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post #41 of 53
So last night I was sitting next to Miriam for dinner, chattering away, feeding her, playing etc for about 30 min. I go to get her out of her chair, and it's NOT Miriam!! I look across the table and there's Miriam waving at me. I"m their Mother and they had me fooled for 30 minutes! Their hair is growing out and wispy so it covers the differing head shapes, and their personalities are similar. I just couldn't believe I had them confused for so long! And they were dressed differently but I didn't even notice the clothes. I guess if I get really confused Shira's dot on her leg will solve the problem!

But good grief I can't believe it! Doesn't help that they still answer to each other's names.
post #42 of 53
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So last night I was sitting next to Miriam for dinner, chattering away, feeding her, playing etc for about 30 min. I go to get her out of her chair, and it's NOT Miriam!! I look across the table and there's Miriam waving at me. I"m their Mother and they had me fooled for 30 minutes! Their hair is growing out and wispy so it covers the differing head shapes, and their personalities are similar. I just couldn't believe I had them confused for so long! And they were dressed differently but I didn't even notice the clothes. I guess if I get really confused Shira's dot on her leg will solve the problem!

But good grief I can't believe it! Doesn't help that they still answer to each other's names.
That is too cute!!!

I always feel badly when I'm telling the wrong child not to do something- like "Please get off the table!!" The other one will look at me oddly for a second and wonder what he did wrong! Hopefully I won't damage them for life! I guess soon enough they'll probably realize how much fun it will be to confuse us all!

It would be fun to hear from moms of older MZ twins to see when or if they try to switch identities or try to trick people. I've frequently heard of it happening in kindergarten when the twins are put into different classes.
post #43 of 53
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That is too cute!!!

I always feel badly when I'm telling the wrong child not to do something- like "Please get off the table!!" The other one will look at me oddly for a second and wonder what he did wrong! Hopefully I won't damage them for life! I guess soon enough they'll probably realize how much fun it will be to confuse us all!
That is the worst! I hate when I'm saying "Lilly! Put the ___ down!" several times before I realize that Lilly's over in the corner playing with Legos, wondering WTF I am talking about. Oops. Even if no one else is there, I feel pretty embarrassed.
post #44 of 53
Congratz on the testing! It's pretty exciting knowing for sure.

Mine were mono/di and had a good path report confirming zygocity so I trust it.

Mine have whorls going the same direction but they have both consistantly gotten teeth on the opposite sides each time. If one is teething I know to check the other side of their sister's mouth because sure enough that's always the tooth that comes in. Their teeth overlap oppositely on the bottom too. It'll be interesting to see if there is any difference in handedness later on.

Mine are very identical. No one can tell them apart but me, not even my dh. It's kinda nice that they're walking because now we can all tell them apart by scrapes and bruises . They have always been the same size within a 1/2 a lb and the same height within 1/2 inch. Willow has a lower voice and a strawberry mark on her ear, although the birthmark is rapidly fading already! Fiona has a smaller belly button and Willow has a swirl rather then a circle. Personality is shades of gray from each other. Fiona is more intense. She's the one who cried most and still does. Willow was more mellow but is turning into a little firecracker now. She's adventurous where her sister is more reserved. Luckily they know their own names now so I can ask them If i'm not sure. Yes they walked on the same day... it was SO cool. Their vocabulary is a bit different right now too, so that also helps me to tell them apart.

ITA, mom always thinks they look different. I think it's part of our survival as MoMs of MZ kiddos!
post #45 of 53
Lucia, that's so interesting. I like "shades of gray" on personality. Mine are so alike yet slightly different in that area. Voice difference is slowly getting more discernable to me. Shira has a freckle on her leg if anyone gets really stuck. I dress them differently as much as possible but then later in the day I forget who I dressed in what and the clothing doesn't matter. And yes on vocabulary though what I'm quickly learning is that one says it and the other learns it, so it's almost identical. Shira said her first "sentence" so loud and clear today I though it was her older brother. "NO HIT" not the greatest first sentence but that's what we're going through right now

Monkey see, monkey do is so relevant right now.
post #46 of 53
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That is too cute!!!

I always feel badly when I'm telling the wrong child not to do something- like "Please get off the table!!" The other one will look at me oddly for a second and wonder what he did wrong! Hopefully I won't damage them for life! I guess soon enough they'll probably realize how much fun it will be to confuse us all!

