Honestly, the only good thing about my birth was that neither DD nor I died and that she didn't suffer extreme physical injury. And trying to celebrate that is just the same as the people who tell you that your trauma is not real; that you're being selfish and focusing on the negatives, that you should just be grateful.
I understand and appreciate your intention in posting this, and I am truly glad that you have managed to find beauty in your births. I am glad that you are finding healing.
However, for me - I can't speak for any one else here- but for me, I was a victim of birth rape. I can no more find beauty in what was done to me than a rape victim can be pleased that it was a lovely day when she was raped, or that at least her rapist didn't have HIV... I know that these are strong words, and they are not in the least directed at you. It's just that the anger I feel is real and justified. What was done to me (and from the various stories that I've read is done to thousands of women every year) was utterly wrong.
I understand that some women want to erase the negatives and find something positive about the experience to focus on. I am glad that they can. But it's not for me. I will not deny the horror of what happened to me, and for me trying to find something positive about that awful experience would be denying the truth. I'm just trying to live with my truth.