Does my child have ADD? Is he restless?

[Mama_2_Boy]

My son will be 4 in December. This spring we put him in his first pre-school program. The 'teacher' has indicated that he is not patient. That when it is time to sit down for circle time, he gets up and runs around and wants to play with stuff. I've always seen this side of him...that he doesn't want to sit and wait for anything. Unless something has a hold of his attention, he becomes very restless and wants to get up and go.
Can he be taught to sit still?
I'm very worried because I had alot of problems in school, grade school right through high school and even today if I go on course for work, I have a very difficult time paying attention and still do very poorly on the exams.

Can someone please please please GIVE me some resources. I am very scared for him.

Thank you.

[columbusmomma]

I think he sounds like a typical boy! He is way too young for anytype of diagnosis! Many professionals won't diagnose until 6-7 or later for ADD. Sitting down is hard, and paying attention too! I don't have any resources off the top of my head but I would read about boys in the "school setting" and how they are different when it comes to this type of learning, behavior, etc. Have you talked with him? Maybe he is playing and running around because other friends are, maybe he is bored, maybe he is hungry. It seems like all too often, children have to fit this perfect mold of being quiet, and still, and well behaved little scholars! My son was the same way when he was in preschool, pre-k, and now even still a bit in the first grade! i know it is stressful and I'm dealing with this too!
I know someone else will chime in too and give you some good suggestions!

[Mama_2_Boy]

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond.

I find that we are a little too quick to push our young children into being, quiet, orderly little individuals - is that wrong of me? I was disappointed when DH told me this news. At any rate, I'm just going to maintain my composure because right now I am very upset about it all.

I have spoken with him and I asked him that during circle time, try to sit with the other kids and enjoy the singing! He said he didn't want too - I can't blame him. This is his first time in pre-K and there are tons of other interesting things in the room. I also know from experience, I can not rush my son, he has to do things in his own time. I endured 15 hrs of hard labour, and then pushed for 2 more. He just wasn't ready to come out yet and what else could I do but wait When he was born the mid wife told me that he had his arms way up over his head, so I was trying to push out his head with his arms right alongside! As if to say "no no no, I'm not coming out yet" and putting his hands out to prevent the push.

[yogamama]

Give him time. Time is the most important thing. School is hard for little boys - it goes against their nature.

My son was diagnosed with ADD, but he is 9 years old. He was just diagnosed last year, but he is managing the school thing okay. His teachers and school staff are good - homework is our challenge. He still needs time to settle down and he needs alot of breaks.