Anyone else having hte Circ Debate at home? - Page 2

[hippiemommaof4]

Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X

Cutting off more skin will make a buried penis worse not better so I am confused by this statement. Actually one of the complications of circ is buried penis.


Cutting off skin = make things smaller so if he already had buried penis then cutting off more skin would make it worse since the skin was pulled even tighter.

If it was the kind of buried penis where the tendons (think that is the right term) are to short then that had absolutly nothing to do with the foreskin at all and going into the pubic mound and cutting those tendons would have fixed the buried penis.

I am thinking I am either missing something here or your Dr. out and out lied to you.

no you are right lol sorry that was a mistake by me I was typing and talking to my kids. I didnt even go back to read the thread either after I typed it. I meant to say phimosis because he wasnt circumsized to begin with and was having complications urinating and ended up getting utis and we were in the ER frequently and that was the diagnosis they came up with . Well then we had him circ and now he has a buried penis but we believe it is mainly from the fat pad that he still has there, he isnt overweight or anything just has the fatty pad above his penis still . sorry about the confusion!

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

OK thank you for clarifying that. How old was he when the phimosis diagnosis was made because before puberty unless he had been retracted forcibly there is practically no way he had true phimosis. It cannot be diagnosed until puberty or after without trauma being involved.

Having a foreskin does not cause UTI as a matter of fact it protects against it. Did he have a urinary tract anomaly ie urinary reflux? Was he tested for that? If he did indeed have the reflux then his circ was absolutly unneccissary.

It would very very unusual indeed for a tight foreskin (that is what phimosis is) to occure in a young child. Could you explain more about the problems he was having urinating? I understand if you dont want to go into detail but it sure could possibly help someone else who's ds is going through the same thing. If you have time also read over this thread http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=764732 and see if anything there is familiar with what he went through with before the circ.

The only true reasons for circ are actually frostbite, gangrene and cancer anything else can be treated another way 99.9% of the time.

[Microsoap]

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Often if they have infections and/or trouble urinating, it's because they've been unnecessarily forcefully retracted, that causes the damages resulting in a "need" () for circ.

Even if an intact male has been retracted and having infections, that doesn't mean you need to go straight for penis amputation.

[My*Scorpio]

With our first, circ was a major topic of discussion. DH kept going back and forth on the topic, although I was against it. One thing that really helped was when DH heard others (a nurse at the birth ctr and a CBE) mention they thought it was a bad idea.

With this baby, there is absolutely no question that there will be no genital cutting.

[hippiemommaof4]

Originally Posted by Microsoap

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Often if they have infections and/or trouble urinating, it's because they've been unnecessarily forcefully retracted, that causes the damages resulting in a "need" () for circ.

Even if an intact male has been retracted and having infections, that doesn't mean you need to go straight for penis amputation.

Well we didnt go straight for it but it was the choice we made then so...thats pretty much all I can say about it.

[CEVmommy]

With the first, I would say I was leaning about 75% against circ when I brought it up to DH. He had never even really considered not circ'ing, but he knew that I do a lot of research on any kind of decision like this, so he was open to reading more about it. I'd say he was about 60% against it when we found out we were having a girl and didn't have to worry about it anyway.

This time, we still don't know what we're having at this point, but now we are both against circ and I don't think there's any question. I think it really helped for DH that in the meantime, his best friend had a boy who is intact and the friend is really open about talking about it and complaining about stupid people's comments, etc. DH told me that his friend asked him if we would circ if we had a boy and that he told him no, so I guess he's made up his mind!

(Now I just need to work on him on cloth diapers and we'll be set! )

[jeliphish]

I am terrified it will be WWIII. I DO NOT WANT TO CIRC- but DH is adament that (if it's a boy) that he will be. I HAVE NO CLUE WHY DH is so adamently for Circ- as I question that he ever was. When he and I first me I was CERTAIN her was not circed but he "is sure" he is. DH has foreskin that completely covers the head of his penis when he is not "stimulated" and when he is stimulated- the forskin is still able to move freely to cover the head of his penis.
Everytime I bring up his penis- he thinks I'm making fun of the fact that he has so much foreskin... (I truly think he has issues - and was made fun of or something) because he has never been this passionate about anything.

[mummamilk]

I would love others input on this issue because I thought it was settled between DH and I and it is not.

I'm having a boy. Our oldest is a boy now 13. My plan for him was to be intact, but DH never agreed. DS was born with a seriously deformed penis. He had almost no foreskin and it was not attatched. He had surgery to correct it at 16 months. The forskin was used to lengthen his urethra. He looks circumcised.

Now DS wants this boy circumcised so he looks like his father and brother. I told him he needs to educate himself. There is no medical reason for circumcision, if he finds one I'm willing to discuss. I really don't want this to be a fight but nobody is touching this baby unless we have a reason.