Sept. 07 Mama's - November! - Page 7

[mommajb]

posting to say

i don't come here for strife and I hate hurt feelings.

Linus is asleep the the van and can get his robeez off so his feet are bare.:

[leanbh]

Originally Posted by greenmagick

Mrsb422 I am sure that is a weird situation to be in. My mom always says that "they" say that with a very healthy, happy relationship the survivor is able to move on relatively quickly. Its because the the marriage was such a happy experience that they are able to love again and want to be married again. I hope that makes some sense

i couldn't have put it better.

mrsb422: i hope everyone is able to find peace and a bit of joy in this. all of our love to jessica's family. and many happy returns to jack and his fiancee.

[mrsb422]

Hi ladies...hope you are all having a good day. Marty and I were off today (Veteran's Day). I just wanted to apologize if I've made the board awkward. This isn't even my DDC and I feel like I'm ruining it. Sorry

I appreciate everyone's support through everything. I will not discuss Jack and the family anymore. I was really just intending to provide an update to those that had contact with him and wanted to extend congratulations, like I mentioned before. In any event, I'm not discussing it further.

Marty had his flu shot today. I'm kind of peeved about it, but it is mandatory so I can't fight it. THey'll kick him out of school without it. He was really good about it though, so I am thankful for that.

to you all. Have a pleasant evening. :

[greenmagick]

Oh, I like hearing updates, but maybe to keep within the UA we should just get updates on how the boys are, what they are up to, etc?

And I feel this is just as much your ddc now as you have been with us a long time and are a frequent poster

[~Katie~]

Hi ladies...hope you are all having a good day. Marty and I were off today (Veteran's Day). I just wanted to apologize if I've made the board awkward. This isn't even my DDC and I feel like I'm ruining it. Sorry

I appreciate everyone's support through everything. I will not discuss Jack and the family anymore. I was really just intending to provide an update to those that had contact with him and wanted to extend congratulations, like I mentioned before. In any event, I'm not discussing it further.

My intention wasn't to discourage you from updating us about the boys and how they are doing, we all really enjoy hearing updates. Please don't misinterpret my message. What I am concerned about is discussing things particular to Jack that aren't relevant to updates about the boys, that's all. I encourage you to check out the grief and loss board if there are particular things that you do want to discuss.

If anybody feels that they need to speak to me more about this feel free to PM me. And that's all I'm going to say about that

[*jeanine*]

Originally Posted by greenmagick

And I feel this is just as much your ddc now as you have been with us a long time and are a frequent poster

:

[mommajb]

Dh is working late tonight due to a committtee meeting and it leaves me with too much time to think. I should stop making crazy plans for the far future and buckle down for tomorrow's LLL. I want to bake a coffee cake of sorts. Given that it is LLL I am sure that to please everybody it needs to be dairy, egg, gluten, and nut free. I do have 'alternative' flours on hand. Hmmm, ideas ladies? Muffins might be even better but my pan is silicone so they taste a little steamed sometimes. I usually do cheese cubes but my girls are on a cheese strike. :

I am off to get my cook book and then actually plan the meeting.

[*jeanine*]

[QUOTE=KatieJD;12582507] If he hits me I kind of just have to get up and distance myself and explain that it hurts to be hit and I don't like being hit, he seems to slowly be getting the idea. [QUOTE]


This is what I do about hitting and biting, too. When she bites I say "no biting" very firmly and then put her down. With hitting I say something like "No hitting. Give mommy gentles." She usually starts petting me then. If she continues to hit though, I tell her to stop or I'll put her down. If she continues, I put her down. SHe doesn't like it. But she seems to be getting the idea, at least with the biting.

[greenmagick]

One of the first times I "corrected" Cian for biting (besides the pull into breast when they are babies) was so sad. He was nursing, looked up at me, bit and then laughed. I said "no bite" and put him down....wouldnt you know thats when he decided to start signing milk He started crying and signing up and milk. He is awful lately about pinching and its always when I am trying to get him down to sleep. If I remove myself from the situation, he just gets up and starts playing. The boy is just like the rest of us, never wants to sleep:0) Right now he looks exhausted as he only had a 20 minute nap but hes still playing. Lilah fell asleep on the couch next to me, which is amazing. She is starting to put herself to sleep sometimes and its wonderful! (well for naps anyway the 2 or so she takes a wk)

[*jeanine*]

Originally Posted by mommajb

I should stop making crazy plans for the far future and buckle down for tomorrow's LLL. I want to bake a coffee cake of sorts. Given that it is LLL I am sure that to please everybody it needs to be dairy, egg, gluten, and nut free. I do have 'alternative' flours on hand. Hmmm, ideas ladies? Muffins might be even better but my pan is silicone so they taste a little steamed sometimes.

I am off to get my cook book and then actually plan the meeting.

