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[musiclady]

Originally Posted by chely7425

I have been BF-ing for almost 7 months and I still am not comfortable just whipping out a boobie!! When people would come and visit I would just go in the bedroom to BF, and we didn't have too many visitors in the hospital. When we did have visitors, if the baby started fussing DH would just say something along the lines of "well, I am glad you guys got to come, but I think baby/mommy is hungry/tired/whatever so we will call when we get home for a longer visit!"

That was such a great way for DH to handle that, and to give you the privacy that you need.

I want to BF if possible, but I also just don't think I'm one of those "whip out a boob kind of girls." And that's okay. Regardless of my comfort level, I would never, EVER stand for someone to criticize me for bfing my kids- but I really do believe that being tactful is the correct choice. If I'm not comfortable whipping it out, then I go somewhere else. I also wouldn't just whip it out (even if I were comfortable) if I were in a situation that would bring undue attention or discomfort to someone else. Being mindful of the circumstances and considerate of others would help me to feel more comfortable in the nursing/bonding environment- I think it will help me to relax and just focus on my sweet babe.

I know the BF debate is heated, and please, no snarking- I just think that we should take care of our babies as we feel comfortable BUT be mindful of those around us too. It's so hard to believe that there are still people who thing bfing is abnormal or bad.....

weird, huh?

And I'm really happy that you have such a supportive husband. He sounds like a wonderful man.

[chely7425]

Originally Posted by musiclady

That was such a great way for DH to handle that, and to give you the privacy that you need.

I want to BF if possible, but I also just don't think I'm one of those "whip out a boob kind of girls." And that's okay. Regardless of my comfort level, I would never, EVER stand for someone to criticize me for bfing my kids- but I really do believe that being tactful is the correct choice. If I'm not comfortable whipping it out, then I go somewhere else. I also wouldn't just whip it out (even if I were comfortable) if I were in a situation that would bring undue attention or discomfort to someone else. Being mindful of the circumstances and considerate of others would help me to feel more comfortable in the nursing/bonding environment- I think it will help me to relax and just focus on my sweet babe.

I know the BF debate is heated, and please, no snarking- I just think that we should take care of our babies as we feel comfortable BUT be mindful of those around us too. It's so hard to believe that there are still people who thing bfing is abnormal or bad.....

weird, huh?

And I'm really happy that you have such a supportive husband. He sounds like a wonderful man.

He is pretty great Now if he could just learn to put his clothes IN he hamper and not right next to it...

I totally agree with you on the BF-ing thing though!! You have to do what is right for you and your baby!!

[fantesia28]

Hi ladies! Wow... I leave to come back to find lots of great advice on BF'g. THANK YOU!! I know this is what I will do, just not sure how long I will continue as I will be going back to work 12 weeks after the baby is born. I am going to try to pump, but if it gets too hard to manage I will be open to looking at other options. I think I have already picked out my pump though... I want the Lansinohl double electric pump. It really has great reviews and the price is so much better than the medela pumps.

Nothing new here really... still constipated. LOL!! I have been adding kiwi to my diet as I read this can sometimes have a laxative effect - no such luck here! It's good to eat though!

Still feeling antsy this week about the baby being okay... I really don't know where this is coming from though. Then silly me goes to find my cervix and feel that it seems kind of opened??? I don't think it really is, maybe this is just from having two kids, but it doesn't help my worry!!! In my heart I feel that everything is okay, but a small part of me keeps worrying. Maybe it's because since being here on the boards I see so many losses... it makes me feel like it happens very frequently. I have no reason to suspect anything is wrong... I feel pregnant, am tired, sick, and we saw a beautiful heartbeat a couple of weeks ago. I have another doctor's appt. Thursday and I am pretty sure he will do another U/S. I have to say that I think I am more anxious for this appt. than prior appts. Maybe it's because I just want to see for myself that my little bean is still growing. I have also felt a little crampy, but this could be the constipation or maybe my uterus growing... afterall it's about the size of a large grapefruit now. LOL!

