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post #41 of 63
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Originally Posted by venustx View Post
ugh, I forgot when a couple of people have asked and we tell them the boy was born first, they say "oh GOOD, he's the big brother and they're the little sisters, that's the way it should be!" :
It's weird isn't it? The gender roles assigned to tiny babies?

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Originally Posted by venustx View Post
I also have one girl who is...well, I'll just say more traditionally cute than the other one, and I'm sick of people assigning roles, like one has to be the princess diva drama queen and the other is the scrappy tomboy. I'd like them BOTH to be scrappy tomboys, thankyouverymuch!
Oh, stop, I think BOTH of your girls are precious!

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Originally Posted by bmcneal View Post
That's not even right! *shakes head* I always tell DH that I would *love* to have twins, but so far, it's not to be. My brother and sister are twins, and I always thought it was so neat the relationship they share.

I like to talk to a lot of people with babies, including mamas with twins or more, but usually I just say how cute they are and let them get on.

My PCP has one of (two?) sets of natural triplets in the area. He's so proud of them. The first time I went to see him, after the appointment, he said, "You have to come here! I want to show you my triplets!" When he showed me the picture, he said "Yeah, my wife and I had a really great night that night." (Kind of made me uncomfortable, because I'm not one to discuss "such things" in public, but it was so funny the way he said it.)

I can only imagine it takes a lot more work with multiples, but there are quite a few blessings to go along, I don't know why people insist on pointing out the negative, or making it out to be a negative thing.

(I know I don't "belong" here, but I saw the "Lovely Comment..." title and had to check it out. I'm sorry.)
You are totally welcome to comment!

The worst comment I got was a woman who reacted really negatively to my news that I was having twins after having four children. It still makes me mad to think of the awful things she said, among them "That's terrible" and "I'm so sorry".
post #42 of 63
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Originally Posted by abomgardner417 View Post
It does drive me nuts though when people who have two near the same age act like it's the same thing as having twins. I don't doubt that having two close in age is difficult as well, it's just a different kind of difficult than multiple difficult.
Oh that makes me so mad. I got in an arguement with an aquiantence once. She was going to have two almost 20 months apart and told me it would be jsut like twins ah NO ITS NOT! It went on for way more than I would I have liked, with her over and over again saying its "just as hard".

DD was 17 months old when my twins were born and I can say from personal experience that it is NOTHING alike.
post #43 of 63
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Originally Posted by DiannaK View Post
do you get good advice, or bad?? When I was PG with my boys, I'd get random 'helpful' comments from strangers, and the majority of them were regarding 'getting them on a schedule' .. grrr
Usually, it's good. Stuff like, "Make sure they each have their own birthday cake!" That was from a woman who was an MZ twin herself. Or, "they fought when they were teenagers, but they're such good friends now."
post #44 of 63
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Originally Posted by vanauken View Post
Usually, it's good. Stuff like, "Make sure they each have their own birthday cake!" That was from a woman who was an MZ twin herself. Or, "they fought when they were teenagers, but they're such good friends now."
Yeah, that's similar to the advice I got when I asked a family member (by marriage) who is a MZ twin. She said the best thing her mother did for them was to always dress them differently and do two of everything. Of course that's when I was pregnant and dead set on NEVER dressing them alike. I actually do once in a while because it's really adorable and hard not to But I do it rarely and they're still babies and anyway they look so much alike that I just get confused and have to pick them up to check the weight difference

At the store today I ran into a woman pushing a triple stroller and pulling a cart. She had 20-month-old twin girls and a 7-month-old girl. We stood there talking for quite a while. It's nice to run into people who understand. Most of the time it's just "you have your hands full" (it's getting to the point where I'm surprised it's such a cultural norm to say this...it's just the first thing that comes to almost everybody's mind).

And yeah, people ask me if they're twins all the time. I mean, they don't look at all alike, do they? http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g1...wboosters2.jpg
rofl
post #45 of 63
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Originally Posted by MaryJaneLouise View Post
No, she was trying to ask if they were paternal or not .

