My ILs had one every two years or so until my BIL Paul was born- he was number 7. Then they thought they might be done. Fast forward 4 years, she Then they made him a friend, his younger brother number 9.
They talk about how in the 50s and 60s people would say some nasty things to them about having so many babies. Also, when she was prgnt w DH at age 40, her brother said some nasty things about the baby "being retarted since you're so old". My FIL would not really speak to him after that.
: Or they said a neighbor told them- "we are looking at quality not quantity in our family". Funny, they have an adult child in jail.
When my SIL and brother were expecting my niece after dd1 was born, I was estatic because- 2 cousins the same age!! I never had that, let alone a girl cousin. We were at my parents' house and the neighbor said to my SIL who was showing- Why are you having another one?? I almost lost my lunch on her saying such a horrible thing.
Also, when another SIL got prgnt after her first 2 were in school, her older sister didnt understand why she would do that after getting the 1st 2 into school. I think it was said in a pp, but my MIL pointed out then sometimes we only see things with our own situations in mind and not thinking that others may live their life different or choose a different path.