Well, I better get back to work... Willowsmom... I am still waiting on that recipe. LOL!!

[willowsmom]

Freaking. Out.

At least inwardly. Having the sono tomorrow morning. I want so badly for this baby to be a-ok and growing and all of that good snot. But what the heck am I still pinky watery toilet paper staining for??!?!

No red blood on my underwear... nothing on my underwear, in fact. It's ONLY on the toilet paper. No horrible cramping.

*sigh*

I just want everything to be ok.

[boscopup]

Originally Posted by fantesia28

Then silly me goes to find my cervix and feel that it seems kind of opened??? I don't think it really is, maybe this is just from having two kids, but it doesn't help my worry!!!

I'm pretty sure once you've had a couple kids, it's normal for the cervix to be open a tad throughout pregnancy. You could always double check by asking in the I'm Pregnant forum though, as there are midwives there who have seen a million multip cervixes.

[Carlin]

Hi all.

I haven't posted much but have been reading everyone's posts. So : : etc. for everyone who needs them. Just pick the appropriate smilie

The whole shortness of breath thing is really starting to get to me. It's not just when I'm active, it's all the time. Even just sitting at my desk or on the couch.

I'm thinking of calling my midwife and seeing if I should get my iron levels checked, or just starting a supplement like floradix to make sure I'm not anemic. My prenatals should have plenty of iron but they have calcium too, which might be blocking absorption... Is anyone taking additional iron supplements? Is it dangerous to have to much? Other than that I guess I'm doing OK. The nausea is a bit worse, but not nearly what some of you are suffering from and I'm sooooo tired.

I do really like looking at the various week by week development sites. It's neat that the baby has digital rays now :

[musiclady]

Originally Posted by willowsmom

Freaking. Out.

At least inwardly. Having the sono tomorrow morning. I want so badly for this baby to be a-ok and growing and all of that good snot. But what the heck am I still pinky watery toilet paper staining for??!?!

No red blood on my underwear... nothing on my underwear, in fact. It's ONLY on the toilet paper. No horrible cramping.

*sigh*

I just want everything to be ok.

I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow morning. Please post and let us know. Definitely tell your dr about the pinky stuff, and hopefully he can ease your mind.

I'm hoping for you to see a great sonogram!!! :

[Ianthe]

Originally Posted by willowsmom

Freaking. Out.

At least inwardly. Having the sono tomorrow morning. I want so badly for this baby to be a-ok and growing and all of that good snot. But what the heck am I still pinky watery toilet paper staining for??!?!

No red blood on my underwear... nothing on my underwear, in fact. It's ONLY on the toilet paper. No horrible cramping.

*sigh*

I just want everything to be ok.

I think everything will turn out just fine tomorrow. Get some good rest and try not to sress

[willowsmom]

*nods* 12 hours and we'll know.

I did go to the bathroom a bit ago and whatever spotting I had was brownish... so... that was cool. lol

[BlissfullyLoving]

Originally Posted by willowsmom

*nods* 12 hours and we'll know.

I did go to the bathroom a bit ago and whatever spotting I had was brownish... so... that was cool. lol

Thinking of you.

[fantesia28]

Originally Posted by willowsmom

*nods* 12 hours and we'll know.

I did go to the bathroom a bit ago and whatever spotting I had was brownish... so... that was cool. lol

I will be thinking about you today... I am sure things are okay, keep us posted!!! Hugs!!


Nothing new to report here really... we went and voted last night and then went out for Mexican. YUMMY!! Then I felt sick all evening. : Oh well... it was good while I was eating it.

I am still SUPER constipated. I have been taking 1 - 100mg colace tablet each night but it doesn't appear to be doing anything?? I also have been eating 1 kiwi a day which I read was supposed to have a laxative affect?? Nothing seems to be working... I feel heavy and bloated from all the poo!! Sorry TMI!!

