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post #21 of 165
^ Annie had yellow eyes at 7 days...nothing to worry about. it should be gone by day 10, give or take a few days
post #22 of 165
Jasper's eyes are looking a little yellow, too, at 6 days... his jaundice isn't as bad as Adrian's was though, so I'm not concerned.

And no way am I anywhere close to fitting pre-pg clothes! I am jumping on the scale every day and it's pointless. With DS1 I gained 39lbs and by 8 days PP, I had lost 30 of it. This time I started 10lbs heavier, but gained 20lbs, and I have lost 10 or 11lbs... how I've only managed to lose that with a 7.5lb baby, a placenta and fluid etc is beyond me... I want to start exercising!
post #23 of 165
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helppp! someone please take me away from here!!!

im in tears. DS has been screaming everytime he wakes up. its so loud im into the bathroom w/ him to keep the neighbors from hearing and complaining to the landlord. i dont know what to do. i really want some sleep tonight. he's fed, clean, and just seems mad to be awake, the only thing that quiets him is a bottle but i cant keep feeding him. im holding him and at my whits end....stop the screaming!!!
i know you arent bf;ing but could you let him suckle just for comfort? since he's used to bottles, have you tried a pacifier? Zen seems to have a huge urge to suck for comfort...i dont know what i would do w/o the boobies to help that need.

my ds1 also loved the vaccum, and the dryer. omg he was in heaven on top of the dryer (dont leave him though...i put a towel on the dryer and stood in front of him).

AAM: i took both kids out yesterday w/o DP. My friend and I went to the Childrens Museum (an hour away) and then to the HA outlet (they need to STOP hainv sales! lol!). It was interesting....ds3 had a great time and it was our first visit since hte museum moved...but i feel like i just went from one thing to another...changing one's diaper, then another ones...then nursing one and then the other one....I have a really hard time hearing my toddler b/c i wear the baby all the ttime and he tends to speak in a low volume...im trying to figure that out and im sure the bending down is not bad for my abs but man is it tiring! lol!


im feeling weepy about DP also. I have been complaining about the lack of DTD and he is so worried about my "healing". MY MW has basically said "if it hurts dont do it" for everything, including DTD. Poor DP..he tried this morning but baby's eyes popped wide open as soon as I went to the bathroom to brush my teeth! Neither of our cosleepers want any competition! Not that they would have any at this point but i think they are just establishing the routine...ds3 interfers at night...ds4 in the morning..they have their shifts.

Zen is now 2 weeks and 2 days. I just can't believe how much time has flown by. I weighed him the other day (we haven't seen our family dr. yet) and he was 11 lbs. Thats up from 9.12 at birth so Im thinking we are good to go as far as nursing. It was worrying me b/c he doesnt nurse at night but w/ that weight gain, im going to stop worrying and definitely not complain! lol!

My nipples are still sore. i am hoping after a few more weeks it will get much better. DS3 has learned to be more careful, which is a good thing.
post #24 of 165
Ugh, I have a horrible cold. Now in addition to having trouble sleeping because of the LO, I have trouble sleeping cause I can't breathe or swallow. I really hope Carolyn doesn't get sick as well. It would break my heart seeing my little 6 week old baby with an awful cold.

PassionateWriter: Wow, I'm impressed you're up for DTD already! I still have some pain, I'm scared to even try.
post #25 of 165
Joining the weekly thread...

I'm exhausted. My happy baby is getting increasingly unhappy. She's pooping constantly. A lot of the time it isn't a real poop, just gas and a smear, but it leaves poo on her bum that needs wiping. So much wiping is going on that she's developing a rash. When it is a real poo, it's never the happy seedy mustard colored poo I keep looking for. It's an orangey brown and FROTHY. Full of bubbles. And rather mucousy. Plus, yesterday morning I woke up a few minutes before she did, so I was just doing the new parent thing and watching her sleep... she woke up and immediately started spitting up and choking on it. It was coming out of her nose and everything, I had to suction her several times because she kept choking. She's spitting up so much, although it's not a hgue amount every time.

