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post #21 of 28
I call her my daughter. If there is a true need for clarification (say, the midwife asking how many times I have given birth, or someone is confused because of something my step-daughter said to them) I will clarify that I am her step-mother, but I still call her my daughter. In fact, this board is the only place I can think of where I refer to her as my step-daughter.
post #22 of 28
She's my kid/child, but my stepdaughter/my partner's daughter.

It's interesting...I can claim her as my "kid," but "daughter" seems to signify a biological relationship.

My partner also sometimes says, deliberately, "my daughter," which I do notice--I'm not really hurt by it, it's more like a little fluttery jab...but PP's are right, it's weird. I mean, he said "my daughter" for a long time before it would have been at all appropriate to say anything else...hm...
post #23 of 28
My DH is the stepdad. He calls DD his daughter, and she calls him Dad or Papa. Her biological father she calls Daddy.
post #24 of 28
i am a stepmom to dh son, he is my son too, he is a stepdad to my kids, he calls them his kids.

they are all our children :
post #25 of 28
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Originally Posted by ProtoLawyer View Post
She's my kid/child, but my stepdaughter/my partner's daughter.

It's interesting...I can claim her as my "kid," but "daughter" seems to signify a biological relationship.

My partner also sometimes says, deliberately, "my daughter," which I do notice--I'm not really hurt by it, it's more like a little fluttery jab...but PP's are right, it's weird. I mean, he said "my daughter" for a long time before it would have been at all appropriate to say anything else...hm...
OMG! You hit it right on the head of what I have been trying to formulate words to! That is precisely how I feel!

I can say DSD is my kid without any weird feeling and it feels perfectly right and normal... but I can't say my daughter without all kinds of anxiety from feeling like I'm overstepping or something... even though she is my stepDAUGHTER... weird how strong words can be.
post #26 of 28
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Originally Posted by ProtoLawyer View Post
She's my kid/child, but my stepdaughter/my partner's daughter.
It's interesting...I can claim her as my "kid," but "daughter" seems to signify a biological relationship.

My partner also sometimes says, deliberately, "my daughter," which I do notice--I'm not really hurt by it, it's more like a little fluttery jab...but PP's are right, it's weird. I mean, he said "my daughter" for a long time before it would have been at all appropriate to say anything else...hm...
Yep! Thats exactly how i feel as well. I have a hard time saying "son" for the same reason. Even though i think of him as my son i feel like i am overstepping boundaries or making a false claim if i call him my son, for just that reason.
post #27 of 28
My partner and I are not married, but we just say step family anyway. We talked about the whole concept of marriage, and we do not want to rush it, but since we have moved in together and integrated families, we still claim eachother. I normally call them what they seem comfortable with. It is a little different for his kids, because they were teenagers when we got together so they are much less attached to me, then my kids are to him, plus the fact that they are here a lot less of the time. So my boys will call my partner Dad when talking about him to others, but call him by his name when talking to him. They call their bio dad sometimes by his name and sometimes Dad or other dad. So I basically go by what the kids are comfortable with. Also I think it depends on if the bio parents are involved or not.
post #28 of 28
All of the kids are our kids, we usually throw in 3 of his, 3 of mine make 6 of ours, almost like the brady bunch...........Most of the people around our town knows at least 1 of us, so we just add in the other 3 kiddos. I grew up in a household where none of my siblings were differentiated. I grew up with 5 half siblings, but they were always either my brother's or my sister period. My daughter is very proud to tell people that my SO is going to soon be her step-dad, and my boys are also. My 17 yr old. SS sometimes is unsure of what to call me I think when he is asked, but I'm good with whatever they are comfortable enough to call me by............
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