I have my doctors appointment tomorrow at 1pm... I suspect he will do another U/S to check on my little one. I am sure things are fine, but I will say I am super anxious to see it's little heart beating and some growth tomorrow.

Has anyone been having problems sleeping or not really sleeping, but just being restless? I have been dreaming a ton (don't usually remember the dreams though) and seem to wake up constantly and then of course I have to go potty 20x a night. Okay, maybe only 5 times but that is bad enough!!

Well, I better get to work... got lots to do today!! I hope everyone has a nice day!

[happyhippimama]

Originally Posted by willowsmom

*nods* 12 hours and we'll know.

I did go to the bathroom a bit ago and whatever spotting I had was brownish... so... that was cool. lol

[BlissfullyLoving]

Originally Posted by fantesia28

I am still SUPER constipated. I have been taking 1 - 100mg colace tablet each night but it doesn't appear to be doing anything?? I also have been eating 1 kiwi a day which I read was supposed to have a laxative affect?? Nothing seems to be working... I feel heavy and bloated from all the poo!! Sorry TMI!!

I have my doctors appointment tomorrow at 1pm... I suspect he will do another U/S to check on my little one. I am sure things are fine, but I will say I am super anxious to see it's little heart beating and some growth tomorrow.

Has anyone been having problems sleeping or not really sleeping, but just being restless? I have been dreaming a ton (don't usually remember the dreams though) and seem to wake up constantly and then of course I have to go potty 20x a night. Okay, maybe only 5 times but that is bad enough!!

Well, I better get to work... got lots to do today!! I hope everyone has a nice day!

In my experience for fruit to have a laxative effect you need to eat A LOT. Try eating as much kiwi as you can tolerate a day to see if that helps. Sorry that you are so uncomfortable.

Good luck at your appt tomorrow.

Yes, I have been having sleep disturbances, but they have gotten better. I still wake every few hours, but it is easier for me to get back to sleep.

[midnightmommy]

Good morning mamas! I had my first appointment yesterday. It was just the interview appointment, so I spent ten minutes with a nurse transferring my info from last pregnancy to this one. Such a waste of paper. Then we spent thirty minutes talking horses! She and I both trail ride, and are both members of the same group. She was really nice, and definitely what I needed. She basically said if I wanted an ultrasound I could have one, and have all the blood work in the world, but it's still all wait and see. I knew that, but it was so nice to hear honesty instead of someone being too positive yk?

Oh! There is a new breastfeeding store and resource here. I got a bunch of promo stuff during my appointment. They was a breastfeeding do not disturb sign in there. The hospital over here has those for the doors in the maternity ward. When our friends had their baby they clearly kick everyone out to nurse. I plan to do the same. My in-laws liked to hover while my SIL were nursing and neither of us liked it. It's just uncomfortable. MIL may have been an open nurser, but I am not. I gave up with my son because at the time we were living with IL and I had no privacy. FIL thought nothing of marching up the stairs and coming in our bedroom while I was nursing. My the milk would just stop right then and there. Now we live two hours away though, so I'll only have to deal with booting them out when they visit.

[fantesia28]

Thanks Bliss! I may have to try eating more! I just finished off some watermellon with my bagel. Maybe I will eat a couple of kiwi's today throughout the course of the day.

I do find I am super tired so I know I want to sleep... I do sleep, just sometimes doesn't feel like I am sleeping soundly if that makes any sense. LOL!

On a good note... my bb's are starting to get a little less sore. Still very sore, but not nearly as bad as they were.

[fantesia28]

Hey Ash! Glad to hear your appointment went well! I am right there with you on bf'g around a crowd. It doesn't make me feel comfortable at all. My DH has never been exposed to bf'g (we didn't BF our other babies), so he is like well when we go somewhere or someone comes over you can just pump and feed from a bottle. Uhm... no, I don't think I am going to want to do that every time!! We get a lot of company and are never home... I don't plan to pump everytime I want to run out!! I think this will be a learning process for both of us!

