He is happy at the same time but it makes him remember what he lost. Please always remember that there are men that do feel the loss of what was taken, and although he is a big fan of his junk, he is angry at what his parents chose.

I have heard the argument so many times that men simply don't care, and that has never been the case for him, even long before we decided to have children.
I understand where he is coming from. My husband definitely feels the loss. It is not true to say that men don't care. We are looking into restoring, hopefully in the near future.
post #7 of 16
10/24/08 at 7:52am
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Originally Posted by nini02 View Post
Great post

I am so proud of my DH, and all others that choose to break the cycle.
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I am so happy that my dh had no trouble with leaving our son intact, even though he was circ'ed. :

Thank you, dh!
post #8 of 16
10/24/08 at 8:05am
Thank you for that very nice thought, I appreciate it.

Regards
post #9 of 16
10/24/08 at 9:19am
This is an awesome thread!!!!!! :

My dh had no issue at all leaving his sons whole after knowing what MGM is. He was much more like no f*@(king way would I want that for my sons.
post #10 of 16
10/24/08 at 9:29am
I am proud of my DH as well.

Though really, he admits that if we had circ'd our twins, he would have felt like a lesser man himself (as well as a lesser father). Circ'ing was never an option in his mind.
post #11 of 16
10/24/08 at 5:08pm
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My dh had no issue at all leaving his sons whole after knowing what MGM is. He was much more like no f*@(king way would I want that for my sons.
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That pretty much sums up how my dh got completely on board with keeping our beautiful son intact also

I know our circumsized men do feel loss over realizing what got took from them
Leaving our son intact made my hubby have to face that he himself is not totally whole
I've caught him actually pulling his skin over his glans just to 'see' what he should look like...
I had to give him extra love telling him how much I love him just the way he is
OH and I thank him all the time for letting our son stay whole
post #12 of 16
10/24/08 at 11:48pm
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Originally Posted by nini02 View Post
Great post

I am so proud of my DH, and all others that choose to break the cycle.
:
post #13 of 16
10/24/08 at 11:54pm
Aw, how nice! I'll let my dh know he's been thanked!
post #14 of 16
10/25/08 at 11:29am
What a nice message, Thank you !! I believe that there are thousands of men out there who are acutely aware of what they are missing - and feel extremely disappointed (or worse) about it.
post #15 of 16
10/26/08 at 11:28am
Yeah that OP. My husband's rational was basically "we must have evolved a foreskin for a reason". So even though he's circ'd we have 3 intact boys. I was so happy not to have to argue over it.
post #16 of 16
10/26/08 at 11:31am
A very nice message!

The Dude isn't intact...but he is completely onboard with not circing. So...
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