Re lactating for adopted child (PIOG)

[smilingmama]

My DH and I are adopting a child soon. We have not recieved our call yet. I have a 3 yo who occationally BF. Some days DD BF all the time and sometimes DD wants nothing to do with BF. (I think that is normal) I am trying to let her wean on her own. I have been pumping and taking fenugreek with the help and guidance of a lactation nurse. As of now I can only get 1 oz. from both sides combined. I have just rented a hospital grade double pump to see if I can get a better result. After a month of trying the double pump and fenugreek we will reassess how things are going. I was hoping some of you mamas out there may have gone through this and may have some suggestions. I want to exclusively BF our adopted child. I did this with my birth child and the bond is incredable. I love watching her grow and knowing that I was her source of nutrition. To be able to BF our adopted child would be the height of success and a terrific and great head start for us as a family.
Thank you mamas for your advice and support.

[azedazobollis]

Come on over to breastfeeding challenges for our induced lactation tribe!

[SundayCrepes]

I replied to your post in breastfeeding challenges. I am doing exactly what you want to do.

CHild calling

[misidawnrn]

I am on the same train

we are adopting a baby girl in March. I have been on the protocol for about 10 weeks now. You can check out the sites I know of
www.asklenore.com
www.fourfriends.com and click on the breastfeeding tab.
they have been great help for me.

[SundayCrepes]

As I said earlier, I left a lengthy reply under breastfeeding challenges. Here is the link http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=988377

I am tandem nursing my 34 month bioson and my 11 week adoptive daughter. I am pretty much at full supply. If anyone wants my experience or support, please feel free to pm me.

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We adopted two infants within two months of one another in 2007 and in both cases I tried to breastfeed. One hospital was very open and allowed me to bond with the baby right away and successfully breastfeed, while in the other hospital I had a tough time. It is something to prepare yourself for ahead of time that no one really warned me about.

The birthmom had a room in the hospital and the baby was kept in the nursery, it was very hard to start the feeding process right away. After fighting for my right to even be able to hold the baby until the birthmom signed some paperwork, they went crazy when I suggested breastfeeding. Then after the hospital social worker arranged it, I was put behind a screen in the middle of the nursery - basically on display for all to see. Not the best way to bond with a new baby.

I guess my point with this post is if you are adopting domestically and have a relationship with birthmom - at the hospital the birthmom in most cases needs to give the okay for the adoptive parent to nurse. Any arrangement that could have done ahead of time would have saved me a lot of stress during those precious few hours of my sons life. We ultimately were successful, but it wasn't easy.