As we choose to tell people around us about our "news," people will open their mouths and who knows what will spill out of it.
I have not really been telling too many people at work. I figured most of them could just figure it out themselves in "due" time (harhar). I did tell a girl I carpool with--you know, just in case I have to puke or something--and she asked if it was a secret. I said I wasn't going to advertise it, but she could use discretion in sharing it. She told a mutual friend of ours. I ran into her in the copy room on Friday. She congratulated me, we made small talk, and then she said:
"Wow! I can't believe how much you are showing already!"
Um, for the record, I've lost three pounds since I found out! I am not even really *that* big to begin with!! Anyway, I know she meant the best, so I stuck out my belly and said, "I know, right?" and went hahahah all the way out the door.
I did also tell the maid of honor in my wedding (we got married 6 months ago). It's the sort of situation where we are sort of on the outs with the friendship, but not in a fighting way (just growing apart naturally). We have a very long history of her just being so negative to the point of me slowly trying to limit contact, because there's not much worth saving in the friendship, unfortunately. However, I do call her from time to time, and figured this was a decent piece of news to share, trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. She has known before I was even engaged to my husband that he was absolutely the one I wanted to have children with and that we wanted to start a family right away. After I told her and she did the congratulations thing, she said, "Well, in my opinion, I really think you guys should have waited longer before you started having children." I said, very snarkily, "Waiting for what? For it to be more convenient on YOUR timetable?" Honestly, we've done everything we've wanted to do together--seen lots of concerts, traveled all around the country, etc. She did apologize later on, and I candidly told her that she should just keep those future opinions to herself! That's the last she really hears me say much about the baby!
I'd love to hear what dumb things people have said to you. I know that most of the time they're probably just trying to mean well or make small talk, but this has potential of getting more awesome by the day.
I have not really been telling too many people at work. I figured most of them could just figure it out themselves in "due" time (harhar). I did tell a girl I carpool with--you know, just in case I have to puke or something--and she asked if it was a secret. I said I wasn't going to advertise it, but she could use discretion in sharing it. She told a mutual friend of ours. I ran into her in the copy room on Friday. She congratulated me, we made small talk, and then she said:
"Wow! I can't believe how much you are showing already!"
Um, for the record, I've lost three pounds since I found out! I am not even really *that* big to begin with!! Anyway, I know she meant the best, so I stuck out my belly and said, "I know, right?" and went hahahah all the way out the door.I did also tell the maid of honor in my wedding (we got married 6 months ago). It's the sort of situation where we are sort of on the outs with the friendship, but not in a fighting way (just growing apart naturally). We have a very long history of her just being so negative to the point of me slowly trying to limit contact, because there's not much worth saving in the friendship, unfortunately. However, I do call her from time to time, and figured this was a decent piece of news to share, trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. She has known before I was even engaged to my husband that he was absolutely the one I wanted to have children with and that we wanted to start a family right away. After I told her and she did the congratulations thing, she said, "Well, in my opinion, I really think you guys should have waited longer before you started having children." I said, very snarkily, "Waiting for what? For it to be more convenient on YOUR timetable?" Honestly, we've done everything we've wanted to do together--seen lots of concerts, traveled all around the country, etc. She did apologize later on, and I candidly told her that she should just keep those future opinions to herself! That's the last she really hears me say much about the baby!
I'd love to hear what dumb things people have said to you. I know that most of the time they're probably just trying to mean well or make small talk, but this has potential of getting more awesome by the day.
Yeah!! But my mom made many a rude comment when we were pregnant #2 (too soon,etc) and then after his birth (he was preemie) about not having anymore, she can't take it. Hmm whatever.
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