OK, this is a new one for me.
DS is pretty high energy, especially out in public. One of those who likes to wander off, explore things, check things out. Generally a very good natured kiddo as well. Just turned 3.
However, when he's out with DH (who tends towards more authoritarian approach) they seem to get in a power struggle of sorts. DH gets all nervous with him walking around on his own, being squirmy. So, he tries picking him up. Which generally leads to DS being loud...to the point of screaming.
DH's approach the last few times we've been out in public is to pick him up, DS starts screaming. Then he puts him down, then DS gets squirmy/silly again and then DH picks him up. The screaming starts again and DH eventually takes him to the van and puts him in the carseat and sits and waits for myself and the other kids to get done eating.
Personally, I think he's got the wrong approach to this. I think we need to somehow approach this from a different angle. DH doesn't want to listen to me when I try to suggest this at the time. I think DH is creating a power struggle, which makes things worse.
Things are different when i'm with him w/o DH. When I went out with him this past weeked shopping (for 3 hours) I had no problems. In fact, he stayed in the stroller the *whole* time we were shopping. When we got to the first place, target he started making a fuss...asking to walk (which really means run around the place) I told him that he either needed to stay in the stroller and shop with us quietly or he couldn't shop with us and I would drive him back home and drop him off to stay home with Daddy and his other sister. After that no fusses!
Probably because he knew I would actually do that LOL. I am very pregnant, and he's a big boy...just turned 3 and is at the top of the charts for height and weight. I can't chase him around or pick him up as I seem to pull muscles when I do. He weighs as much as my 5 y.o DD! Sigh.
Can someone give me some more pro-active things I can do in advance of going out? Or during this.
I'm sure I'm not the only one. DH gets so concerned about DS 'creating a scene' going out, and I think DH is actually the one who is escalating it to that point...KWIM?
DS is pretty high energy, especially out in public. One of those who likes to wander off, explore things, check things out. Generally a very good natured kiddo as well. Just turned 3.
However, when he's out with DH (who tends towards more authoritarian approach) they seem to get in a power struggle of sorts. DH gets all nervous with him walking around on his own, being squirmy. So, he tries picking him up. Which generally leads to DS being loud...to the point of screaming.
DH's approach the last few times we've been out in public is to pick him up, DS starts screaming. Then he puts him down, then DS gets squirmy/silly again and then DH picks him up. The screaming starts again and DH eventually takes him to the van and puts him in the carseat and sits and waits for myself and the other kids to get done eating.
Personally, I think he's got the wrong approach to this. I think we need to somehow approach this from a different angle. DH doesn't want to listen to me when I try to suggest this at the time. I think DH is creating a power struggle, which makes things worse.
Things are different when i'm with him w/o DH. When I went out with him this past weeked shopping (for 3 hours) I had no problems. In fact, he stayed in the stroller the *whole* time we were shopping. When we got to the first place, target he started making a fuss...asking to walk (which really means run around the place) I told him that he either needed to stay in the stroller and shop with us quietly or he couldn't shop with us and I would drive him back home and drop him off to stay home with Daddy and his other sister. After that no fusses!
Probably because he knew I would actually do that LOL. I am very pregnant, and he's a big boy...just turned 3 and is at the top of the charts for height and weight. I can't chase him around or pick him up as I seem to pull muscles when I do. He weighs as much as my 5 y.o DD! Sigh.Can someone give me some more pro-active things I can do in advance of going out? Or during this.
I'm sure I'm not the only one. DH gets so concerned about DS 'creating a scene' going out, and I think DH is actually the one who is escalating it to that point...KWIM?
No suggestions just empathy for the situation. I hope there are some more replies to this!
