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post #21 of 63
You could always say that your cloning experiment was a success.
post #22 of 63
I can only imagine the comments parents of multiples get. I especially like the fertile or siamese. LOL.

I think twins are adorable, can imagine the work, but can imagine the reward too. I wanted b-g twins, but I got two boys close in age instead.

My addition to this thread that perhaps other people with kids close in age have experienced, is that although they are 18 months apart people think they are twins. One is big, one is smaller, one talks, one drools, but still, every time we are out people comment on my "twins". My dh gets so sick of it he just says yes they are.
post #23 of 63
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Originally Posted by abomgardner417 View Post
Stranger: Are they both yours?
Me: Yes (smiling politely, but thinking "Here we go again!")
Stranger: Oh. (looking confused) Well...how far apart are they?
Me: 24 minutes
Stranger: (Another second of even more confusion) Oh! They're twins!?
Me: Yup.
Stranger: Really? Huh, they don't even look like brothers!
Me: Yup.

Seriously. I'd have to restrain myself from hitting the person. Of course, I was always the one who "didn't look like she's related", so I have issues in that department.
post #24 of 63
Dumbest comments so far:

"Were they born at the same time?" (eh, wha? no, they came one at a time 35 minutes apart)

Pointing to Claire, "She must be younger, right?" (ahem, yes, because she's lighter and female she MUST be younger. people get REALLY bugged when I tell them Ben is our baby)

And my fave:

"YOU HAD THEM AT HOME?!?!?!? WITHOUT DRUGS!?!?!?" (at which point I'm tempted to say "no, I had them at home by c-section" and walk away)
post #25 of 63
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Originally Posted by esaesa View Post
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I always say, when asked if they are id, well one has a penis and one has a vagina, so see how that makes them totally different? Strangers don't like to hear the words penis and vagina from other strangers.
I do not parent multiples but had to add...

post #26 of 63
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Originally Posted by esaesa View Post
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I always say, when asked if they are id, well one has a penis and one has a vagina, so see how that makes them totally different? Strangers don't like to hear the words penis and vagina from other strangers.
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Originally Posted by Intertwined View Post

And my fave:

"YOU HAD THEM AT HOME?!?!?!? WITHOUT DRUGS!?!?!?" (at which point I'm tempted to say "no, I had them at home by c-section" and walk away)
These are too funny
post #27 of 63
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Originally Posted by esaesa View Post
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I always say, when asked if they are id, well one has a penis and one has a vagina, so see how that makes them totally different? Strangers don't like to hear the words penis and vagina from other strangers.
I might have to steal this. I usually just say "well, no, one's a boy and one's a girl so they can't be identical". The funny thing is I guess people don't want to feel silly when I point this out so they say "but they look so much alike". For the record, I really don't think they look that much alike. We (along with a 3 year old and 6 year old) could tell the difference from day one. I think they look as alike as two 4 month old babies could even if they're not necessarily related. So, I guess it goes both ways. Comments from those who want them to look/be identical and comments from those who insist they're not twins

I also wanted to say that personally I'm not offended by many comments. When I'm venting about the comments it's usually just because I go through a period where I'm tired of the extra attention and having to talk about it all the time. Like when you're walking through a mall and even though you're focusing on your babies you can see people stop and stare with your peripheral vision and hear the comments. Sometimes you just want to be invisible - kwim? But then, you have a day where you are totally into showing off your babies and talking about them. Posting here allows me to get it off my chest and still be polite in public! Hearing a comment from a family member or good friend is very different.
post #28 of 63
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Originally Posted by purplemoon View Post
My addition to this thread that perhaps other people with kids close in age have experienced, is that although they are 18 months apart people think they are twins. One is big, one is smaller, one talks, one drools, but still, every time we are out people comment on my "twins". My dh gets so sick of it he just says yes they are.
Ok, guilty! But in fairness, I only did it once when I found out I was preg w/ twins and I would stalk every set of twins I saw. And these girls were the same height/size, same color hair/eyes, same outfits, same hair-do, etc. But I guess that's really not an excuse! I didn't think about how annoying it would be the other way around so thanks for pointing out! I don't do it anymore!
post #29 of 63
I was at a garage sale this summer and had both babies with me, and a lady at the sale asked "twins?", I said "yeah", and honestly she said "did you carry them at the same time?" I was like-"well, yeah-they're twins."
That is about the dumbest comment/question I have gotten so far. And I have gotten the are they id question before too, and I just say "no one's a boy and one's a girl." And one lady actually said "well they can still be id anyways, that just means they look alike." Ummm, no it doesn't.
post #30 of 63
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Originally Posted by juju's mom View Post
Oh my Goodness these comments are annoying. I was talking to someone about my b-g twins and this person asked me if they were fertile or siamese. I think she was trying to ask if they were fraternal or identical.
No, she was trying to ask if they were paternal or not .
post #31 of 63
I have started giving smartmouth replies when people ask if they are twins. Because honestly, they really do look so much alike, and they are the same size. And even if I'm being obnoxious I say it with a genuine smile. But here are some of my faves:

