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"Lovely" comment today

post #1 of 63
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I had one of those days where I just didn't want any extra attention when out and about with my two babies and dd. Alas, it did not happen. My favorite of the day from a 60-70 year old "gentleman" : "Wow, someone sure had fun ". Nice, like dh and I had an extra crazy night the day our twins were conceived . Seriously, what is the response to that?!? I think I mumbled something about just getting lucky and then realized afterwards how that must have sounded!
post #2 of 63



WHY can't people just say "beautiful family" and move on?!?!?
post #3 of 63
I always hate the comments when people roll their eyes and say "twins? I'm sorry." I just say "I'm not" and move along. I've gotten that a couple of times.
post #4 of 63
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Originally Posted by Mama to one View Post
Nice, like dh and I had an extra crazy night the day our twins were conceived
Oh is that how this happened? Whew! That's one of life's mysteries solved!
post #5 of 63
Guilty.
I told a mom of triplets that I wasn't sure if I should say I envied her or pitied her. I mean, I can *kind of* imagine 2 babies at once and the joy and bone-breaking work that comes with that, but three? Ai yai yai.
I say I can kind of imagine it because my mom and grandma (both mothers of twins) both regaled me with stories of "twins versus singleton babies" from the times I was born so I have *some* idea (though that's not much compared to the reality, I'm sure).
I remember old men saying the same thing as was said to the OP to my mom, though. I didn't understand it at the time (I was probably about 6) but my mom always said "Too bad I was too drunk to remember it." I remember the look on the old men's faces too. Priceless. And I remember my granny hissing her name at her like my mom does to me when she thinks I've said or done something inappropriate. Ah. Family.
post #6 of 63
I met a friend from school when I only had two/ three children and he was like:

'no tv then. hahaha' to which I replied, 'no, that's right!'
( in truth, we didn't! hehehe )
post #7 of 63
My DH has actually TOLD people that we got the twins by doing it twice in one night. He just can't resist when we get those stupid questions in public. i am glad it happens less now that they are 2, but it was really awful when they were tiny.
post #8 of 63
Oh my Goodness these comments are annoying. I was talking to someone about my b-g twins and this person asked me if they were fertile or siamese. I think she was trying to ask if they were fraternal or identical.
post #9 of 63
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Originally Posted by mamajody View Post
My DH has actually TOLD people that we got the twins by doing it twice in one night. He just can't resist when we get those stupid questions in public. i am glad it happens less now that they are 2, but it was really awful when they were tiny.

tee hee .. DH deserves a hug.

I was at work the other night, and someone said, "You know what causes that by now!" I said, "yes, I do, and we're QUITE good at it."

Snarky comments deserve snarky replies!
post #10 of 63
Those comments *are* annoying! I'm sorry! When I get a really nice one like "you're so lucky" "what a beautiful family" or "I always wished I'd had twins" it stops me in my tracks, makes me smile, and I say so sincerly, THANK YOU! And then I tell them that YES, I *am* lucky and yes they're great and a that I always wanted twins as well and am so thankful to have them.
post #11 of 63
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Originally Posted by 2+twins View Post
Those comments *are* annoying! I'm sorry! When I get a really nice one like "you're so lucky" "what a beautiful family" or "I always wished I'd had twins" it stops me in my tracks, makes me smile, and I say so sincerly, THANK YOU! And then I tell them that YES, I *am* lucky and yes they're great and a that I always wanted twins as well and am so thankful to have them.
me, too! the maintenance man at our apt. gets stars in his eyes and says he and his wife always dreamed of twins but weren't so lucky. what a sweet man he is!
post #12 of 63
Yeah, I'm so freaking tired of all the stupid comments people feel like they have to make. It's gotten better since they're not babies anymore-- the comments have gotten kinder, I think, and I'm not sure why. But there were a few months where I was seriously ready to shove my foot down the throat of the next smart*** who opened his mouth about my kids.

