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14 days without being asked for milk, until this morning!

post #1 of 7
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My son is approaching 4.5, which is about 5 months longer than I myself was given mama milk. I don't feel at all negative about nursing him, but at the same time I think it will be amazing when he's totally done.

He had been having less and less milk over time, with days going by. Then the last (until this morn) time he nursed, he wanted to touch the side of the "milk" (breast) so he "can remember what it feels like". I don't normally let him touch, he needs hands at his sides, b/c he's a puller tugger pusher twiddly kind of guy and it hurts and I don't like it. I gave him that special permission while just staring at him, thinking "oh gracious, did he just say that?"

Then it was 14 days...I've been journaling each time he nurses b/c I don't want to "miss" the end!

But then this morning after playing on his own for quite awhile (I've been sleeping poorly at night, so he sits next to me while I snooze in the morning and he plays...leads to strange toys under me and one time a ring of swords and tinker toy blasters around me b/c he was playing that he was protecting the princess) he told me he wanted milk.

In as NON negative a tone as possible, just trying to show amazement, I said something like "wow, it's been 14 days, I'm surprised!" He looked at me with a "uh duh" look on his face and said "but I still like your milk". Then he nursed briefly from both sides (he rarely does both sides, that was MY request to reduce the lopsidedness I had been experiencing) and was done.


I wonder how long it will be until the next request??? (I've never needed to offer, so I'm not "not offering" on purpose, it's just that he's never needed me to offer...if he wants milk he asks or lets me know in other ways)


Anyone else have a long, slow introduction to the end of nursing?
post #2 of 7
My dd's younger--she'll be three this week, but she's been averaging 2-3 times per month for the last three months. She really only wants to nurse in the middle of the night--not at all during the day. Last night she nursed and it had been 15 days since the time before. (I've been keeping track too cause I don't want to miss it.) She went from nursing 4-6 times a day at 2.5 to nursing 2-3 times per month 3 months later. It dropped off really fast even though I was offering quite a bit and nursing my son all the time. When she really started slowing down a few months ago, I never thought she'd still be going by her 3rd bday. I'm glad that we made it to three and tandeming was kinda hard for me, but I'll happily nurse her this infrequently for as long as she likes.
post #3 of 7
You mentioned that you were sleeping/dozing while he played, right? Could his asking for your milk been his way of connecting with you since you were kinda not consciously present with him while he played?

Btw, I love the idea of journaling the sessions so as to not miss the last session! I will have to implement that when I get to that point.
post #4 of 7
Yep, my ds2 weaned very slowly. At the end, it was weeks between each request, with the last few being about six weeks apart. I did miss the last session... I don't remember when it happened. But watching him go through the process completely at his own pace is a really good memory for me nonetheless.
post #5 of 7
Both of my boys would go 2-3 weeks between nursing sessions at the end of weaning. They wen ton that way for a few months if I remember correctly.
post #6 of 7
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Originally Posted by PrincessDoll View Post
You mentioned that you were sleeping/dozing while he played, right? Could his asking for your milk been his way of connecting with you since you were kinda not consciously present with him while he played?
It's possible, but we've done that sort of thing for about a year now. He goes to sleep before me and sleeps MUCH better than I do. It takes ages for me to get to sleep, so I'm always much more tired than he is, and he has a bit of a routine, LOL.

*******

After that nursing session I had a trip to go on, which was interesting timing. I was away for 5 days (hubby took off 3 days to hang with our boy, what a nice hubby!). Yesterday morning after I got back the night before, he wanted milk from one side for about a minute. It was cute.

This morning he asked again but I REALLY had to use the bathroom and he didn't ask again after I peed. I should have offered but I haven't actually offered in ages, and by then I was ready to start our day. I'm just glad I can delay him like that when I have a strong need to pee, since he REFUSED to be delayed like that for about 2 years (causing me to become very good at nursing while using the toilet, including pants off and pants on, zipping and buttoning).



So the slow wean continues!
post #7 of 7
Mine weaned at 4.5-5-ish, and he went months between the last few times he nursed. He has a little sister, so I still had some milk for him whenever he asked.

It's a good idea that you're keeping a nursing journal. I don't remember the specifics of the last times T nursed. I do remember, though, that he would come and signal me to nurse him by climbing into bed with me in the morning and wordlessly patting me on the boob. Awwww.

Nealy
mama to T, 5; L, 2; and EDD 12/20/08
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