That's why there's no food at my meetings. Of course, if there were maybe someone would show up . I don't plan meetings, either

Are you still sugar-free? I think about you every time I have Halloween candy for breakfast :

Over the weekend I made anise biscotti. It's not dairy-free, egg-free, gluten-free, nut-free, or sugar-free. But it's pretty addicting. In fact, that's what I had for breakfast today instead of Halloween candy

So, do you like your silicone muffin cups? I'm interested in getting some. What do you think of them?

[SweetTexasgal]

I pretty much know the answer to this question, but I am going to ask anyway. Are any of you Mamas giving your 14 month olds whole cow milk? I am getting pressure from family that Lucy really needs to be getting milk to make sure she is getting enough calcium. I kindly remind them that she is nursing still and that she doesn't need cow milk 'cause she is not a calf. Plus her Ped did say that if she was getting yogurt and cheese then that is enough calcium. She loves both.

What do you all think?

[*jeanine*]

Originally Posted by SweetTexasgal

I pretty much know the answer to this question, but I am going to ask anyway. Are any of you Mamas giving your 14 month olds whole cow milk? I am getting pressure from family that Lucy really needs to be getting milk to make sure she is getting enough calcium. I kindly remind them that she is nursing still and that she doesn't need cow milk 'cause she is not a calf. Plus her Ped did say that if she was getting yogurt and cheese then that is enough calcium. She loves both.

What do you all think?

Nope. None of my kids drink it. If I were in your situation, I would say, "I discussed it with my ped, and s/he says between yogurt, cheese, and breast milk she is getting enough calcium." Personally, I don't give a hoot about a pediatrician's view of nutrition, but for people who really think a breast-fed babe needs cows milk, it helps them be supportive if it comes from a "trained professional".

[mrsb422]

Nicole Thanks Point taken. I’ll keep it strictly about Noah and Gavin if I hear anything.

Katie I understand your concerns. I was just venting/thinking out loud I guess and I didn’t really think about it further. He doesn’t log in anymore to the best of my knowledge, but just in case I’ve deleted all my posts regarding this.

Jeanine Thanks mama : I agree with your actions on the hitting. Marty hits as well. Usually with objects, but occasionally it is the big ole’ slap across my face. He only hits me (how lucky). He doesn’t bite anymore (knock on wood) and I hope it stays that way, but for a good while he was biting me too. If I put him down or make him sit somewhere he doesn’t find particularly entertaining he usually gets the message.

Mommajb I don’t know : that is a lot of restrictions. I was really surprised to see this past issue of Mothering even had recipes using box cake mix. I hurried to the recipes because I was curious how they could make such confections using alternatives, but was quickly disappointed. Let us know what you decide…I’m always looking for new recipes :

Michelle Yes, Marty has been on whole milk, in addition to breast milk, since 12 months. I didn’t have a choice because of daycare. If I’d had my way, he’d still be exclusively breastfed. He started off with only soy milk and then I slowly added dairy. The school he’s at now requires a doctor’s note for any and all dietary changes (they provide all meals) so he’s on regular cow milk and it drives me crazy. They even wanted me to bring a doctor’s note so he could have organic milk instead : If you’re giving Lucy other dairy products and/or calcium-rich alternatives then it shouldn’t matter. Humans are the only creatures that drink other animal’s milk, right?

Well Marty fared the night pretty well – only got up twice. I am so tired. We have a big briefing here tomorrow and I’m a little nervous. I don’t usually do presentations so I feel rusty and of course it is for a general. Gotta love that. Nothing like dusting off the old presentation skills when it really counts!! We did go to the mall yesterday – which I absolutely detest – and Marty had two giant glasses of milk, came home, and then did his potty business – he held it the whole time : I was so proud and so surprised all at once. He also scaled a pretend rock wall at Little Gym which freaked me out, but he’s so fearless. Now, of course, he’s climbing everything :

[SweetTexasgal]

Jess-How are you liking The Little Gym? I am thinking of taking Lucy...she is into climbing everything....and I mean everything at my office. I think she need a better play outlet. Plus I am interested to see how she interacts with other kids around her age.

[mrsb422]

Originally Posted by SweetTexasgal

Jess-How are you liking The Little Gym?

I : The Little Gym. It is a little $$ but I feel that it is worth it. Marty has such a good time. He loves interacting with the other children and having an outlet to climb, explore, jump, run, tumble, etc. without getting told no. It is so hard at home. I don't want to tell him no, but I don't want him to get hurt either. This is a safe environment . The curriculum is good, the energy is always high and positive - I can't say enough about it :

[mommajb]

I was disappointed in the recipes too. I mean, given those ingredients who can't make a decent cupcake?

