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post #181 of 280
Speaking of choosing your family -- do you guys have a will or anything in place in case something happens to both of you? Have you legally chosen who would care for your child/ren? DS is *7*. And we still haven't. It's soooo hard. I keep thinking we need to, but who do we choose?
post #182 of 280
And on a lighter note - we're having "Falicia's Curry" for dinner : It's super yummy!

Off to cook....
post #183 of 280
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Originally Posted by jeaninevp922 View Post
Speaking of choosing your family -- do you guys have a will or anything in place in case something happens to both of you? Have you legally chosen who would care for your child/ren? DS is *7*. And we still haven't. It's soooo hard. I keep thinking we need to, but who do we choose?
We do have a will in place. We have chosen my sister and her husband. They have no kids and similar belief systems. I would hate for it to come to that but I think they would be the best choice.

Wendi
post #184 of 280
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And on a lighter note - we're having "Falicia's Curry" for dinner : It's super yummy!

Off to cook....
Aw, YAY! :: I keep meaning to make a list of more easy meals for you, since every time I cook one I think "gosh, Jeanine would totally like this"




Has anyone done/ is anyone doing something for International Babywearing Week? Our little group in Green Bay is doing a walk tomorrow (at the mall since it's :Really. :F&^#**ing.: Cold. but only 3 families are showing up. I've been attempting to make tee shirts with iron on decals and I've yet to be successful. I mean really, I *can* iron.
post #185 of 280
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Originally Posted by jeaninevp922 View Post
Speaking of choosing your family -- do you guys have a will or anything in place in case something happens to both of you? Have you legally chosen who would care for your child/ren? DS is *7*. And we still haven't. It's soooo hard. I keep thinking we need to, but who do we choose?


No. We don't.

We talked about it before Chaya was born, and DH downloaded a will from the internet - but I dunno - does that stand up in court?

Recently, we had the big conversation of "who should take care of Chaya if something happens to us?"

We actually agreed on the person.. and agreed that we could change our minds in a few years.... it's such a strange, hard, uncomfortable and weird conversation to have.




and we still don't have an official will.
post #186 of 280
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Originally Posted by Faliciagayle View Post
We talked about it before Chaya was born, and DH downloaded a will from the internet - but I dunno - does that stand up in court?

.... it's such a strange, hard, uncomfortable and weird conversation to have.
That's a good question - does anyone know if it would stand up in court? I mean, who wants to fork over perfectly good money to an attorney?


We used to think we'd give them to my parents/brother. Like, they could start off with my parents, and as they (my parents) got older, and my brother got more settled, he could take over. Well, he's married now....and let's just say we've decided against that. We've been talking about it again lately and think we want some friends of ours. How on earth do you ask someone who you've only known a couple years (and have 3 kids of their own) if they'd take your kids?
post #187 of 280
Mommajb Ah yes, sleep in the morning is nice…sleep in the night is even better though!! : I wish I could choose my family too!

Jeanine We haven’t done that either : I keep avoiding it and DH isn’t in any hurry either, but it is important. His BIL died when his kids were 3 months and 4 years old. Thankfully he was alone in the car when he crashed, but had his wife been there too things would have been really hard to sort out in terms of the two kids.

Faliciagayle What a cool walk! I wish they had that here, I’d totally do it.
post #188 of 280
MrsB: Here's a link to the whole concept! You might be able to locate a group near you : http://babywearinginternational.org/...earingweek.php




jeanine: C. and I are coming to CA on Tuesday! We'll be there till Dec 2. Any chance you're gonna be in the Bay Area? I'm planning a trip to Sonoma but I think you are further east....

speaking of C., she's starting to fuss.

sigh. And I was just getting into the internet
post #189 of 280
Just jumping in for a sec...

No will here. My parents live nearby and are very close to the kids, so they would be our choice for guardian, I'm sure. My sister might be another choice if she was healthy enough, perhaps if she marries and therefore has someone else to help. After that it would be friends of ours that we've known a long time, have kids similar ages, and similar parenting and beliefs. We've been talking about life insurance more now that our friend has died and his family has to go on without his income, among other things.



Babywearing Walk - we're doing one tomorrow in downtown Houston. It's gonna be a stretch because of the timing and how much else is going on, but I'm planning to be there with Judah. Now to decide what to wear him in! I'm hoping we'll have a good turn out, but it's hard to know! 6-10 would be really nice. I highly doubt we'd have more than that.

We went to the "corn farm" tonight that has a big corn maze and lots of activities for kids (and non-kids!). It was BRRR!! cold! I know some of you may scoff, but we were happily freezing in sub-50° temps. : Oh and lots of wind! When we left the car said it was 46°. Judah wanted to get down from the Calyx I was carrying him in, so I put him down to play in the hay mountain - not interested! He went walking very determinedly across the area to the other side of the play "fort," at which point I finally realized perhaps he was looking for the piglet that we'd seen coming in? I asked him if that's what he wanted, and he lit up, walked straight to the stairs (which I helped him climb), and bee-lined it for the rubbermaid tub the pig was in! He was so taken with it! Of course we thought it was funny that we've been calling HIM Piglet for the last month as he was dressed as Piglet for the harvest party. He didn't even mind when the pig started squawking when she was picked up, but pet her very nicely. And then, he decided he was done, turned around, and headed for the steps! It's always so much fun to go up there! The kids all had a great time.