-no, they're four months apart.
-no, we just keep this one for spare parts.
-well, I needed to start building my army SOMEwhere if I'm going to take over the world.
-oh my god, there's one on my back, too? they're multiplying!

I feel the same way as a previous person, where it's not so much the comments that bother me, (unless they are really, really dumb or obnoxious), it's the sheer quantity of them. I feel like I can't walk 5 feet in the grocery store without someone saying, "Oh, twins!", and then they want to stop and talk for five minutes about their aunt's cousin's niece who had twins and they're 50 now. and if it were just once, I would totally be up for that. But I kind of feel like, "hey, I'm trying to buy some cheese here and get out of the store before we have toddler meltdown, so do you think you could just let me be?"

But I did have one really, really great moment (in the grocery store, no less). This elderly woman stopped me and told me how she has identical twin grandsons, and they are in their twenties now, and how she is so proud of them and they are in the marines and both went to Iraq. AND THEN, her husband comes over and whips out a photo of these two very handsome young men in uniform. She was telling me how they were both wounded, and how brave they were, and it made me so happy to see how proud they were of their grandsons. It was really nice. I think I even misted up a little. Just the fact that this guy kept their photo in his checkbook, ready to whip out at a moments' notice.... so sweet!
post #32 of 63
Being the 5th of 6 kids, I grew up a bit attention-seeking (even became an actress ). But after having twins, I will never need another ounce of the public's attention again! I was wearing the girls in a double sling carry at the park, and literally got talked to by EVERYONE w/in eyesight of me. But, out of the 4 people that I talked to at length, 2 were identical twins themselves. Crazy! Usually all the comments are supportive and sweet, but there are times that my brain is goo, I'm trying to focus to make a purchase, keep Bella safe and in close range, as well as keep two babies content, as I try to maneuver my way through a conversation about the twins. I usually like to put my plug in for breastfeeding and homebirth so that I feel gratified from the conversation as well . The worst comment I got was "TWINS???? YOU"RE SCREWED!!!!" This was from a really supportive neighbor. ha ha
post #33 of 63
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Originally Posted by 4Marmalade View Post
Twice now acquaintances of mine have asked the question "twins?!!". These are people that I know but may have only heard through the grapevine about our newest additions. My reply to them is "No, they're just really close in age" . I mean, really, they're only 4 months old!

I do need a snappy comeback to the good ol' "wow, you have your hands full". Maybe something beyond "well, duh...."

I have had some great comments though and when someone tells you that your family is beautiful it makes it all worthwhile!
I always wondered what people were thinking with that too, asking the age gap when they were babies, but then I met a mama with children who were 4 months apart. She and her partner had overlapping pregnancies and now they have 2 children 4 months apart. She called them San Francisco twins.
post #34 of 63
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Originally Posted by valkyrina View Post
there's one on my back, too? they're multiplying!

Love this!

I like when I walk through the grocery and people see the one baby on front and my other children and their mouths hang open, and then as I walk away, I hear a "gasp!" as they notice the one on my back! What can I say, I get a kick out of us!

