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post #41 of 51
Every time my pregnancy comes up with someone new, either at work, or with relatives, I brace myself for the look of concern or mild disgust. I am very overweight and there are many people out in the world who see that as endangerment to the baby, and there are articles even suggesting that pregnancies involving obese women should be considered child abuse.http://aussiemistress.blogspot.com/2...ild-abuse.html
post #42 of 51
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Originally Posted by SuzanneDeAz View Post
I am confused. You told your BF today? Does BF mean boyfriend. So you told your boyfriend about the baby before you told this board?
I would guess in the context of the post you meant to quote, "BF" means "best friend."
post #43 of 51
best friend = BF

at least I think that's what she means
post #44 of 51
I will get all kinds of rude comments.

This is #3 for us and our older two are almost 5 and 6.5 so we are just starting to get some ability-to-sleep-in-a little-bit-on-the weekend time back.

Plus I will be 42 when the sprout is born.

There will be a lot of "you must be crazy", "better you than me" and "you do realize that you will be 60 when this child graduates from high school right?".

Us being PG again will be a shock to most people. i dont really know why since it is obvious that we are crazy about kids.
post #45 of 51
Hope you all don't mind if I barge here and bring up this old post. I am 15w with #6 (when this one is born, the others will be 8, 6, 6, 3 and 1). This was a big surprise, considering I'll be 41, have a long history of infertility and have not had a period since before my baby was born last May. Anyhow, I still haven't told my mother! She's going to threaten to move in with me or something, since I couldn't possibly handle it on my own. I think she felt oppressed by having four kids herself. (the truth is, I just have very different standards and systems for how I keep house LOL.) She drives me crazy.

But I really want to share what MIL said. She was so sweet - DH told her the other night and she called me yesterday to say how happy she was, and that if her parents hadn't had 12, DH wouldn't be here. (MIL was #12.)
post #46 of 51
Thread Starter 
snowmom5:

This is 6 for me too.
Your MIL sounds like my mom, but your mom sounds just like my MIL!
In her latest email, she told my husband that I HAVE to hire a nanny, because I obviously can't handle 6 And I had been so surprised she had been nice about the news so far... She too has totally different standards from mine.
post #47 of 51
Quindin - all the talk about how I need to hire a nanny is one of the reasons I'm procrastinating on telling my family - had enough of that after #5. I have a very successful brother and at one point SIL had two nannies - one for each of her two kids (and she wasn't working, and they weren't that little). I had a nanny for a little while when I was on bedrest with my twins and then afterward, but I hated having someone around all the time. Plus it would be throwing money out the window - sure I could use a sitter sometimes, but I don't need full time help. Even though my mom loved being a mom - indeed her entire identity seemed wrapped up in it - she was depressed, I think, during my childhood for whatever reasons, and I think she projects her feelings about that time period onto me and my family. I'm trying to go a few more weeks without telling her. I'm sure she'll say she needs to move here (which is so NOT happening - no way could I deal with that). Even with 5 kids, she is completely convinced that I need her here. I'm her only daughter and my dad passed away a couple years ago - she needs to be needed but I'd like her to look elsewhere.

I'm just glad someone else understands this... maybe she'll surprise me and be happy? she'll be happy but behind my back she'll talk about how I have to get help. Like the time recently when she said my house was "not as bad as it used to be." gee thanks.
post #48 of 51
My mom told me my fiance needs to get a vasectomy yesterday.. LOL

Ok mom, we will get right on that.
post #49 of 51
It amazes me how rude people can be - be it having a larger family to infertility, people just say things that are stupid if they actually thought about it. I know a precious family with 6 girls. She was due with her 6th the same week as my 2nd was due and we had a fun time progressing through pregnancy together. I was shocked at the number of people who kept asking (in front of the other kids too) if they were "finally getting their boy this time!" How rude to imply that they only "kept" having kids in hopes of having a boy!
post #50 of 51
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Originally Posted by rebeccalynn View Post
It amazes me how rude people can be - be it having a larger family to infertility, people just say things that are stupid if they actually thought about it. I know a precious family with 6 girls. She was due with her 6th the same week as my 2nd was due and we had a fun time progressing through pregnancy together. I was shocked at the number of people who kept asking (in front of the other kids too) if they were "finally getting their boy this time!" How rude to imply that they only "kept" having kids in hopes of having a boy!

We get that all the time! We have 6 sons and people assume that we are desperate for a girl!
post #51 of 51
A little update: I finally told my mother (I'm 16w today). In some ways, it wasn't as bad as I thought - she seemed happy and congratulated me and understood that this was a genuine surprise. But then she had to go down the whole infertility road, "see? all you needed to do was relax!" She has no idea how insulting that is. Then she said something about how I had told her I have bad eggs - not true, she just missed the entire point of some conversation I had with her around eight years ago regarding IVF. She never did understand the whole infertility thing, and that's fine as long as we don't have to discuss it. I just don't want her going around making hurtful comments to people currently suffering from infertility, like my cousins. She has a tendency to do this without realizing it. I can already hear it - look at your cousin, she never thought she'd have any kids and all she had to do was relax (by the way, yeah, I was really relaxed that weekend we conceived, right around the time one of my five young children had surgery on his spinal cord. right.)

There's plenty of time for my mother to threaten to move in. Just give her time for the shock to wear off. I'm glad I waited as long as I did. Now I'm telling random people all over the place because I'm so embarrassingly fat

On another note, I'm having a big u/s tomorrow and we are not finding out the gender (never have!)


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