I just chewed my cousin out

[mommaduck]

over the flu vax. She and uncle live with us and went to get their shots today. She decided to tease me, in front of my children, before going and then wore masks into the house when they came back and handed me a "myths about" pamplet. Kept saying that EVERYTHING I believe about it is not true, I don't know what I'm talking about, they don't believe it (even when I was able to pull something off of a site PROMOTING the flu vax).

It ate at me all day. Hubby wasn't here to bounce things off of or to send up (she is his cousin).

I went up and let her know that that wasn't to ever happen in front of my kids again. Screw with her own health, don't screw with my kids. Don't disrespect me in front of my kids. Disagree with me, but talk to ME, not tease me in front of my kids as though anything I say doesn't matter.

She had the nerve to tell me that she wasn't "in feeling up to hearing it" from me. Yeah, like I was up to it earlier, right?

Rant over....I think.

[Annie44]

ACK... I would have taken her aside and said a few choice words myself. How disrespectful. Oh and the reason she isn't feeling up to hearing it from you is because that nasty vaccine was most likely making her sick!! I don't even understand HOW you could possibly think any vaccine is safe let alone the flu vaccine. I mean hasn't she read the ingredients off the CDC's website???

[grniys]

So she lives with you and she treated you like that in front of your children in your own home? Uh, yeah, I'd have had a few choice words for her, too.

I'd be letting her know she ever pulls a stunt like that again her vaccinated bottom would be in street looking for a box to live in. : I am so angry for you! Grrr.

[tayndrewsmama]

Originally Posted by grniys

So she lives with you and she treated you like that in front of your children in your own home? Uh, yeah, I'd have had a few choice words for her, too.

I'd be letting her know she ever pulls a stunt like that again her vaccinated bottom would be in street looking for a box to live in. : I am so angry for you! Grrr.

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[Theia]

Of course she wasn't feeling well enough up to hearing you out on this. She went to get a flu shot. Sorry, it's not funny. Oh wait, yes it is. : :

I'd be sure to still address it, either between you and her, or have DH do it. In no uncertain terms she should know that behavior will not be tolerated again. She needs to grow up and be grateful for your help. Not ridiculing you in front of your children.

[kriket]

jese. I can't believe people... Like the male coworker who tried to argue with me about the HPV vax, A. I'm married, not planning on sleepin' around. B. I'm PREGNANT! Not the time for vaxes!

At least they wore masks so you and your kids wont get the flu when they develop it from the vax. Which is where I got german measles :

[mommaduck]

Oh but don't you know?! You can't get the flu from someone who was vaccinated...because it's with a DEAD virus (insert very snarky voice here).

And yes...this is MY HOUSE! I can go ANYWHERE I darn well please in it!

She's been pulling this immature garbage with me lately...saying she's just doing it in fun and to get a rise out of me. She seriously thinks it's "just fun"! Uhm, no! Making my bp rise is NOT fun! Yeah, hubby is going to get to deal with her. I invited her to rent upstairs from us because she was having health issues (stupid doctors kept misdiagnosing her...yet she'll pop every pill and take every shot they recommend, riiiight).

She's 26, never married or kids, and I don't think it even phases her that what she does is wrong. We tried explaining to her LAST NIGHT about another issue that she had tried to get a rise out of me on, then she didn't understand why I got upset.

The funny...I'm a loud person (7 kids and a husband with Audio Processing Disorder), but this time I kept myself even toned and she kept saying I was getting loud...till she started getting shrill. Had to point that out to her.

[Pariah]

Originally Posted by mommaduck

a husband with Audio Processing Disorder

Hey, my DH has this too...could I PM you about it?

[mommaduck]

Sure It's something we've just learned to live with and work around.

[kangaroomum25]

Let us know when she gets the flu I'd be hard pressed to take her a bowl of soup....or maybe I would

[loveyourohana]

She isn't very old, and has a lot of life experience to still experience. You may find one day soon (perhaps she will be sicker than sick from this shot ) she will be telling you sorry.

Sorry you are going through this! I hope she learns a lesson, and now would be as good a time as any...

