Originally Posted by meemee
: yahoo BELOVEDK - good luck with conceiving in AMSTERDAM.
ANNE2008 - breathe mama, just breathe. you are living TOOO MUCH in your head. just forget it. you have no idea how the future is going to go. and i mean this with a lot of love and respect.
please just let it all go. instead of trying to see what's round the corner just take one little step at a time. just see where it leads you. you are spending too much time and effort in what ifs. one day you will wake up and regret all the time you have let go by in ur worrying.
there is no time limit. the most important thing is to feel. to figure out ur feelings, ur instincts. rely on that. some mamas are married even before the year is up. you might feel differently in just 3 months.
i know what i say is the hardest to do. but seriously when you get so worried about the logistics - you kinda lose sight of the real stuff that is happening.
just breathe. and discipline your mind into thinking other thoughts.
I know you're right! I over think things too much, I've always been that way, im such a worrier and wish I wasn't. How do I discipline my mind into thinking other thoughts? -Is that the way to overcome being an obsessive worrier/over-thinker you think?
Originally Posted by mimim
Anne, I would NOT invite over a guy unless I was planning on having sex. Same goes for going to his place. I'd always assume an invite to someone's home meant sex.
Yeah that's how I feel too. Although this guy did make it clear in a text message he wanted to come over to "sit with me before going to work", so he wasn't thinking it would be for sex, but im still not comfortable with it...yet. Hopefully at some point I will be okay with it.
Originally Posted by Seie
As for when to invite a guy into my house. Hey - I'll do that on the first date no problem - if the right connection is there. And I dont let him sleep on the couch..
For when to let him meet the kids - well I am only just starting dating after I left my ex in april so I havent had a chance to introduce anyone yet. I dont think I would introduce a guy to them unless I thought it was a real relationship. Whether that takes 2 or 6 or more months to achieve I dont know.. I believe I will know when the time is right..
Lol Seie you "only just started dating"....it's taken me 6 years to get there! Can I ask which country you live in? because you said in your culture it's normal to sleep with a guy on the first date so im just curious, but really I think that depends on the personality of someone more than the culture. Some people have no problem jumping into that real quick, others want to go slow. Whatever's right for the people involved is the main thing. I personally wouldn't be in any hurry to sleep with the guy, and I'd want to be in a relationship with him before taking that step.
Seie im glad you're date went so well btw