Poor girl is suddenly not able to sleep well because she will wake up to gas or poo. Last night was miserable. I'd nurse her for a couple minutes, she'd poo, we'd change diaper. Begin again. Another poo, another changed diaper. Then she gets mad because my milk flow has slowed down, she already got the fast stuff. Then she spits up. I finally had her settled down at about 4 am, and her diaper leaked when she peed (poor DH changed her dipe to be helpful, he's still learning this process lol). Somehow I managed to get her changed without upsetting her, and I decided I'd put a towel down and sleep on the spot myself (hey, I'm exhausted lol), when she promptly spit up all over the bed. So, 4 am and I'm waking DH up because we have to change the sheets, there is just no space for me and her to sleep without laying in some kind of wetness. She was just so miserable all day yesterday, all she wanted to do was nurse, she would just wail otherwise.

I can only guess that it's allerigies or intolerance, and I'm about to just start the total elimination diet rather than take my time figuring it out one by one. I don't think it could be a foremilk imbalance, her poo is not green, always the same brownish color even though it's frothy and mucousy. Plus I don't have an overactive letdown at all. I don't leak, and milk does not come otu unless there is sucking action going on. If I pull my nipple out of her mouth even during letdown, milk will not come out unless I squeeze.

Well, that was long, and probably pointless lol.. just had to type it out somewhere. It breaks my heart that she seems so miserable. And when she's not hurting she's such a happy, easy going baby.
post #26 of 165
That is EXACTLY what my lo was doing and it was from too much foremilk. Try hand pumping just past letdown? It worked for us! Maybe try only using one side per feed? Maybe you're not feeling letdown? We finally healed the rash with aquaphor. It sucks!

Well, just off the scale- at not quite 4 weeks old my sweet boy is up to 10 pounds!!!! He was only 6 pounds 8 ounces at birth so that seem like quite a gain.
post #27 of 165
Faireshadow do you have a LLL friend/leader? I really think I'd talk with them about the poop issue..... it still sounds like if she gets mad when the milk slows down that she may be stopping after the initial foremilk let down. Also it sounds like she has reflux.. that is NOT always caused by a food intolerance, it can just be her esophagus is not developed enough to hold her food down, in which case some meds can REALLY help her quality of life (and yours) until she grows a bit more and is able to keep that flap closed regularly.

Sorry this was just a run by.... we are seeing a definite improvement in Samuel since starting the meds for reflux on Friday, he's already happier, quieter, and sleeping better. YAY! Still spitting up and crying some.. but not as much as before.
post #28 of 165
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Originally Posted by carolina~mom2be View Post
so grateful for this thread and for a moment with two hands!!! HOORAY!!!! Am I the only one still in maternity clothes?? Nothing fits right....blah! I can't remember how long it took last time to get back into my clothes, but I'm beyond ready!!! My maternity clothes are just sooo worn out looking!!!! I can't even get my pre pregnancy jeans up over my thighs....hmmm I hope they'll fit soon!

Aurora's eyes look a little yellow to me....should I be worried? Anyone else have yellowish eyes at a week old? I feel so new at this newborn stuff even though we've been through it before! It feels like AGES ago!!!!
I'm still in maternity pants! Yep, that's pretty much all that fits. Sucks.

If it'll make you feel better, you can have Aurora's bilirubin levels checked. Ask your ped for a script, it's an outpatient thing. We had to do that with Nora when she was 5 and 6 days old. But her eyes were really yellow and she looked like an oompaloompa.
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Originally Posted by AmamaAgain View Post
helppp! someone please take me away from here!!!

im in tears. DS has been screaming everytime he wakes up. its so loud im into the bathroom w/ him to keep the neighbors from hearing and complaining to the landlord. i dont know what to do. i really want some sleep tonight. he's fed, clean, and just seems mad to be awake, the only thing that quiets him is a bottle but i cant keep feeding him. im holding him and at my whits end....stop the screaming!!!
I recommend a paci. If you aren't already using one, that is. It helped us so much, and considering you aren't bf'ing you don't have to worry about anything with using one! We use the Soothie brand and the Soothie bottles. Since they are the same, the baby doesn't get confused.

