RAD joke

[mamarhu]

I can't think who else would understand all the levels that this is funny.

FD, 8, had a major , world-class, hour and a half tantrum the other day, because I insisted she bring a coat to school (it was raining). I didn't care if it was in the backpack, worn, or carried, but I can't risk being seen as negligent. She was willing to go to war over this.

Then, a couple days later, she got out of the bath, and I asked her to pick up her towel. "It isn't mine!", "I didn't put it there!". She was clearly working up to a major one about this. Oy. Not one of my best parenting moments, but I said, "This might be the dumbest thing I ever heard of to have a tantrum over."

She said, "No, the coat thing was dumber."

[PikkuMyy]

At least it broke the cycle and she acknowledged what had happened!

[alicia622]

That's pretty funny

[SusanElizabeth]

This may be veering off slightly, but what is up with kids and coats? My kids were constantly objecting to wearing a coat, even when it was cold out. My teenager still does this.....

[Polliwog]

Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth

This may be veering off slightly, but what is up with kids and coats? My kids were constantly objecting to wearing a coat, even when it was cold out. My teenager still does this.....

People know when they're cold enough to wear one or decide it's not worth the effort to put one on. I trust kids to know that.

But in Rhu's situation, with a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder, it's not about the coat at all. It's all about control. But that was hysterical (and not what I was expecting when I opened this thread.)

[SusanElizabeth]

Originally Posted by BethNC

People know when they're cold enough to wear one or decide it's not worth the effort to put one on. I trust kids to know that.

But in Rhu's situation, with a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder, it's not about the coat at all. It's all about control. But that was hysterical (and not what I was expecting when I opened this thread.)

Good point. I'm going to remember what you said next time I say, "you need a coat."

[AndVeeGeeMakes3]

I love it - very funny! Thanks for sharing. I truly believe that we HAVE to be able to laugh at ourselves (and even with/at our kids) in order to survive.


Also - I would rather freeze than wear a coat. And I HATE HATE HATE to be cold. Coat-wearing is just a terrible terrible thing for me. So, I kind of feel for Grace when she objects. Mommy won't wear a coat either. We're layering around here.

[CATPAT30]

LOL!!! Love it. And why not call out "dumbest thing to have a tantrum over" it broke the cycle. I'd say that was a good parenting decision. I will keep it in mind for the future. I might follow it up with "tell me why this is a good reason to have a tantrum" if they disagreed without the punch line

thank you for sharing.
the best part of parenting is the punch lines :-) laughup