I took raisins which my co-leader considers to be certain death by choking for toddlers, freeze dries corn that happened to be in my basket from another day, and bananas. Another mom brought crackers and cheese. We had great turnout with some nice mothers. Very nice.

milk - we are not dairy free as we do cultured dairy and a bit of cheese so that my mom can figure out what to cook for us. : but none of my children drink cow's milk. We use a variety of substitutes - almond, hemp, soy. We also eat our fair share of greens which are a good calcium source. There are calcium sources other than cow's milk. My kids are all tall and thin, healthy, grow fast when needed, brilliant , and otherwise just fine. Actually, my ped probably thinks they are too skinny but that's another thing.

[ishyfishie]

Hi everyone! : Sorry for the lack of updates lately. We've been busy with playdates and running around a lot lately (not literally--still not walking more than 3-4 steps maybe once every few days!). I'm the new co-moderator of the "natural living & attachment parenting" forum on my local boards, so while it's not a lot of work, I've suddenly met a ton of like-minded local mommies, which is so wonderful. We've been talking cloth diapers and natural cleaning/bath products and babywearing a lot lately!

Of course, that leads to the only other semi-big news in our world...my desire for one more baby has been totally renewed. I don't know if it's seeing these beautiful, sweet kids being raised by AP parents or seeing Lucy playing with other kids, but whatever the case, I want another. I always felt like dh wanted one more but was willing to say, "No, let's just stick with Lucy," because he doesn't want to "put me through it" again, and it seems that I was right once we talked about it. Thanks to the local board, I've met several women who've managed to have midwife-assisted homebirths in the area (really tough around here and very hush-hush a lot of the time), so I'm going to start gently nudging dh toward that. While I probably wouldn't mind rushing out and TTC sooner rather than later, we're thinking we'll probably wait another 6 months at least to see what's happening with dh's job and our new health insurance (his work is changing their insurance carrier Jan. 1st) and give us some time to start saving money. We'll either have to pay out of pocket for a homebirth or at least 20% of everything after a deductible, so we definitely need to pad out our savings before it becomes a reality. Plus I want time to talk to the homebirth midwife/midwives and figure out our options and get dh to warm up to the idea!

That's about it in our world. Lucy's canines are coming in, I think, since all 4 molars have broken through. She's been nursing a TON (and she normally nurses a lot around the clock, so extra is kind of insane lol) and not wanting to eat much, chewing on her hands and books. I ordered her holiday gifts to get it over with! Wooden kitchen, wooden tablewear and tea set, and a couple of playsilks. Now I just have to finish up the last three of the Waldorf dolls I've been working on for the past YEAR!

[*jeanine*]

Originally Posted by mommajb

We use a variety of substitutes - almond, hemp, soy. We also eat our fair share of greens which are a good calcium source. There are calcium sources other than cow's milk.

When talking to a doc about my milk-free (not dairy-free) kids, I always mention that they drink calcium-fortified soy milk and OJ. In reality, they drink way more water than soy or oj, but it always seems to reassure the docs. I don't mention that it's probably crap calcium that it's fortified with, so they probably just pee it out. With docs, ignorance is bliss sometimes. I also don't mention all the greens we eat. That doesn't seem to "count" with the docs we've seen. It's kind of annoying how there's no problem with your kids while they're looking at them. But as soon as they hear they don't drink cows milk, suddenly they must be calcium deficient

[leanbh]

Originally Posted by SweetTexasgal

I pretty much know the answer to this question, but I am going to ask anyway. Are any of you Mamas giving your 14 month olds whole cow milk? I am getting pressure from family that Lucy really needs to be getting milk to make sure she is getting enough calcium. I kindly remind them that she is nursing still and that she doesn't need cow milk 'cause she is not a calf. Plus her Ped did say that if she was getting yogurt and cheese then that is enough calcium. She loves both.

What do you all think?

we give ro whole hormone-free cow's milk. she drinks maybe 2 oz of it through the day. she likes it more than the rice milk, and we're not vegan or even close. we only give it for protein and for a kind of with-snack drink. she doesn't miss it if we don't give it to her, but we have nothing against it as she's been on dairy (yogurt and cheese) since 9 mos. she's never shown any adverse reaction to it.

i'm sure you can get just as much calcium from a good helping of veg or a milk alternative.... or any balanced diet for that matter.

[leanbh]

Originally Posted by mommajb

Dh is working late tonight due to a committtee meeting and it leaves me with too much time to think. I should stop making crazy plans for the far future and buckle down for tomorrow's LLL. I want to bake a coffee cake of sorts. Given that it is LLL I am sure that to please everybody it needs to be dairy, egg, gluten, and nut free. I do have 'alternative' flours on hand. Hmmm, ideas ladies? Muffins might be even better but my pan is silicone so they taste a little steamed sometimes. I usually do cheese cubes but my girls are on a cheese strike. :

I am off to get my cook book and then actually plan the meeting.

namaste does great dairy/egg/gluten/nut free mixes that are available at whole foods.... if that helps. we're gluten free here.. and it blows sometimes.