sigh why can't my mom back off

[MommytoB]

I decided to do no more shots with my son and i go through this issue every single fall of brendan needs his shots etc! I'm like ugh!!!!!!

So now she asked when i was gonna get brendan's boosters which i'm not she goes he needs them 'right away ' and I go no he doesn't . then she hangs up going what ever!

[Emmeline II]

I assume your mom is concerned , though mine was as well and I didn't get attacked for it.

Perhaps you should give her a stack of research and say you are willing to discuss the subject when she is done.

1. Name of the disease
2. Description of the disease
3. Length of time from initial infection to end of all symptoms
4. Infectious period
5. Normal symptoms of the disease
6. Known serious consequences of the disease
7. Proportion of persons infected developing serious consequences
8. Transmission route of the disease
9. Prevalence of the disease
10. Treatments of the disease and efficacy of those treatments
11. Relevant research about the disease
12. Name of the vaccine
13. Company that makes the vaccine
14. Contents of the vaccine
14A. The significance of whether or not the vaccine is live
15. History of development of the vaccine
16. Known side-effects of the vaccine and rate of incidence of those side-effects
17. Possible side-effects not yet acknowledged by the vaccine maker
18. Relevant research into the vaccine
19. How effective is the vaccine at preventing the disease?
20.What is the vaccine meant to do? (Many vaccines are not meant to prevent infection or transmission).
21.Number of cases reported each year.
22.Number of deaths reported each year from the vaccine and natural disease.

Here are some sources to help you out:

http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/mmwr_wk.html (download the current issue)
http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/pubs/pin...k-chapters.htm
http://vaers.hhs.gov/pdf/PackageInserts.pdf
http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...40451107552&q=
http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...87981735&hl=en
http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/pubs/pin...ses&deaths.pdf

[TanyaS]

Or you could just offer her bean dip. "Thanks, Mom! Cold and flu season is approaching fast. Would you like some bean dip?"

"When the risks no longer outweigh the benefits. Would you like some bean dip?"

[wallacesmum]

"I recognize that this is an issue that concerns you" is another one that I use.

[Marnica]

Yes,

parents are tough. My dad is "concerned" that my son is unvaxed. He is convinced he will die from measles. He knows best so talking to him is pointless. I have TONS of research and have offered to show all of it to him. Surprise Surprise...he hasn't taken me up on my offer yet.
We just don't talk about it anymore.

People who think they know it all don't want to be educated. If my dad really was interested he would take me up on my offer. I think he is more interested in maintaining his beliefs (to challenge them is scary for some people)

[peainthepod]

"I appreciate your concern but this subject is not open for discussion. Please pass the salt."

"It means a lot to us that you care so much, but this decision is not something I am willing to discuss. How is your steak?"

"Brendan has had all the shots he'll ever have. Thanks for your concern. How was your day today?"

And if she really won't give up, "Mom, I love you and I do appreciate that you care so much about Brendan's health. However, I am not going to discuss my parenting decisions with you, now or ever, and the next time you bring them up I am going to hang up the phone or leave the room. It means the world to us that you love Brendan so much, so for the sake of our relationship, let's not discuss it ever again. So, how's Aunt Jane these days?"

[momto l&a]

"you had your chance to raise kid/s now it's my turn"

Also knowing the facts can show some people that you have educated yourself and that you are not being careless.

[angie7]

"My kid, my choice"

I would not have the conversation with her until she can be more mature and talk to you rather then hang up like a child :