As an aside, I was looking at the smilies and what the heck is this? laughup This thing is terrifying! That does not look like laughing. Auughh. NIghtmarish.
post #35 of 63
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Originally Posted by herdingkittens View Post

I like when I walk through the grocery and people see the one baby on front and my other children and their mouths hang open, and then as I walk away, I hear a "gasp!" as they notice the one on my back! What can I say, I get a kick out of us!
I love this too! I get disappointed if I get no double-takes. Oh the shame! :

I have to say, if the person stopping me to chat either is a twin or has twins, I love it. I always ask if she has any advice. But those people aren't the ones who hint you have too many kids, they're the ones who think TWINS ARE AWESOME.
post #36 of 63
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Originally Posted by Intertwined View Post
Pointing to Claire, "She must be younger, right?" (ahem, yes, because she's lighter and female she MUST be younger. people get REALLY bugged when I tell them Ben is our baby)
ugh, I forgot when a couple of people have asked and we tell them the boy was born first, they say "oh GOOD, he's the big brother and they're the little sisters, that's the way it should be!" :

I also have one girl who is...well, I'll just say more traditionally cute than the other one, and I'm sick of people assigning roles, like one has to be the princess diva drama queen and the other is the scrappy tomboy. I'd like them BOTH to be scrappy tomboys, thankyouverymuch!

Really though, people have been wonderful 99% of the time.
post #37 of 63
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Originally Posted by valkyrina View Post
But I did have one really, really great moment (in the grocery store, no less). This elderly woman stopped me and told me how she has identical twin grandsons, and they are in their twenties now, and how she is so proud of them and they are in the marines and both went to Iraq. AND THEN, her husband comes over and whips out a photo of these two very handsome young men in uniform. She was telling me how they were both wounded, and how brave they were, and it made me so happy to see how proud they were of their grandsons. It was really nice. I think I even misted up a little. Just the fact that this guy kept their photo in his checkbook, ready to whip out at a moments' notice.... so sweet!
That made me cry.

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Originally Posted by mamaeliz View Post
Being the 5th of 6 kids, I grew up a bit attention-seeking (even became an actress ). But after having twins, I will never need another ounce of the public's attention again! I was wearing the girls in a double sling carry at the park, and literally got talked to by EVERYONE w/in eyesight of me. But, out of the 4 people that I talked to at length, 2 were identical twins themselves. Crazy! Usually all the comments are supportive and sweet, but there are times that my brain is goo, I'm trying to focus to make a purchase, keep Bella safe and in close range, as well as keep two babies content, as I try to maneuver my way through a conversation about the twins. I usually like to put my plug in for breastfeeding and homebirth so that I feel gratified from the conversation as well . The worst comment I got was "TWINS???? YOU"RE SCREWED!!!!" This was from a really supportive neighbor. ha ha
That's not even right! *shakes head* I always tell DH that I would *love* to have twins, but so far, it's not to be. My brother and sister are twins, and I always thought it was so neat the relationship they share.

I like to talk to a lot of people with babies, including mamas with twins or more, but usually I just say how cute they are and let them get on.

My PCP has one of (two?) sets of natural triplets in the area. He's so proud of them. The first time I went to see him, after the appointment, he said, "You have to come here! I want to show you my triplets!" When he showed me the picture, he said "Yeah, my wife and I had a really great night that night." (Kind of made me uncomfortable, because I'm not one to discuss "such things" in public, but it was so funny the way he said it.)

I can only imagine it takes a lot more work with multiples, but there are quite a few blessings to go along, I don't know why people insist on pointing out the negative, or making it out to be a negative thing.

(I know I don't "belong" here, but I saw the "Lovely Comment..." title and had to check it out. I'm sorry.)
post #38 of 63
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Originally Posted by bmcneal View Post
My PCP has one of (two?) sets of natural triplets in the area. He's so proud of them.
That's , but all children are "natural". At least mine are. No plastic involved :

I think the term you are looking for is "spontaneous" or "spontaneously conceived"?
post #39 of 63
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Originally Posted by vanauken View Post
I love this too! I get disappointed if I get no double-takes. Oh the shame! :

I have to say, if the person stopping me to chat either is a twin or has twins, I love it. I always ask if she has any advice. But those people aren't the ones who hint you have too many kids, they're the ones who think TWINS ARE AWESOME.
do you get good advice, or bad?? When I was PG with my boys, I'd get random 'helpful' comments from strangers, and the majority of them were regarding 'getting them on a schedule' .. grrr
post #40 of 63
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Originally Posted by herdingkittens View Post

Love this!

I like when I walk through the grocery and people see the one baby on front and my other children and their mouths hang open, and then as I walk away, I hear a "gasp!" as they notice the one on my back! What can I say, I get a kick out of us!

As an aside, I was looking at the smilies and what the heck is this? laughup This thing is terrifying! That does not look like laughing. Auughh. NIghtmarish.
it is a bit psychotic ....
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