Oh man, I totally forgot until I saw this...A woman I was talking to in the waiting room at the doc's office once told me that mine must be paternal since they didn't look alike and I said well, they're FRAternal. She then proceeded to school me on the different types of twins and insisted that there were types called maternal and paternal. We got called into the office at that point thank goodness, cause I had two sick, cranky 13 mo olds and did not feel like giving a biology lesson.
post #46 of 63
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Originally Posted by mama_tigress View Post
And yeah, people ask me if they're twins all the time. I mean, they don't look at all alike, do they? http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g1...wboosters2.jpg
rofl
Hmmm...are you sure they're twins?

So adorable!
post #47 of 63
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Originally Posted by mama_tigress View Post

And yeah, people ask me if they're twins all the time. I mean, they don't look at all alike, do they? http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g1...wboosters2.jpg
rofl
Oh, they are DEFINITELY paternal.
post #48 of 63
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Originally Posted by Intertwined View Post
Oh, they are DEFINITELY paternal.
post #49 of 63
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Originally Posted by Intertwined View Post
Oh, they are DEFINITELY paternal.
This is funny because they actually look a lot like DH's baby pics

I JUST had this convo at the grocery store:
Everybody was talking to us because DS1 was dressed as a tiger. So we were leaving the store and this woman came up and said hi to DS1, etc. First the woman didn't notice there were two babies (one in car seat in cart, one in wrap on my front). Then she saw the other one:
Woman: Twins?
Me: Yup.
Woman: Which ones is twins?
Me: ummm, these ones...

rofl
because, you know, my 2-year-old might be twins with one of my identical 6-month-olds
post #50 of 63
People are really in a world of their own!
post #51 of 63
I do often get asked if I have two sets of twins. Noah and Hannah are only 17 months apart and he's tall to her short. They also have the exact same face shape. I can totally see it myself, though!
post #52 of 63
Ok, I cannot help myself. I have to share some other "lovely" comments I have received....I am sure you can all relate!

One time I walked into the post office with my children (babies being worn), and someone yelled (yes, yelled!) out "OH! THAT POOR WOMAN!" First of all, they were not being all crazy - they were simply walking along with me. Secondly, HELLO! My children can HEAR YOU! I wonder how that must make them feel.... Not feeling all that poor....feeling pretty rich, actually!

On baby wearing in the grocery store: "Doesn't your back hurt?" Yes, it does (note the epsom salts on the conveyor belt!). But my ears and brain would hurt a lot more if I had to grocery shop with with the babies crying to be held.

It is a shame that people think children are a big pain. Sure, it's hard work, but I happen to love these little people!
post #53 of 63
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Originally Posted by herdingkittens View Post
On baby wearing in the grocery store: "Doesn't your back hurt?" Yes, it does (note the epsom salts on the conveyor belt!).
Huh. Shows how smart I am. I never thought of putting epsom salts in my bath for a sore back- at least not in a very long while. I think my brain shrunk after having ds1.
post #54 of 63
When I was pregnant, a lady said "twins? OMG, that's horrible! My sister has twins and it's awful, just awful. Her twins are 5 now and she STILL hasn't been able to bond with any of them because she's constantly caring for one or the other and doesn't actually PLAY with them." I said "wow, how sad for her. Pity she doesn't have a sister who can help out every now and again."
post #55 of 63
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Originally Posted by dknees View Post
When I was pregnant, a lady said "twins? OMG, that's horrible! My sister has twins and it's awful, just awful. Her twins are 5 now and she STILL hasn't been able to bond with any of them because she's constantly caring for one or the other and doesn't actually PLAY with them." I said "wow, how sad for her. Pity she doesn't have a sister who can help out every now and again."

That is PRICELESS!!!!!!

I forgot one!

