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post #1 of 6
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: I'm always very outspoken, usually to the dismay of some, but hardly ever myself. Well, I think I may have crossed the activism line....

I'm a secretary for our local concert choir. As such, I have forty-some e-mail addresses in my records. We have a local judge who made an atrocious ruling against a young breastfeeding mom and placed her 5 month old baby in dad's care, who admittedly DUMPS her breastmilk and gives her formula. Every week from 6 pm on Mon until 6 pm on Thurs, the baby must live with dad, as well as one weekend a month. It was an awful ruling, despite several expert witnesses testifying to the detrimental effects resulting. Well, the VP of our choir is constantly sending out political e-mails. Tonight I received one that was in support of this judge, simply because he's approved "right to life." I'd had it, and in a moment of upheaval, I sent out a copy of a recent newspaper article outlining the case and my personal beliefs against this judge... *blush* including to my choir members.

Now I know that this is out of line given my (voluntary) position of authority for the choir. But I was ticked to receive that e-mail. I should have kept it between that VP and myself...not everyone else. I've already received one searing e-mail back, and another person immediately sent me several spam political e-mails obviously opposed to my views.

I'm dreading tomorrow. I know my inbox will be filled with several nasty e-mails...and I don't blame them. How do I take this perpetual foot out of my mouth? I don't regret what I said...but it wasn't the right forum to spread the word on. It was kind of an abuse of my power to have those e-mail addresses. I'm also fairly young compared to everyone else in the choir...by a good twenty years. As such, I tend to get pushed around a lot more.

Anyone else make an activism oops and (almost) immediately regret it?
post #2 of 6
Why don't you just send out another email, stating you realize it was inappropriate to involve your political views with your choir group and you're sorry if anyone was offended and will refrain from using their email for anything other than choir/church related news. Unless they'd like more, in which case they can let you know. It's so easy to just be up front, you'll feel a lot better to just say sorry and be done with it.
post #3 of 6
yeah, I agree with paphia!
post #4 of 6
I don't think that you did anything wrong by RESPONDING to the VPs previous email regarding the judge. If he didn't want to get into a debate, he shouldn't have opened his big mouth by sending out the first email to begin with.
post #5 of 6
I think that you did fine. Silence is agreement. You did the right thing, IMO. If it affects your volunteer position, it's unfortunate. The VP shouldn't be sending out political emails either.

Good luck. Don't dread it, look forward to it. If questioned, say "Silence is agreement and I do not agree." Don't explain more or apologize. I'm curious what the seething email said.
post #6 of 6
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Originally Posted by bens_mommy_2005 View Post
How do I take this perpetual foot out of my mouth? I don't regret what I said...but it wasn't the right forum to spread the word on.
Seems like saying just that would be good.

I let my emotion pour out in an inappropriate way on this very forum, and am having a hard time apologizing b/c the threads I want to start for apologizing are on moderation and haven't popped up yet!

But just apologize - "I felt so strongly about the matter that I let it get the better of my judgment and I apologize." No blaming or flaming or fighting needed. Your sincerity will be appreciated by well-meaning folks!
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