So I totally sympathize.
post #13 of 63
We still haven't gotten a single negative comment, which I think with triplets and two moms is pretty amazing. Most people are in awe and say they've never seen triplets in "real life" before, and they love when I say I hadn't either, until I had these. I'm sure I'll get negative comments eventually, and I hope I get the "someone sure had fun" comment sometime so I can respond that my doctor must have had a ton of fun with all the money we spent there.
post #14 of 63
Oh the comments

My twins look totally differnt (blond hair blue eyes, much bigger; and DARK brown eyes, brown hair and a wirey little thing) and I can't tell you how many have asked us if we're sure they're twins yeah ok like I somehow could be unsure of THAT! We also get a lot of people how think they're 10-ish months apart

We have a larger family and we get the usually comments but there was one that really sticks out. I was shopping with the 3 boys and dh was out in the van with dd. The cashier was ringing up our stuff and there was an outfit for dd and he said "oh there must be a girl somewhere" I told him yep and he said "I feel really bad for you, I have 3 and I can't wait to get away from them" :
I don't know why it bothered me so much
post #15 of 63
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Oh the comments

My twins look totally differnt (blond hair blue eyes, much bigger; and DARK brown eyes, brown hair and a wirey little thing) and I can't tell you how many have asked us if we're sure they're twins yeah ok like I somehow could be unsure of THAT! We also get a lot of people how think they're 10-ish months apart
I don't think I've had people ask if I was sure they were twins or not (what an incredibly stupid thing for someone to even think!) BUT I do get a lot of people thinking my twins are about a year apart. When they were infants people used to ask if they were 6 months apart. ??? I never quite figured the logistics out on that one!
post #16 of 63
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Originally Posted by 2+twins View Post
I don't think I've had people ask if I was sure they were twins or not (what an incredibly stupid thing for someone to even think!) BUT I do get a lot of people thinking my twins are about a year apart. When they were infants people used to ask if they were 6 months apart. ??? I never quite figured the logistics out on that one!
Twice now acquaintances of mine have asked the question "twins?!!". These are people that I know but may have only heard through the grapevine about our newest additions. My reply to them is "No, they're just really close in age" . I mean, really, they're only 4 months old!

I do need a snappy comeback to the good ol' "wow, you have your hands full". Maybe something beyond "well, duh...."

I have had some great comments though and when someone tells you that your family is beautiful it makes it all worthwhile!
post #17 of 63
OK, so I am guilty of giving "I donno how you do it/did it" and other in awe comments to my aunt, who has a 13yr old and 11yr old triplets (2b 1g) I feel like my ONE is going to make me lose my head, and I seem to always express that to her--
I hope that isnt... offensive.. She is incredible- organized, frugal and always seems at least %80 col and collected....
post #18 of 63
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Originally Posted by juju's mom View Post
Oh my Goodness these comments are annoying. I was talking to someone about my b-g twins and this person asked me if they were fertile or siamese. I think she was trying to ask if they were fraternal or identical.
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I always say, when asked if they are id, well one has a penis and one has a vagina, so see how that makes them totally different? Strangers don't like to hear the words penis and vagina from other strangers.
post #19 of 63
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Originally Posted by kellykins View Post
OK, so I am guilty of giving "I donno how you do it/did it" and other in awe comments to my aunt, who has a 13yr old and 11yr old triplets (2b 1g) I feel like my ONE is going to make me lose my head, and I seem to always express that to her--
I hope that isnt... offensive.. She is incredible- organized, frugal and always seems at least %80 col and collected....
This doesn't bother me in the least, because I like it when people acknowledge that things are a little harder with two the same age. It does drive me nuts though when people who have two near the same age act like it's the same thing as having twins. I don't doubt that having two close in age is difficult as well, it's just a different kind of difficult than multiple difficult.

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Oh the comments

My twins look totally differnt (blond hair blue eyes, much bigger; and DARK brown eyes, brown hair and a wirey little thing) and I can't tell you how many have asked us if we're sure they're twins yeah ok like I somehow could be unsure of THAT! We also get a lot of people how think they're 10-ish months apart
Yep, mine are completely different too. Here's how nearly every conversation goes:

Stranger: Are they both yours?
Me: Yes (smiling politely, but thinking "Here we go again!")
Stranger: Oh. (looking confused) Well...how far apart are they?
Me: 24 minutes
Stranger: (Another second of even more confusion) Oh! They're twins!?
Me: Yup.
Stranger: Really? Huh, they don't even look like brothers!
Me: Yup.

Really for the most part, I don't get comments much more annoying than the You have your hands full comment, but I don't really mind cause it's true. I usually smile and say "Sure do."
post #20 of 63
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Originally Posted by esaesa View Post
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I always say, when asked if they are id, well one has a penis and one has a vagina, so see how that makes them totally different? Strangers don't like to hear the words penis and vagina from other strangers.


I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that question all the time, but if I did this would be the response I would use. Just to see people squirm!
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