I went to the grocery store the other day with five of my six. As we were checking out the rather young cashier said "Twins?" and I smiled and nodded. He said "You sure have your hands full" and I just smiled and nodded. Then I mentioned "this isn't all of them, I have an older son in Kindergarten!" My mistake. He started pointing and YELLING at the cashier next to him "Hey! This lady has SIX KIDS! Can you BELIEVE THAT!?!? SIX! WHOA!!!!" and on and on and on. It was SO inappropriate of him and every stinkin person in the place was staring at me as we all trooped out. I was horrified and thought about calling to complain but couldn't remember his name. :
post #56 of 63
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Originally Posted by juju's mom View Post
I was talking to someone about my b-g twins and this person asked me if they were fertile or siamese. I think she was trying to ask if they were fraternal or identical.
This is one of the funniest things I've read in a while!! Fertile or siamese!!! :

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Originally Posted by 4Marmalade View Post
I do need a snappy comeback to the good ol' "wow, you have your hands full". Maybe something beyond "well, duh...."
Yeah...I have to think of something to say to this- I hear it every single day, and I'm sure moms of multiples get it even more!! I never know what else to say besides "mmm-hmm!"

My 2 are THREE years apart, they look completely different, one is tiny, blonde, and blue eyed (and 3 years older!) and the other is fat, dark hair and dark eyes, and every day I get "Oh! Twins!" Even when DS2 was a newborn and in the double stroller with DS1 (3 yrs old at the time!) I would get asked if they were twins! Yes, a newborn and a toddler!

Oh, and "double wide! comin' through!" is a frequent comment, too. I think people are just trying to be friendly and don't know what else to say.
post #57 of 63
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Originally Posted by Intertwined View Post
That is PRICELESS!!!!!!

I forgot one!

I went to the grocery store the other day with five of my six. As we were checking out the rather young cashier said "Twins?" and I smiled and nodded. He said "You sure have your hands full" and I just smiled and nodded. Then I mentioned "this isn't all of them, I have an older son in Kindergarten!" My mistake. He started pointing and YELLING at the cashier next to him "Hey! This lady has SIX KIDS! Can you BELIEVE THAT!?!? SIX! WHOA!!!!" and on and on and on. It was SO inappropriate of him and every stinkin person in the place was staring at me as we all trooped out. I was horrified and thought about calling to complain but couldn't remember his name. :
This comes up for me often too. My oldest ds is in grade 1 so is in school everyday. Often it is me, older dd and the two babies out. People start commenting and I feel badly because people don't know about my wonderful ds who is not with us that day. People always talk to dd and ask her about her brother and sister and I feel like we should acknowledge her other brother - kwim? But then that backfires because it just draws even more attention. And I only have 4
post #58 of 63
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Originally Posted by 4Marmalade View Post
I do need a snappy comeback to the good ol' "wow, you have your hands full".
here are some that I have utilized:

"Better full than empty."
"I do, can you hold this one for a minute?"
"They keep me out of trouble." (my personal fav ...it's true!)
"I do! Aren't I blessed?!"
"What do you mean? I have two free hands!" (when wearing both babies)

Now, I have never said this, but am tempted to produce a horrified look and yell, "I do?!! Full of what?!?! Auughh!"
post #59 of 63
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Originally Posted by herdingkittens View Post
here are some that I have utilized:

"Better full than empty."
"I do, can you hold this one for a minute?"
"They keep me out of trouble." (my personal fav ...it's true!)
"I do! Aren't I blessed?!"
"What do you mean? I have two free hands!" (when wearing both babies)

Now, I have never said this, but am tempted to produce a horrified look and yell, "I do?!! Full of what?!?! Auughh!"
: LOL, I love these!
post #60 of 63
What amuses me is the range of comments I can get, in the same shopping trip, or whatever. I get the "OMG, they are the most identical twins I have ever seen!" from one person, and then later I'll get "Oh, they're twins? But they are fraternal, right?" And both people are utterly certain they are right.

I do admit I felt bad about one smartass response. We were at a bday party at a neighbor's house, and a woman with a 4-week-old infant asked me how far apart in age my girls were. I replied "35 minutes" and she was all embarrassed for not realizing they were twins. I should've cut a new mom a little more slack than that.
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