Being teamed!!!!

[azedazobollis]

Well, finally the prospects are coming in! Our social worker has called us on a few and we said, "yes, oh please please please!!!!!" to a sibling group!

The boy is 14 months and the girl is 6 weeks!!! The newborn has failed 6 hearing tests and they believe she is deaf. Personally, we teach all our babies basic sign, so the thought of all of us learning sign language for real is very exciting for me!!!! They were both prenatally exposed to drugs and alcohol. They have 2 other older siblings in an adoptive home already.

We are only one family in a teaming of 2-4 more families and I dont know when the teaming is, but my worker told me it wouldnt be long for us to have our baby/ babies home since we are medically complex licensed.

Im so excited, I really hope these are our babies. I have had so many dreams and things happen that make this sibling group seem like it was all leading up to them. I had a dream - and my oldest daughter did too the same night that we had a newborn girl but also and older boy who was also a "baby." This dream happened around the time the youngest was born. We were both surprised at the dream because our "request" was for a boy. This was the first time my daughter and I had experienced this together.

[Sierra]

Wow~ exciting! My very best to you!

[MCR]

How exciting. Fingers crossed your little ones are home soon.

[Polliwog]

I've got my fingers crossed that it will be the right match and that you will meet your new additions to your family.

Does deafness, in your area, require a medically trained foster/adoptive family? Just curious.

[azedazobollis]

Finally an update- This Tuesday the 18th is the teaming.

I believe that deafness is part of the medically complex spectrum- and the only reason I have to think this is the fact that WE were teamed with them. I'm pretty sure she was a premie too. Both were drug/ alcohol exposed.

I cant wait to find out if they are OUR babies!

[tiffani]

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[azedazobollis]

I don't know how Im going to sleep tonight. Tomorrow I may become a mother of two more babies. Oh, I pray for this.......::

[Polliwog]

I wish you the best. Let us know when you have news.

[SundayCrepes]

and...?

We lactating adoptive moms are on the edge of our (my) seats....

[tiffani]

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[azedazobollis]

not chosen..... again.....

[tiffani]

oh, I'm so, so, so sorry... I know how heartbreaking that must be. There are all kinds of encouraging things running through my head, but none of that matters right now... big, big hugs to you and yours.

[SundayCrepes]

I'm so sorry

[bodhicitta3]

(((HUGS mama)))

[queenjane]

It really sucks not getting chosen. One day, you'll be glad you werent chosen (when you are holding the child you eventually do adopt), but right now....it just hurts. I still think of some of the kids that i was considered for and didnt get. But i know had i been chosen, i wouldnt have the baby i have now. it doesnt really help at the time though.




Katherine

[azedazobollis]

Thank you.... Im just so bummed. I hate being represented by pieces of paper. It's not that we don't "look good on paper" but our family is just so beautiful and kind and we have so much more to give. My children are so special, they too are so excited for the next baby. My body is ready...... I have all this baby stuff around me, I think I need to pack it all up so Im not looking at it everyday.

[tiffani]

it will happen, and it will be beautiful and magical, and worth the waiting. It's hard to keep up with the lactating when there is no baby in sight, but your baby IS on it's way to you!! I keep reminding myself how much easier it will be when we do finally adopt, as my present children will be older and easier, and more able to help and care for the kiddos alongside me. looking for that silver lining!

hang in there...

[Sierra]

Who knows why they made the decision they did. You never know. Sometimes when two families with which the match is equally good are being considered, it comes down to things as arbitrary as who they know at the office better, who is freshest in their memories, who has been waiting longest, etc. etc.

I have had potential placements not come through, and I know well that feeling of being so very, very bummed. It sucks you had so much lead time during which you knew about these kids...probably gave you just enough time to start getting excited and thinking about what it would be like to have them home. I know I prefer things to fall apart in only a day or two .

I am really sorry. Yeah, I think if it helps you should pack away the baby stuff and just focus on being really present in the moment with your kids. In my experience, there is nothing that feels good about waiting after you've got everything ready.