It would be fun to hear from moms of older MZ twins to see when or if they try to switch identities or try to trick people. I've frequently heard of it happening in kindergarten when the twins are put into different classes.
My 2.5 yo girls sometimes pretend to be each other. I think they know what they are doing and they do it to confuse my 4yo who still can't tell them apart.
post #47 of 53
LOL on don't hit. Yeah, we're in the same place . The vocab thing isn't so much about ability but about fav words. They each seem to have a catch phrase that they use frequently. It helps. We color coded them early on so we could tell them apart. Willow is purple and Fiona is pink. Willow wears green bobux and Fiona wears brown. Fiona wears a brown fleece coat and Willow wears a white one... you get the idea. Some times I mix it up but sometimes it's just not worth letting my dh embarrass himself LOL. OH and DS can tell them apart as well or better then I can.
post #48 of 53
We do the color coding thing too. Shira is alway green or the darker shade if it's same colors. Miriam is always pin or the lighter shade. Shira is always strawberries or stripes while Miriam is in cherries or plain/dots. Lord help me if DH dresses them and swaps it up!
post #49 of 53
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This may be a silly question for those of you who color code your twins....

Are you doing that for quick recognition purposes or is it because it's very difficult to tell them apart even after looking/watching them? Does that make sense? I often mix my two up if they are wearing the same thing, but if I really look at them straight on I can usually always tell them apart. Especially when they're together I can always tell them apart. Sometimes I'll have to look over at the other one or I do a double take to make sure I have the right kiddo. My boys are often quite different in personalities so I can usually always tell from that. Although lately I've noticed they are mimicking each others facial expressions more making them look more alike. Does it become easier or more difficult to recognize them when they get more hair? Mine are so blonde they still look bald!

I'm starting to notice more mirroring things too. I mentioned the hair whorls before- they are on opposite sides of their heads and one goes clockwise and the other one goes counterclockwise. I'm pretty sure one is left handed and one is right handed. When can you tell handedness? One will eat with his left hand and will reach for things or throw things left handed. What other mirroring things have you noticed with your twins?
post #50 of 53
I do it for quick recognition that way I call the correct name across the room, etc.

And it helps others who are not around them as much if I say who's in green and who's in blue and that doesn't change.
post #51 of 53
We color-code, though we did it by having their ears pierced. Yes, I know, not popular here, but the reason we did it was actually to help other people - family and close friends - tell them apart. My husband and I can, but other people - including their older siblings, couldn't.

After we had them wearing different colored earrings, my oldest started calling them by their real names - which I LOVE. : Before she didn't know who was who. We really, really, really wanted them to be called by their names, rather than by "which one are you?" I think it's psychologically healthy for them to be called by their real names.

I admit, it helps for quick identification too (you know, when you don't have time to stare into her eyes, because you need to call her name because she's about to put something in her mouth that she shouldn't!).

(The color-coding clothes was impractical for us because our twins are wearing mostly hand-me-downs. If we'd done it, it would have had to be "you wear pink, and you wear everything else" and I was afraid that if one girl was always, always in pink, that it would make people treat her differently, and she'd become "the girly one" whether that was the way she actually was or not.)
post #52 of 53
Yeah not all our clothes are color coded but what I have done is taken all of their clothing and put them together in sets. So for example if they're wearing their brother's stuff, one is always in the bear one and the other is always in the fish one. They wear a variety of colors this way and I just make sure that they wear the same outfit each time in the set.

I agree ^^^ they need to be called by name. Too often I find myself saying, no no baby because I don't know who it is. DD can always tell them apart but DS hasn't figured it out yet.
post #53 of 53
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We color-code, though we did it by having their ears pierced. Yes, I know, not popular here, but the reason we did it was actually to help other people - family and close friends - tell them apart. My husband and I can, but other people - including their older siblings, couldn't.

After we had them wearing different colored earrings, my oldest started calling them by their real names - which I LOVE. : Before she didn't know who was who. We really, really, really wanted them to be called by their names, rather than by "which one are you?" I think it's psychologically healthy for them to be called by their real names.

I admit, it helps for quick identification too (you know, when you don't have time to stare into her eyes, because you need to call her name because she's about to put something in her mouth that she shouldn't!).

(The color-coding clothes was impractical for us because our twins are wearing mostly hand-me-downs. If we'd done it, it would have had to be "you wear pink, and you wear everything else" and I was afraid that if one girl was always, always in pink, that it would make people treat her differently, and she'd become "the girly one" whether that was the way she actually was or not.)
Oh... pierced ears!!! I wish I could do that here.....

Thanks for clarifying for me!! I guess our boys are different enough that I don't have to worry about this. I told some friends last night about them being identical and one friend said, "I didn't think they looked like they could be identical!" It's like someone said before- some days they look so much alike and other days very different.
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