[BlissfullyLoving]

Originally Posted by midnightmommy

Good morning mamas! I had my first appointment yesterday. It was just the interview appointment, so I spent ten minutes with a nurse transferring my info from last pregnancy to this one. Such a waste of paper. Then we spent thirty minutes talking horses! She and I both trail ride, and are both members of the same group. She was really nice, and definitely what I needed. She basically said if I wanted an ultrasound I could have one, and have all the blood work in the world, but it's still all wait and see. I knew that, but it was so nice to hear honesty instead of someone being too positive yk?

Oh! There is a new breastfeeding store and resource here. I got a bunch of promo stuff during my appointment. They was a breastfeeding do not disturb sign in there. The hospital over here has those for the doors in the maternity ward. When our friends had their baby they clearly kick everyone out to nurse. I plan to do the same. My in-laws liked to hover while my SIL were nursing and neither of us liked it. It's just uncomfortable. MIL may have been an open nurser, but I am not. I gave up with my son because at the time we were living with IL and I had no privacy. FIL thought nothing of marching up the stairs and coming in our bedroom while I was nursing. My the milk would just stop right then and there. Now we live two hours away though, so I'll only have to deal with booting them out when they visit.

Sounds like you had a great appt!

The story of your in-laws reminded me of how uncomfortable my mil made me feel when ds was an infant. I nursed anywhere. We were out and about a lot. The only place I ever felt uncomfortable (after getting used to nursing in public) was with my MIL. She had this really strange hovering presence that would completely invade my personal space ONLY when I nursed. She did not breastfeed her own children, and I had a great nursing experience, so I could not figure out what she was doing. Dh asked her if she was going in for a taste once...that is how close she was to me!

Originally Posted by fantesia28

Thanks Bliss! I may have to try eating more! I just finished off some watermellon with my bagel. Maybe I will eat a couple of kiwi's today throughout the course of the day.

I do find I am super tired so I know I want to sleep... I do sleep, just sometimes doesn't feel like I am sleeping soundly if that makes any sense. LOL!

Sounds good. I would just eat as much as you can tolerate.

[beachcomber]

HI everyone,

My week's been going okay. Very busy and a couple of late nights at work this week. I arranged for DH to pick me up from the bus because I had to work late last night. He gets me at it's mall stop. But then the bus driver just skipped it because he thought the bus was empty and he was going out of service. So he's roaring down the highway and I look up and FREAK OUT. He lets me off at a busy intersection, I call hubby who comes to get me and then I realize I've left a bag on teh bus in my panic. Buh. Not a great trip home last night. But it all ended well with very little panic.

My adorable preschooler is now in her big girl bed and slowly adapting to the transition. We bought it for her over the weekend. She likes it enough but is still doing a lot of night waking. Last night was particularly bad and I was in with her most of the night. She still kept waking about every 1/2 hour from midnight to 3 am. I'm really exhausted today because of it.

[BlissfullyLoving]

beachcomber- Sorry about the crummy day. The bus ride sounds a little crazy. I hope your dd gets used to sleeping alone, so you both can get some good rest.

I had this crazy dream this morning. I was pregnant, but we got pregnant through donor eggs. The donor was a friend of mine, and they (her and her husband) went to our prenatals with us. It was so strange. I started getting nervous that she wanted to keep the baby because she was so involved. Oh, and we got our prenatal care at a mall. The office was in a JCPenney or Sears! It was so weird.

The last weird part about the dream is that I decided to take another hpt. It was a digital one, but it said how much hcg is in your urine. The test itself was fading between pregnant and not pregnant (like it could not decide). Then it stuck with pregnant, but it said I only had 37% hcg. It was so weird! I went to the mall office appt after, heard the heartbeat, and everything was fine. Crazy dreams.

I enjoyed the one after that much more.

[willowsmom]

Looks like I'm on strict bed rest until Monday when I get my blood work done.
This really sucks.