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Originally Posted by allibut View Post
Ugh, I have a horrible cold. Now in addition to having trouble sleeping because of the LO, I have trouble sleeping cause I can't breathe or swallow. I really hope Carolyn doesn't get sick as well. It would break my heart seeing my little 6 week old baby with an awful cold.
Aww, mama! Feel better soon! I think my sniffles are just hay fever, but it sure would suck to have a cold right now. I feel for you!


I'm nowhere near ready to DTD. Mentally, yes, but physically hella no. :-)
post #29 of 165
One nipple exceedingly raw. Hurts like hell unless her latch is perfect, which takes several tries. Have unthinkingly cussed at innocent newborn baby upon poor latch. Am horrible mother. Only thing that calms her down is boob. She's not fond of her crib, so been sleeping away from dh because our bed is no good for co-sleeping. Been weepy here too. So hard to hear her cry and not know what she wants. Also, one-handed typing sucks.
post #30 of 165
Amamaagain: Do you think babe could be reacting to the formula you are using? I admit I know nothing about formula but I do often read that some moms have switched to a differnet brand/kind and their babe did better with it.

In my experience, my first two were reacting to dairy through my breastmilk and they acted exactly as you are describing your lo. Once I cut it out they were much calmer. With this lo, I stopped dairy halfway through the pregnancy, also at the beginning of the pregnancy I found out I have Celiac so I'm off gluten too since then. This babe is waaay calmer than my other 2 were (though still a fussy bum), but I don't know how much is personality and how much is diet related.
Hang in there mamas!! It'll get easier as we adjust.

NAK

AAM: 2weeks pp here..doing well..nursing is 'better', still not the BEST latch but it's not the toe-curling pain we had goin on throughout week 1.

I have 3 dc and this past week was my trial run with them alone. It wasn't "too" bad, physically speaking since I'm doing pretty good in that department. I never knew where I tore, it was so small. It was just the afterpains and the tailbone pain getting to me but that's all improved too.

I'm quite irritable now though. Every and anybody is getting to me..My 5yo dd is having major attitude towards me and 3yo dd which in turn ticks me off and I'm definitely not using my 'gentle' voice I'm snapping at dh for every little thing. I haven't really felt the 'cloud of depression' come yet, but I wonder if this is it starting up. I was like this after the other births too...I do have fish oil so I'm goin to up that and see if I'm feeling 'nicer'

The most drama we have around here is my poor 3yo dd. She is having MAJOR separation anxiety due to something that happened a few weeks ago. I posted about it here if anyone has ideas/suggestions. I'm going to look into play therapy today. Not sure if they even have such a thing locally.

Anyway it's noon and I'm still in bed!! (dh has the girls at my IL's. YAY!)
Have a great day everyone. Rest up if you can!
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post #31 of 165
Amamaagain I would also try a paci or switching formula...babe sounds uncomfortable to me...

Ok here is our life...

keir often has a fussy period from about 11-1 in the morning...it's been frustrating cuz all he wants to do is nurse and nipples are still so sore...(though they are getting better thanks to working on latch problems and newmans nipple ointment). He seems gassy, so i'm wary about continually nursing him, but he wont burp. I am lucky to get maybe 3 or 4 burps out of him a day. He has never puked or even spit up a bit, so i'm not sure what to think.

I am a bit worried about weight gain but trying not to be. My boys are small, they start out big but don't gain much. Still I can't help but worry. Keir was born at 8lbs9oz and dropped to 7lbs 14oz....but as of wednesday he was only at 8lbs...so I am pretty sure he is not going to hit his birth weight at two weeks. I am nursing him every couple of hours during the day and he nurses every 2-3 hours at night. So I am trying to remind myself that I just have small kids. Ewan was 7lbs 14oz at birth and 19lbs at a year. Rufus was 7lbs 15oz at birth and 17lbs at a year...and both are perfectly healthy.

As for the ppd front other then my nipples I feel great. My dh and I are really connecting well(I'm so sorry to hear about all the mama's who are missing their dh's, I remember what that was like with my first two) This time around we are making a point of being together even if we are dealing with the boys. It is so nice to have him home and know he doens't have to go back to work until keir is 2.5 months old.