Well my MIL will be here in 9 days. : And she's staying HERE. And I told her it was fine. And she's still got a hotel reservation, just in case we change our minds. But how do I say, "gee, it might be nice to have some downtime during the visit?" Anyway, we'll see how it goes. Had a nice chat with her for about 30m, so that was good. Then my FIL and his wife come in on Dec 20, and stay until the 27th (save 2 days when they go to DFW). And then my grandmother comes in on the 28th! I guess this is what we get for saying "We're NOT traveling this year!!!"
post #190 of 280
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Survived my MIL visit. Friday night she was pretty embarrassing. I hate going out to dinner with her because of how she acts and treats waitresses, she was extremely rude to the waitress for our food taking a while longer. I'm guessing her steak made a sight-seeing tour of the floor before being cooked Otherwise she was fairly tolerable, so all in all it wasn't too bad.

For the will question, we're going to complete one before Andrew gets deployed. I know our situation is kind of different but it's pretty essential for us to have everything in place should something happen. As for life insurance we're both covered under the Army. I do not trust anyone in either of our families to respect out wishes in raising our kids should something happen to both of us, so I have no idea who we would make guardians in that case.

Heather - I hope the MIL visit goes well!
post #191 of 280
We have no will because we can't figure out who we would want to raise the children. It is terrible but maybe I can hold off on it until ds1 is old enough. I hate the topic.

We have a highschool drama production and lacrosse on the agenda for this afternoon.

Last night was rough. :yawning: Maybe I can sleep through Thoroughly Modern Millie?

Linus is answering yes-no questions very clearly - I love being able to give him what he wants and seeing his face light up at being understood.
post #192 of 280
I keep forgetting to ask...

Is anybody else losing hair again? It is really bothering me. I lost a bunch, it started growing back in and now I am losing bunches again.

Ideas?
post #193 of 280
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I keep forgetting to ask...

Is anybody else losing hair again? It is really bothering me. I lost a bunch, it started growing back in and now I am losing bunches again.

Ideas?
nak, but YES! Mine stopped around 6 months pp, got it cut up to my chin in September and the past few weeks, it's falling out like it did months ago!
post #194 of 280
I am so glad I am not the only one losing hair! I was beginning to worry.
post #195 of 280
The only thing that's changed for me in the past month was the return of AF mid-October, I wonder if it could be related?
post #196 of 280
No legal will here. DHs life insurance goes to his brother and wife if we both die. My mom gets first choice in whether or not she raises the kids. But, she has my brother who is chronically ill and adding two more children just may be too much. So, she gets first "dibs" and if she decides to keep them, the money goes back to her. BIL and SIL get the children otherwise (and we get theirs if something happened to them). The problem is they live in Austin, and I just cant stand the idea of the kids being so far from the rest of their family The money legally goes to them because we are with my mom a lot and DH was worried that we could all be in some kind of accident together and it would make it hard to get the money to the kids.
post #197 of 280
hair loss - no hair loss/no AF.

Speaking of AF - my friend had a baby on Monday, and I was talking to her on the phone yesterday and could hear the little baby squeaks. So cute . But I told her if she makes me ovulate I'm gonna be :,

falicia - what part of the bay area will you be in? i live quite a ways from the bay area but my parents are in marin. and ( we're going to be there for thanksgiving! PM me if you don't want your itinerary floating around in cyberspace.

Katie - glad you survived the visit. I keep meaning to ask, how's Andrew's recovery going?
post #198 of 280
Nicole - since you have a plan, but no legal will... Did you write the plan down somewhere? Or you've all talked about it and agreed to it (and there's no one who would contest it?) I'd still like to know if an informal, written will would stand up in court. Anyone know?
post #199 of 280
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The only thing that's changed for me in the past month was the return of AF mid-October, I wonder if it could be related?
AF had never returned before 15 months which will be Dec 2. There is no sign of an imminent return either. I am down to pre-pregnancy weight and running (or jogging, I'm kinda slow) a bit. Milk supply is good. I am not really in good humor but I am plodding through (seems a little early in the season to feel this way but facts are facts). I am not getting enough sleep and I am eating plenty. I am not taking a vitamin. I want to chalk the hair loss up to that's just how it goes but I do not want to ignore a problem if one exists.
post #200 of 280
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Katie - glad you survived the visit. I keep meaning to ask, how's Andrew's recovery going?
Thanks for asking! The first 5 days were pretty rough on him, the day of surgery and the next day were the hardest for sure. He took meds for pain and to sleep on those days because he had such a bad headache. By day 5 he only had some dryness, and now he doesn't feel any kind of discomfort but his vision isn't considered 100% until 6 months post-op. His vision goes in and out at times but other than that he's doing great.
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