Here is hoping that she feels miserable for a good month. Dizzy spells and all... not because I think she deserves it, but because life would be more peaceful in your family, if her mind could see where you are coming from.

Perhaps it would be a good enough lesson for her to respect that there are other views out there, and perhaps she will be more cautious with her own children someday You are a good thing in her life, whether she sees this now or not.

[Ruthla]

It sounds like you've got a lot of deeper issues with your tenant than just the flu shot. I think you need to sit down with her and discuss some house rules- that "trying to get a rise out of you" is NOT acceptable, and let her know that she won't be welcome to stay much longer if she can't treat you with respect.

[kriket]

Originally Posted by mommaduck

and a husband with Audio Processing Disorder

Wow, I had no idea this was a real thing! (I guess i never thought about it!) My DH is also loud, but he's just a super nerd with no volume controll being in the car with him is the worse... Always telling him "I'm right here honey" Until I bought the Jetta I had 2 seater sports cars, no room for yelling!

So I feel ya' on the getting loud for no reason at people thing! I grew up on a farm too, lots of room for being loud!

p.s. we call my mom mammaduck, I think thats her myspace name

[mama2be11]

Originally Posted by mommaduck

She had the nerve to tell me that she wasn't "in feeling up to hearing it" from me.
Rant over....I think.

Originally Posted by Annie44

Oh and the reason she isn't feeling up to hearing it from you is because that nasty vaccine was most likely making her sick!!

: That's the first thing I thought when I read that. The only people I ever hear getting the flu are the ones that just got a flu shot. I would have chewed her a new ****hole if I were in your position.

[Aquafina]

I am sorry you had to deal with this woman.She should have never talked to you like that in your house and around your kids! I bet she ends up sick and you can tell her see told you so.......

She had the nerve to tell me that she wasn't "in feeling up to hearing it" from me. Yeah, like I was up to it earlier, right?

Haha She probably was feeling crappy from the shot.This gal sounds disrespectful.....

[wallacesmum]

She's young. These actions are about her, not you. Can you ask her why it is important to her to get a rise out of you? Can you ask her why your choices about vaccination matter to her? While it is tempting to tell her to go f-off, if she lives with you I think a deeper interaction may be in order.

[mommaduck]

You know, she has really backed off since I confronted her. I think I just needed to set up the boundary line in a very clear manner. We don't believe any of this was truly malicious on her part. Most of hubby's family "feed" off of this kind of thing (mostly maliciously though). In her case, I think it's a relating and maturity issue. She may struggle with her place as sometimes she was the kid with her parents and other times she was the caretaker. Hubby was pretty pleased that I exerted myself and my position in this case.

She had moved in because we thought she might have MS and until the medical stuff was all figured out, she needed a net in case she lost her job. But it looks like there were a lot of misdiagnoses and the situation here is temporary.

I don't think our choices are important to her, simply when it comes to medical stuff she believes a lot of the mainstream as she's worked in nursing homes and now a hospital. I have a child that nearly died from a vax, but to her that is just a 1 in a million fluke.

I've asked her why she likes to try to get a reaction out of me and just says it's funny. I know she loves to laugh at my expressions (I'm very readable as I'm very expressive with my face...not intentionally, just seems to be the way I am agh! I only wish I could "hide" my thoughts at times).

[Gitti]

She has symptoms of MS and is injecting mercury via the flu shot?

She better start researching.

Also she should avoid all artificial sweeteners. Research aspartame.

[mommaduck]

I can't get her to research anything and she just rolls her eyes at me when I say something (about her diet soda or whatever). She hates to read or research (I give her credit though, she did buy a couple of books on PCOS). I'm going to give her a little time before I approach her about things like that. I think the thing that ticked me off most was that while she was teasing me, she was also trying to convince dh to go get a flu shot (she knew there was no way on earth I was going to or allow our children to).

[Kimmiepie]

Yes, you might want to tell her that my symptoms of "MS" actually came FROM the flu shot. I don't actually have MS, but they don't know what is wrong and I'll never be the same. It's from that shot. It started happening days later, and that was 3 years ago. She probably just screwed herself more.