I have lost all my weight plus an addition 12lbs so that feels awesome!! Kinda frustrating that I can't get into a couple pairs of pants though considering I weigh less then I did before getting pregnant, but I know that will come in a few weeks/months.

No ppd blues here at this point so that is good, I had it with Rufus and it was so hard to deal with. Once again I think it's do in a big part to having dh home with me.

So if Keir has put on some weight when my midwife weighs him tomorrow and my nipples continue to get better I will be doing completely awesome.
post #32 of 165
I'm just so happy to be able to participate in the postpartum thread as I was convinced this little guy was never going to arrive! Conley is 4 days old and nursing is going well. He is also a super pooper. I don't remember my other kids having so many bowel movements in one day. But the good thing is that they are seedy breastmilk poops so I know that he is getting what he should.

I am still having a difficult time moving around. One of the staples from my incision prematurely came out and that spot is really really tender. My mw checked it yesterday just to make sure that an infection wasn't starting. I'm having the hardest time at night with pain, trying to maneuver in the bed, either to lay down, get up to use the restroom, or to nurse the baby. And emotionally I'm starting to feel the change in hormones. I'm feeling isolated as I am quaranteened to my bedroom, still not able to tackle the stairs again. I just wish I was able to do more with my 3 other kids right now. but they are in good hands, being spoiled by daddy and grandma.

i hear hand sucking so I am off to nurse Conley.
post #33 of 165
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When do you start being able to nurse w/out all the pillows?!
I'd recommend finding an arm hold that works while propping your elbow against the carseat in the middle of the back seat. I used to switch sides of the car or use the armrest on the door. Now my boobs are saggy enough that I don't have the problem.

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Am I the only one still in maternity clothes?? Anyone else have yellowish eyes at a week old? I feel so new at this newborn stuff even though we've been through it before! It feels like AGES ago!!!!
I've not even tried regular clothes yet-- even though I am within 5 pounds of pre preg weight. I can't imagine the seat of my jeans on my almost healed bum! I need to look at what I can shift to, however, as I will need to start going out soon. I figure I'm still entitled to sweats, as everyone thinks I was just pg yesterday (even though it was 2 weeks ago!)

Susan- I love your kids' names! Welcome to the pp threads!
post #34 of 165
On the clothing front,
I am NOT wearing my pre-preg clothes.. but my maternity clothes were sloppy and driving me batty so I went out and bought a few pants and a couple of skirts in a larger size. But then I'm WAY over my pre-preg weight still, I've only lost like 15 or 16lbs and gained a total of 53.. so a long way to go yet.

Babe is crying again.. guess I'd better go... probably hungry......
post #35 of 165
I have to say it is so encouraging to hear other mamas talk about their challenges. As a new mom, I was really beginning to think that I was alone, or doing something wrong...

I posted on the original PP thread, but will repeat here - thanks to those who replied to me over there!

The long and short f it is that I feel like my LO is inordinately fussy - ALL THE TIME. According to Dr. Sears, it seems I have a high needs baby on my hands. He just never seems happy... We try the techniques from Happiest Baby on the Block, and they work to an extent, or for a moment, and then he is back to just unhappy fussing. If it was crying and screaming I would be looking into acid reflux or something, but he just seems so uncomfortable in his own skin, and he seems to get angrier and angrier until he is grunting and red and frustrated and shouting. He punches, closed fists, scratches, and constantly arches his back... is this normal? He has so few moments where he just sits for a second in his swing or anywhere. It's like he is wearing a itchy sweater that is too tight and hot! I feel so bad for him... but maybe this is just his temperment as an infant?

I am beginning to think he might need a chiropractic adjustment... does anyone have experience with this? I noticed today that when he lays down, his head always has to be arched and turned all the way to the left... he twists it that way when he is upset too. Am I overthinking this? Is it normal that they always have their head facing the same direction?

Thanks everyone for sharing - I look forward to getting to know you ladies better...
post #36 of 165
mama.rye definitely if you already have a chiropractor have him checked out, if not try to find one, they should not have to hold their head the same way all the time. I'm a tad concerned about your baby though, the arching back part is something reflux babies do to lengthen their esphogas and stop the pain from reflux. Maybe he just isn't a 'screamer' but it's still possible he's in pain. It would IMHO be worth a call/visit to your doctor to see what they think of his behavour, because it is possible he has reflux and needs medication or something.

AAM: I know I talk about reflux a lot.... but that's probably because this is my 2nd child to have reflux and it worries me to see him in pain, and I'd hate for anyone's baby to be in pain like this it's just awful .
post #37 of 165
My Eleanor is 3 weeks old today! She's a pretty easygoing baby, but a couple of times she has flat-out *refused* to go to sleep at night - and I mean for 5-6 hours, not just an hour or so (I can deal with that just fine). We eat a lot of potatoes, and I noticed that they seem to make her really gassy so I've cut them out. Hopefully that will help, since when she stays up that long she does seem to be really uncomfortable.

DH and I went out for the first time without her last night. We went to dinner and a play, and were gone for almost 6 hours. My parents and sister came over to watch her. It was actually easier than I thought it would be, partly because she had one of her will-not-sleep nights the night before, and I was REALLY in need of a break from being with her and caring for her all the time. We had a great time and she slept really well last night, so now I'm feeling recharged.

And sorry ladies, but I must say that I was delighted to be back in my pre-pregnancy clothes 2 weeks after having her.... :
post #38 of 165
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mama.rye definitely if you already have a chiropractor have him checked out, if not try to find one, they should not have to hold their head the same way all the time. I'm a tad concerned about your baby though, the arching back part is something reflux babies do to lengthen their esphogas and stop the pain from reflux. Maybe he just isn't a 'screamer' but it's still possible he's in pain. It would IMHO be worth a call/visit to your doctor to see what they think of his behavour, because it is possible he has reflux and needs medication or something.

AAM: I know I talk about reflux a lot.... but that's probably because this is my 2nd child to have reflux and it worries me to see him in pain, and I'd hate for anyone's baby to be in pain like this it's just awful .
thank you SR... i needed to hear that it wasnt normal to constantly turn his head to the left. i am going to look into chiros!

i told the doc about the arching back because i suspected reflux when i first saw it... he told me i am overfeeding the baby, and he may have some GI issues because of that. Miles went from 6.4lbs to 8lbs in 2 weeks! Apparently, this is too much for the pediatrician. Needless to say, I think I am looking for another pediatrician... isn't weight gain good? Besides, his 2 month vaccinations are coming up, and I have so many fears. I dont think this pediatrician is amenable to being in his practice and delaying VAX's! But thats a whole other thread...

also, SR - i am hesitant to try medication... i would love to try some natural remedies first. i am feeding him more often, in smaller amounts. before, he was chugging down every 3 hours, now i am offering the breast every two hours and he is eating less ferociously. the arching seems to have become less frequent. also, gripe water helps somewhat...
any other suggestions for helping with the reflux? i appreciate your input!
post #39 of 165
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helppp! someone please take me away from here!!!

im in tears. DS has been screaming everytime he wakes up. its so loud im into the bathroom w/ him to keep the neighbors from hearing and complaining to the landlord. i dont know what to do. i really want some sleep tonight. he's fed, clean, and just seems mad to be awake, the only thing that quiets him is a bottle but i cant keep feeding him. im holding him and at my whits end....stop the screaming!!!
Mine too. Swaddling - works like a charm. Also love my Sleepy Wrap sling for inside the house and my Ergo for outside - he never cries in either. I also let him suck on my pinky finger when he gets marathon nursey (i.e. has breastd=fed on both sides for a long time) - don't want t use a pacifier and this is not supposed to cause nipple confusion...)
post #40 of 165
I know there are bigger issues being discussed and I'm not trying to make light of any of them b/c I know that our babies are number one right now, and I know there are more important things to think and talk about...

But I feel fat.

I am starting to feel bad about myself and it's making me feel really depressed.

I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
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